There are different ways that you can settle. You can settle for a job that you might feel uncomfortable with. You can settle for an apartment that you just feel "eh" about. You can settle for a relationship. I experienced one relationship that really made me terrified of settling. And after college I saw a…
It's not uncommon to come across cheating in college. Everyone knows the drama: he's been cheating on her for years. She knows but ignores it. They both cheat on each other and never confront it. It only strengthens the stereotype of the hookup culture and makes everyone questions how relationships work in college. When you're…
Taking it slow sounds easy enough. You're trying to ease into a new relationship, tip toe around some things to avoid rushing in too fast and getting hurt. There's nothing wrong with taking it slow. In fact, I would encourage it. Falling head over heels in love sounds nice and all - but it also…
The trouble with people who are over-eager is that we are often over-everything. We are over-thinkers, we are over-dramatic, we over-romanticize, we are overwhelmed. So getting too excited about things just comes with the territory. Because one small possibility opens up so many doors for us. We non stop think about how this could work…
Relationships are a fragile thing. One string becomes frayed, it gets snagged, and the whole thing unravels into your hands. You never saw it coming. Basically since the start of this blog, I've expressed my fears on settling. Especially settling for someone you don't really love. Settling for less than fireworks, all in romance, and…
A mid-life crisis is an emotional crisis of identity and self-confidence that can occur in early middle age. So I think that would make a mid-relationship crisis an emotional crisis of identity and self-confidence that can occur in early mid-relationship. I think it's very easy to have an identity crisis in a relationship. Before I started…
My first serious relationship was 4 years long and when I say serious, I took it very seriously. I pictured marriage and kids. Planned where we'd live, where I'd go to college, and how our lives would be. At that point in my life, I would frequently say "why bother being in a relationship with…
I googled the term "emotionally stupid" because I wanted to know if anyone else was as dumb as me when it comes to identifying their own emotions, specifically when it comes to romance. One of the first things that popped up was a question on Yahoo Answers asking: "Why are men so emotionally stupid???" There…
No two relationships are exactly the same. But it is possible that similar feelings will bubble up. That falling in love will seem familiar. It's possible that you'll get into the same fights you've gotten in before or feel hurt just like you did before. That doesn't mean your new relationship is exactly like your…
Continue reading ➞ When A New Relationship Reminds You Of An Old One
Reposted from 2016 I didn't really know who I was until a few years ago. Internally, throughout my teen years, I had a strong sense of self. I knew what I wanted but just didn't know how to get it. I couldn't externalize what I was feeling internally which made me very lost. I thought…
Continue reading ➞ I Want To Be Alone But I Don’t Want To Be Alone
