If at first you don’t succeed, try and try again. This doesn’t apply to failing relationships, so stop trying and trying again when you already know it’s not going to work out.
I’m completely guilty of double, triple, quadruple thinking my decisions especially when it comes to relationships. After ending something I often wonder if I cut it off too abruptly, if I’m lonely now because I was meant to be with them, if maybe we could work if I just gave it a third chance.
And in my experience, the relationship had died, is still dead, and does not need to be revived.
Nostalgia brings up so many emotions, especially when you’re feeling lonely. It might seem like a good idea to send a text to your ex and see if you can still get that attention you need. But in most cases, it’s not a good idea.
Remember all the reasons you broke up in the first place? The distance. The fighting. The cheating. The lying. The mistrust. Whatever it may have been – none of that has changed. All of the words exchanged can’t be forgotten and all of the pain that you went through will come back again when trying to rekindle an old flame.
Maybe you can give them a second chance, if all of the circumstances seem to be different this time. But a third chance is pushing it. A fourth chance is overdoing it. A fifth chance is just nonsense.
It’s not going to work, it’s never going to work. Stop trying to dredge up the past just to make yourself feel better. In the end, it will probably only make you feel worse.
Rosie Culture 
Wise words.
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Thank you 🙂
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I love your choice of photo 😉
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Thanks 🙂
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It’s funny. In so many other aspects of our lives, we don’t rethink our decisions five times! But in relationships, I think we’re so afraid of making a wrong turn that we keep trying to play out all scenarios until we get impossibly muddled!
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So true! Love does crazy things to our brains
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Wisdom indeed…but so much easier said than done 😵😅
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Very true!!
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What’s that old adage – Fool me once, shame on you, fool me twice, shame on me?
Granted, that’s not how I function…I tend to be a glutton for punishment.
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I can relate to that!
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Great post.
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As someone whose relationship has now become another covid-casualty, this post hit home today.
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Ugh I’m so sorry 💕 that’s so hard
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you are absolutely right!!
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Very true. The relationship can morph into something new, but never revisit the old relationship, it will never work out. No matter how much you wish it could
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Unfortunately, I have been trying to fix my relationship several times this year. Until I realized, it won’t be fixed unless both parties are willing to work it out together. Luckily, I gave up last month and decided to end this and move on. I felt relieved since. 🙌
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Good for you! Wishing you all the best ❤️
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Thanks! 🙏
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