Once upon a time I got dumped and just did not know how to deal. I felt like I had failed the relationship, my boyfriend, myself. I thought I didn’t really deserve to fall in love again – like I had missed my chance.
And time and time again I was thrown into dating scenarios where everything I thought after that break up was confirmed. I was treated poorly. I treated people poorly. I had no sense of “I deserve better than this” or “I can be better.” I didn’t think those things, I accepted the insults and the cheating and the lies. I reciprocated them happily. I accepted the horrible treatment because I felt like a horrible person.
Even when I came around to realizing that I’m not a horrible person, the dating scenarios never changed. I became happier and better only to still not have the wholesome relationship that I had been missing ever since the initial break up.
But just because people treat you poorly, it doesn’t mean you deserve it. If you want happiness, happiness will find you. But if you accept those sucky people and their half assed love, that’s all you’ll keep getting.
You don’t have to settle. I know it kind of gets to a point where you assume all people are just bad people and you’ll never have a good relationship – but that’s not the case. There are unicorns. There are people who will prove all of your other relationships wrong. They are the ones that will show you what you deserve. And it’s just around the corner if you stop giving the bad people a shot just because you’re lonely. It’s hard, we cling to the people who give us attention. We cling even harder to the people who give us the attention then cruelly snatch it away.
But no matter who you are, what you have done, or where you have been – stop accepting the bad love that you think you deserve. You deserve better.
Rosie Culture 
Yes! There are unicorns because you’re someone’s unicorn as well if you think about it. If another person can be that rare find for you, that means to another person you’re the rare find. ❤
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That is something nice to think about, that you are someone’s unicorn 🙂
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Lovely post☺️💕
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Thank you!! 🙂
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So true!! Continually amazed at the quality of your posts
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aw thank you so much 🙂
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Awesome post!
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Thank you!
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Beautifully written, beautifully said.. 💓
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Thanks 🙂
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So true …great post indeed..every relation is a learning experience 😊
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So true. It’s beautifully sad but it expresses how people are too afraid to just love. Love each other, love people. ❤ Great post.
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So true, we are quick to be hateful and slow to love
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Nice post! How would you know the good when you didn’t experience the bad? ..I’m sure things will be great now as you are now prepared for it! …you just have to follow your heart and go with the experiences of life no matter what happens…at the end its your life… Be silly… Be kind…do things which you like… There is always time for everything else! 🙂
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“You don’t have to settle.” This is the real deal. I’ve been on that situation wherein I felt so not good about myself so I started treating myself poorly and I thought settling will make me happy. Maybe most of us really had to get through shit like that and learn from it. These were worth it anyway. I grew a lot. This is a good piece 🙂
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Yes I did the same thing! I grew a lot from it but it was a tough time. Thanks for reading 🙂
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Reblogged this on GUM | Growing Up Millennial.
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Thanks for reblogging 🙂
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Of course! Thank you for maintaining a quality blog!
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“We cling even harder to the people who give us the attention then cruelly snatch it away.” So true.
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A wonderful message and I hope your readers take it to heart!
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This is a powerful and necessary message… how can be so hard to put into action sometimes?
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“Stop accepting the bad love that you think you deserve ” I feel this statement is for me… I always feel like I need to do more to win his love, even when he doesn’t treat me right. I know better now!
I won’t settle for less
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Beautiful and I’m glad you’ve embarked on this beautiful healing journey
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So many people have gone through this experience. You express it well.
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