How Hopeless I Felt When I Was Single

I’m not sure why being single seems like it’s the end of the world. I guess no matter how hard I looked at it, no one looked as happy when they were single as they did when they were in a relationship.

There was a good chunk of time for me when being single was like torture. There was also a time where I held onto it real tight, avoiding every relationship possible.

But I never really stopped feeling hopeless. When I was happy being single, I still got lonely. My friends all were in relationships and when they were off doing their boyfriend/girlfriend thing, I was alone. It taught me to be by myself, but it made me think I would always be by myself. When I started to become comfortable alone and do well by myself, I felt even more hopeless that I would never find what my friends had. That I would never find what I was reading about in books or binge watching on Netflix.

And when I was sad being single, I was more than hopeless. I felt that I was hard to love. There had been a time where I had given the boy I loved everything. But then I felt like I had nothing left to give.

It’s normal to feel hopeless when you’re single, whether you’re happy or sad. But even when you give up on yourself, the person that’s right for you won’t be giving up at all. It takes time, patience, and a lot of learning. But you’re not hopeless.

21 thoughts on “How Hopeless I Felt When I Was Single

  1. All of my friends are in relationships and the only time it dawnes on me is when I’m sitting alone in my room on a Friday night because they are all out with their significant other. Everyone’s guy is out there I suppose 😉

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  2. Frankly speaking I have never been in a relationship, so I can’t really comment on how amazing it feels to be in one. But I have been single, single all my life. And as you have mentioned it gets lonely, more times than it should. It’s not just he Friday nights, the occasional in-the-moment plans, it does get real lonely all the time. We keep saying to ourselves that being single is knowing self better and it has its own perks, but how well can one know themselves after a couple of weeks, months or even years.

    I liked the line where you said that the right one is out there for each one. But I fear, there is no right one. If there was, I would have…err there isn’t one for me, that’s all I can say and very sure about.

    Great post, btw. 🙂

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