Seeing Everything As Temporary

I’m a pessimist. Not because I see the world as only bad, even though it seems that way a lot of the time. But I’m a pessimist because I always expect the worst – that way I’m rarely ever disappointed.

I don’t like to get my hopes up just to be let down. It’s happened so many times before. So I’ve just started treating life decisions as temporary. We’ll temporarily move out of state. We’ll temporarily date. I’ll temporarily take this job.

Because I look at it as all good things eventually come to an end and if I make the decision as a temporary one, I’m less disappointed when it doesn’t work out.

But it’s safe to say a lot of my temporary decisions are becoming more and more permanent. And by treating them the way I’m treating them, I’m held back. I don’t have any forward thinking. At some point, these things just aren’t temporary anymore and i need to make some real decisions about my life.

15 thoughts on “Seeing Everything As Temporary

  1. Sometimes thinking like that is a good thing. I think it can help you take chances. Moving away, giving someone a chance, spending money on a trip. It’s a good thing to have the mentality that it’s not permanent and you could always change things if you want. But I understand you recognizing that some things may require a bit more commitment, such as relationships or careers.

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  2. I was the same way at your age. It was my safety net. Time changes and a decade from now you might see the world in a different way. It’s a scary thought to take a chance on something knowing you can fail. It took me a long time to take that chance but I’m glad I did. Every year you are growing. You may not see it, but you are.

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  3. I agree. Something about the idea of temporary makes it easier to do just about anything but sometimes you just dont know what you’ve gotten yourselves into.

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  4. I think my version to this is to become more attached to the goal than the process, which can be a problem in itself. I know what I want and I’ll change whatever plans I need to change to make that goal happen. Sometimes, that means leaving people behind.

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    1. I can definitely relate to that. I’ve been that way for many years, I think that’s why I force things into temporary positions. Now I’ve gotten to a point where I need to start thinking of others, which is difficult when we’re so independent!


      1. I tried that in marriage and it came back to bite me in the butt, so I think I’m better off minding my own business and spending my resources on me. 😂 …if not forever, then at least for now!

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  5. Maybe try focussing in on where you really want to be – what is the ultimate goal? Be that a location, a lifestyle, a career – whatever it is you come up with… focus on that for now. That ultimate goal may be a little vague right now, but it will become clearer over time, it may even change slightly… but your every day decisions are to get you there. The path is as yet unknown, but each decision you take from here on is helping you achieve that ultimate goal.

    ‘Temporary’ isn’t a problem, as long as you are moving forward – and nothing has to be permanent if you don’t want it to be. Keep your chin up, keep moving no matter how small the steps need to be at times, you got this!

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