The trouble with people who are over-eager is that we are often over-everything. We are over-thinkers, we are over-dramatic, we over-romanticize, we are overwhelmed.
So getting too excited about things just comes with the territory. Because one small possibility opens up so many doors for us. We non stop think about how this could work out in the future or how it could go wrong. The thoughts basically consume us.
Over-eagerness in relationships is especially troublesome. In general, I think a lot of people are eager to fall in love. But while those people are very understanding to why things don’t work out or are calm, cool, and collected on dates – we are freaking out.
And it’s not because we fell head over heels in love on the first date – but because we can see all the possibilities. Because we are constantly thinking about the future and, when we meet someone, how they can become part of our future.
So we get a little over-eager. We want to send a thousand text messages. We want to tell them they’re a great kisser or how much fun we had like a million times. We want to hang out with them again right away. Because we are eager and straight forward and just have too much on our minds to not be that way.
But we scare people off, unfortunately. Because they’re just normal people who don’t overthink every single thing. Who don’t feel the need to rush. Who aren’t constantly worrying about the future.
When we try to hide our over-eagerness we often come off as not eager enough. We don’t want to scare you away, but we also don’t want you to think we don’t care.
Over-eager people just need to learn to embrace the crazy. Eventually you’ll meet someone who also embraces your crazy. Stay excited, tell people you care, but maybe dial it down two notches if you don’t want to chase away every first date.
Rosie Culture 
After a first date, or in the first week of dating, I am already visualising what it would be like to move in together, meeting her friends, her meeting mine, meeting both sets of parents etc etc. I do tend to keep this thoughts in my head though. Though if it looks like it is going well I’ll try (in the most Hugh Grant-ish sort of way) of bumbling out how I feel and what I hope to happen.
Nice post! 🙂 x
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Me too lol I think my bumbling is not charming enough though, mostly just kind of crazy
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adorable pic!
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Thanks! I got it off Flickr 🙂
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I love this! I am/was totally overeager and I really have embraced my crazy. And it’s working! Great post!
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Thank you!! Good for you for embracing it 🙂
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Brilliant post Rosie, so relatable! Would you mind if I reblog?
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Thank you! Go right ahead 🙂
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Amen, sister
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Nice
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I am so over eager that some people don’t know what to think. I probably turn more people off that way. I’m a people pleaser and that gets me into trouble.
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Me too! I just always want to express me feelings
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love it
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I think we’ve all been the overeager one in a relationship or on a date at one time or another. I think most of us who have been on dates with more than one or two people have met somebody who we just *have* to speak to and see again right away.
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True! I think everyone experiences this, I just experience it like alllll the time lol
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Reblogged this on GUM | Growing Up Millennial.
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Hello from another over eager person 😷
Great post! ☺
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Thanks 🙂
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I’m defy guilty of being over keen when I like someone and I’m always wanting to say ‘I love you’ really soon. Over-Eager yep that’s me. xx
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haah me too! It’s a struggle
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Great post 😁
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This is so relatable. I’m going through this right now and I’m trying to hold
myself back but it ends up being just more stressful. Definitely nice to hear there’s others like me out there 😅
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Life is so complicated sometimes all we can do is our best. Excellent post! I don’t know if you like affirmations but I make a new one every monday for each week and release it with a bit of weekly inspiration. If you do check out my blog page. I also do a weekly discussion this weeks post is share a situation you over came and how you did it so we can promote ideas for others in a similar situation. That one you may enjoy adding your two cents in 😃 ❤ Have a Great Day and Always Keep Your Head Up!
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Love this post! I’m over eager as well, which is probably why I married Mr. Calm.
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It’s the opposite for me. My lack of rushing into things gets interpreted as lack of interest.
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I am over-eager about my solo things, but not so much about relationships. There, I’m more cautious about planning with a future mindset. Instead, I just try to enjoy the moment while it lasts.
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Great read. Your words definitely resonated with me.
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Brilliantly written
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Thank you!
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Brillant post ❣ well described
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Over eagerness is good as you can think about all the possibilities that can happen in future and act accordingly 🙂
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Now I know why my intended relationship crashed.
I was over eager without knowing that the girl is not even eager.
It made me waste my precious energy and time thinking I have found my precious gold. But no!
It was just a coal😅
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Very relatable post. It’s easy to get carried away by thoughts and experience every emotion as though through a megaphone. Thank you for writing this.
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