Growing up as a millennial was kind of weird because we were introduced to the internet at a young age and there just weren’t any rules.
As a preteen I was on MySpace, blogging, going on to chat rooms and that was just kind of normal. Internet safety wasn’t talked about that much besides “don’t put where you live online.”
And we all kind of just put all our thoughts and all our photos out there without a care. I was talking to strangers on the daily as a 13-year-old and didn’t think that much of it.
Now basically anyone who reaches any kind of fame will have their pasts dug into and unfortunately that means a lot of dumb things said by a lot of dumb kids are being taken very seriously now.
I do believe some people deserve to be cancelled for the things they’ve done/said/tweeted. But I also think we’re taking shit way too far.
I’ll be the first to admit that I wasn’t always nice and made fun of people in high school and college because that’s the only thing we knew. I have said mean things about people to make myself feel better and without caring what it meant to that person. All the same has been done to me. I’ve said unsavory things online when I was 13 because no one told me not to – and really no one ever told me the things I was saying were wrong!
I grew up in a predominantly white suburban middle class community. I grew up with Catholic teachings that said one way was right and the other was wrong. I wasn’t a bad kid, I didn’t do bad things to people, but I definitely wouldn’t have said some things knowing what I know now.
I think it especially rings true for the generation that grew up with the internet. Obviously everything is case by case and if you were tweeting racist things 2 years ago vs 20 years ago. In general we all should have known better no matter the timeframe, but some people know better now and I think that should be accounted for.
The thing that really irks me about this kind of cancel culture is the disbelief that PEOPLE CHANGE. And they change A LOT especially in 10 year time spans. I’m sure some people don’t, but most people grow and experience new things and come to realize that they could’ve been a better person.
Someone I follow on tiktok recently had to post an apology video for body-shaming someone in college. Should she have done it? No. Would she do it now as an adult? I don’t know, but I know as an adult I certainly know better now than I did in college even.
I wish I had been a perfect person, I’m sure most people wish that they had just been a polite, accepting, person their whole lives. But it’s not the reality for most people and I think taking account for if people have bettered themselves goes a long way in cancel culture.