Leaving The Honeymoon Phase

The beginning of a relationship is full of smiles, laughs, and eyes for only each other. There are barely any fights and all you want is to be with each other all the time. It’s the honeymoon phase and though I know some people stay in it forever, most of us leave it behind after a year or so.

I think it’s even possible for one person in the relationship to still be in the phase while the other person has left. It probably causes a lot of turmoil, possibly ends relationships. Because at that point you’re wanting different things and it’s hard to make people budge on where they spend their time and how moon-eyed they are about you.

Realizing you’ve left the honeymoon stage is tough, because now there are bigger things to tackle. Now there are fights, now there is real life in front of you. It’s not all rainbows and butterflies anymore. You’ve been together for a while and it’s potentially the real deal. It’s potentially the time you need to contemplate if this is for you or not.

It can be such a pivotal moment but also a time where most of us relax with courting our partners. Where we give way to life and just go with the flow. When I see you, I’ll see you. Apologies for having to cancel. No more surprises. Two minds that became one start to separate.

Leaving the honeymoon phase is probably one of the hardest parts of a relationship, it’s a true test. All you can do is evaluate where you want to be and who you want to be with and make sure your partner is on the same page. The phase will come in and out over time, you just have to make sure you want to stick around for the next honeymoon.

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Losing Motivation

Lately, the goals I’ve set for myself have become harder and harder to reach. That could push some into working harder and hungrier to complete their list, but for me it’s just a disappointment.

I know numbers and milestones don’t mean everything in life, but they are a good motivator to always strive to be your best self. When those things don’t budge, it becomes easier to focus on all the things that are wrong rather than the many things that are right.

I’ve always been a big supporter of making goals to keep life interesting, even if it’s just very tiny attainable goals that will boost your ego a bit. And I’ve been making what I thought were attainable goals, but I still can’t seem to hit them. The thought of lowering the standards is depressing on top of the bummer it is that I can’t hit any of my goals in the  first place.

I’m losing motivation and I just need to suck it up and accept the fact that I need to go back to the basics, like I have to do with many things in my life right now. Because once I get into this funk there’s no way I can get out of it just by continuing down the same path. Sometimes we just have to admit defeat and start over, sometimes these experiences can be humbling, but they mostly just suck.

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Trying Out Stitch Fix

So, my sisters gave me a gift card to Stitch Fix for my birthday and I was pretty excited about it. I hate shopping mostly because I hate trying things on, so this seemed perfect. Stitch Fix evaluates your style and then sends you a box of clothes as often as you’d like to buy or send back. You pay a $20 styling fee and that will go towards anything you buy, but if you don’t buy anything you lose that $20 which stinks.

I got my first box over a month ago and was beyond excited only to be completely let down. I hated everything except for the sandals they sent me, which were just generic any girl would probably like them. The box seemed like it was picked out for a 40 year old mom with two kids. I questioned why I even bothered to fill out the style profile.

But I gave them another shot because getting packages excites me and I still had gift card money. The second box came and…I hated it. Same kind of style was sent to me again even though I sent specific feedback saying I wanted edgy styles and the clothes they sent me didn’t flatter me at all in both boxes. I did keep a pair of jeans which fit me beautifully, were a little pricey, but worth it because they’re my new favorite pair.

If I didn’t have money left on my gift card, I would have been out at this point. Why bother telling someone what you like if they aren’t going to bother to read it? They even have access to your Pinterest and Instagram. What does the $20 styling fee go towards if you aren’t actually tailoring the style to me?

I just got my third box and swear I fell in love with my stylist. They FINALLY listened to me and I liked every piece! You get 25% off if you buy all 5 pieces, but I only bought the 3/5 that I loved.

Overall, I think for $20 it’s fun to see what they will send you. If you want to check it out you can use my referral code here: https://www.stitchfix.com/referral/12689660?sod=w&som=c&str=17299.

I’m going to keep getting boxes because they really hit the nail on the head this time around, but if I get another total bummer then I will probably cancel. The clothes I got were worth signing up, for sure. Stay tuned 🙂 Let me know if you’re thinking of trying/have tried Stitch Fix!

The Hookup On: Updated Summer Bucket List

Summer is my favoriteeee season! Because summer is so different when you’re out of school and working, it took me a while to adjust to that summer, care-free feeling. Mostly because I still have a lot of cares, like a lot of them. But I’m making big plans and my list is below – what will you be doing this summer?

  1. Go Blonder
  2. Read 10 books
  3. Go to the gym frequently
  4. Visit 3 out of state locations
  5. Go hiking in 3 places
  6. Go kayaking
  7. Start taking more pride in my appearance
  8. Make more plans with friends
  9. Make content calendar for instagram
  10. Reach 2,000 WordPress followers
  11. Reach 7,000 Instagram followers
  12. Reach 550 likes on Facebook
  13. Find my independence
  14. Get a pet
  15. Keep my apartment clean for more than a week
  16. Visit Grounds for Sculpture
  17. Go to a sporting event
  18. Buy concert tickets
  19. Adjust my routine

Social Media Pressures

I love social media, I’ve loved it ever since I get tweets as texts to my flip phone and built up my Myspace profile to 4,000 friends.

I naturally became invested in becoming an Instagram influencer and blogger and I love making content and connecting with people. I work in communications. Social media is basically my life and to some that may be pathetic, but to me it’s what makes me happy.

Reaching people, being creative, and pushing myself for my passion is rewarding to me.

I know some people will say kids these days are attached to their phone, put their whole lives of Facebook, and are lazy and dramatic on the internet. But social media is so much more than that. It’s a connection, it’s an influence, it’s fun.

But social media also comes with a lot of pressure. You used to get judged by your in-person appearance, now you get judged on what you put on Facebook, your follower ratio on Twitter, and how many likes you get on Instagram. It’s all very overwhelming especially if you use social media professionally and personally like I do.

A month or two ago I realized how much it was all really impacting me. I was spending hours on Instagram, combing through hashtags and following people and creating perfect photos. And it started eating at me because I felt like my work wasn’t being rewarded. Social media is work for me and a passion project for me, but I recently lost all of the fun and the passion.

I would get visibly upset when I didn’t get any good photos from an event I went to, even if I enjoyed the event it would get overshadowed by lack of likes, the retweets, the comments.

I had to put my life back into perspective. My whole goal with my Instagram in the first place was to influence others to live their best lives, that they don’t have to be perfect but they can still have fun. I wanted others to follow me so I could inspire them. I wanted the likes and comments so I could reach more people. But I lost all of that to number goals and getting wrapped up in not being as good as everyone else.

Other bloggers have fancy cameras, perfectly coordinated shots, and tons of engagement. I don’t have that and it used to be okay because I wasn’t trying to be perfect. But it’s hard not to want to be what those bloggers are, to not compare yourself to their smiles and their lives.

So I’m going back to the basics, still working on growing my numbers but not getting physically upset over them. The goal was and is now again to show people that you can live your happiest life, you can travel and enjoy what you do even when you feel restricted. I want to inspire others and I can’t do that if I’m not inspiring myself first and shrugging off the social media pressure.

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Help Me Reach My Social Media Goals!

All things Rosie Culture can be found at the links below. I would love to get 550 likes on my Facebook page by the end of summer, I’m at 524 right now so I have about two months to get 26 more! Feel free to also drop your social media links in the comments 🙂

Instagram: @rosieculture

Facebook: facebook.com/rosieculture

Twitter: @rosieculture

The Hookup On: The Finger Lakes

Being from NJ, I am mostly limited to New York, Pennsylvania, Delaware, etc. for short weekend trips – ones that don’t require me to take off from work.

This past weekend I went to the Finger Lakes with a group of friends and was pleasantly surprised by how much we loved the area.

What we did:

1. Hiked Watkins Glen State Park – the views were AMAZING! And it was a relatively easy hike.

2. Wine Tastings – the Finger Lakes is the Wine Country of the East Coast. Wineries are a must do!

Where we ate:

1. Red Newt Bistro if you like grilled cheese then you need to try their artisanal take on the sandwich!

2. The Lakeside Restaraunt – great view views of Keuka lake and great food!

Wineries:

1. Red Newt – very fun wine tasting and great views!

2. Wagner- awesome views and also has a brewery!

3. Bully Hill – very quirky, great views, and great wine!

The best part of the Finger Lakes was the views of the farms, rolling hills, and stunning lakes. Anything you do there, make sure you’re doing it with a view. All of the places we went were overlooking dreamy lake and hill views.

Have you ever been to New York and visited somewhere outside of NYC?