Looking Out For Yourself Vs. Being Selfish

I was in a relationship once where I was always looking out for him. Looking for ways to help him succeed, to make his life easier. And in the same breath, I was always changing myself for him. Forcing myself to like that he moved away for his job when I wasn't allowed to move…

So You Want To Move In With Your Significant Other

I think it’s safe to say we’re a far cry from the times where couples didn’t live together until they were married. Although it still happens, I think it’s less common due to the expenses of living and even the fear that living together may be harder than you think so you want to try…

How I Learned What Relationships Are Really Supposed To Be Like

My introduction to relationships didn't exactly start off on the right foot. I know we learn a lot from our households growing up, and mine just wasn't really ideal. I don't remember much lovey-dovey stuff happening after I was a kid so for many of my formative years I didn't really know a lot of…

Being In Love Vs. Being Comfortable

Relationships are hard for a number of reasons. They involve two people, each who has their own thoughts, feelings, and complicated structure. Two people that are trying to melt their lives into one. To have one set of thoughts, feelings, and one single complicated structure. Sometimes it can be hard to find the person that's right…

Finding Yourself Before Getting In A Relationship

I recently wrote about how in my current relationship I learned that you don't need to be alone in order to grow. It was an idea I was obsessed with after my last break up. And in part, it was true. From age 16-20 I was in a relationship that consumed my whole entire world.…

Things I’ve Learned 5 Years Into A Relationship

If you scroll wayyyy back on this blog, you’ll find some posts from a time in my life where I was anxious, heart broken, depressed, and jaded. It was a time in my life where I had to be alone to grow because I had just gotten out of a toxic relationship that didn’t end…