I’m 28 years old and all of my social media feeds are filled with engagements, weddings, and babies. I’ve attended more weddings in the past year than I have in my whole life. And now I’m joining the ranks.
If you’ve been a long-time blog reader, you’ll know that I have had strong doubts about marriage. I’ve also been pretty jaded when it comes to love and relationships due to my past. But alas, things change.
My fiancé (eeeek) Matt and I have been dating for over 5 years. We were friends of friends in college, so we weren’t complete strangers when we went on our first date. You can read how we met here.
One thing that has always been really important to me in our relationship is having control. In other relationships, I’ve either had no control or was constantly being rushed into things I wasn’t ready for. Matt basically let me take the lead, out of necessity, because if he had done any of these big things first I probably would’ve hit the ground running and never looked back.
I asked him out on our first date, I officialized our relationship, I said I love you first, and I said let’s get engaged.
He was just basically waiting for me to be okay with all of those things and that’s why I love him.
So yea we were getting ready for bed one night and doing our usual chat and goof around and I told him I wanted to get engaged and I wanted a sparkly ring so he should start doing that.
And he did! I gave him lots of inspo to work of off, but let him take the lead in the ring. On Halloween he showed it to me during a commercial of Jennifer’s Body (questionable choice, but it makes a good story) and I cried lol.
The second half of our plan was to set up engagement pictures and announce it to the world that way. Because I didn’t want an elaborate on-one-knee engagement, but I did want cute pictures of course. After we set that up, and confirmed when we got the photos back, I told my family. I got my nieces and nephew involved and had them run up and tell their mom (my sister). Then facetimed the rest of the fam (who thought my nieces and nephew were kidding) and announced it on social media for the rest of the world.
The rest is history! Even though I did everything in my power to not make it a big thing, it was still quite stressful for me lol. But I wouldn’t have done it any other way!