In most cases, you are your own worst enemy. Someone who self sabotages knows what they want and have all the means to get it. For instance, they are on their way into a great relationship and actively do something so that relationship never begins. Usually they do this because something in their past is…
Break Ups
Dating Sucks But Dating Your Ex Is Worse
If you haven't dated in a while, it is very comparable to trying to find a job. Lots of feelers going unanswered, dates that feel like job interviews and rarely go anywhere. It's exhausting to continue to put yourself out there with no reward. It sucks. So it's easy to look for the easier option…
Rejection: The Ghoster And The Ghosted
Ghosting (verb): The act of suddenly ceasing all communication with someone the subject is dating, but no longer wishes to date. This is done in hopes that the ghostee will just "get the hint" and leave the subject alone, as opposed to the subject simply telling them he/she is no longer interested. Let me start out…
Stop Revisiting Failed Relationships
If at first you don't succeed, try and try again. This doesn't apply to failing relationships, so stop trying and trying again when you already know it's not going to work out. I'm completely guilty of double, triple, quadruple thinking my decisions especially when it comes to relationships. After ending something I often wonder if…
Don’t Spend NYE With Your Ex
It's inevitable that some of our friends are still friends with our ex. You probably met your ex through a friend or they all became buddy-buddy while you were dating. So you still see them every once in a while on your Facebook timeline, and you still hear stories about them when you're out to…
How Break Ups Can Become New Beginnings
Break ups can be different depending on what stage of your life you're in. When you're in high school, break ups are over-dramatized and earth shattering. In college, they're the thing that turns you towards things you might have not done without a broken heart. After college, they make you evaluate your life. Because when…
The Courage It Takes To End A Relationship
When break ups happen, I think the person who did the breaking up is often overlooked. The person who got broken up with must be so shattered, must need tons of support - but, no one stops to think about how hard it really is to break up with someone. It takes a lot of…
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Unintentional Asshole
Republished from 2015 No matter how much you want someone to change, the truth is they probably won't ever change. They won't ever become the person you thought they had the potential to be, especially if they were content in their ways before they met you. Whether it be a guy or a girl, some…
The One Who Makes You Backslide
There are plenty of fish in the sea, but chances are you are already on someone's hook. We all have that one person who lives deep in the cracks of our pushed-away memories. It's the person that hurt us badly, but we still love. It's the person who will always cause us to backslide. This…
Bad Mouthing Your Ex Is Hurting You, Not Him
The 7 stages of grief are: Shock, it doesn't quite feel real that your relationship is over. Denial, we try to work things out, talk it out, do anything and change everything to get back together. Anger, we call you names. We tell you it's all your fault, you're a horrible person, you're the reason…
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