Do What You Have To After A Break Up

How do I know when a girl just went through a break up? She starts posting selfies, deep quotes and poetry, and sharing Thought Catalog articles about how being alone is better (at least share my blog posts guys, come on). And then all of her relationship pictures start to fade from her social media. Her profile picture changes to a solo pic or a photo of a girl’s night out. And the status quietly changes to single.

It’s all a little cliche. That whole dying your hair a wacky color after a break up to try to change your identity. People talk about it all the time and poke fun at the girls having their poetry induced break through. They talk about how much she’s changed and how funny it is that she never used to act that way.

Well, they change because break ups change you. They force you to look at yourself as a lone person and understand who you truly are. Maybe you are a blonde at heart, a party girl, or an independent being.

Who cares what anyone else thinks? As if they’ve never had a life shattering break up, as if they’ve never hit their single and ready to mingle phase.

We’re all guilty of it, and even if we weren’t, girl, DO YOU! Do what you have to to find yourself,  to feel better and move on. If you have to make out with a lot of people, do it. If you have to talk crap on your ex, do it. If it makes you feel better I did it on a blog for all of the world to see, you can just do it in a group chat. Or start a blog. Why not?

If you have to share poetry about fueling your fucking fire, shout out Christopher Poindexter, then DO it. No one can tell you how to heal. Don’t ever feel silly about the things you are doing to better yourself and move on. I’m rooting for you and every girl who has had their life changed by a break up is rooting for you.

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Photo by: https://www.flickr.com/photos/samuelyoo/

Happy Birthday To Me!

This year’s birthday feels a little different and unexciting than they have in the past. I am 24 years old today! 23 was a challenging year, I had to grow up a lot and survive in the real world. I’m in a relationship and had to kind of relearn what it was like to be part of a couple. 23 was a learning experience, but that’s what life’s all about – right?

Thank you all who have been following along with me since I was 20 years old (weird, right?!) This blog has transformed over the years and I owe a lot to you guys. And thank you to anyone who has been following even for one year, one week, one day, or one hour! I am so appreciative of the support.

As a birthday present to me, I’d love if you could reblog or link back to me in the following weeks. I’m working on getting 2,000 WordPress followers and I’m at 1,700 so I have a little bit of a ways to go.

OR

If you’re feeling charitable, I’d love for you to donate here: https://my.charitywater.org/matt-hoffman-2/matt-hoffman.  We are working towards getting $1000 to provide others with clean drinking water.

Thanks again to everyone who is reading this! I already kind of celebrated my birthday by traveling to Montreal last weekend, it was a blast and I will be writing about it soon ! Stay tuned and cheers to 24 years old.

xoxo

Rosie

Headed To Montreal!

Hey guys!

I’m headed to Montreal for the weekend – so excited! Thanks to everyone who gave me some tips of what to see and do.

I will be going live on Instagram during the 7ish hour long drive, probably around 1:00 pm EST. If you don’t follow me you can check me out at @rosieculture.

ALSO! While I’m away, you should check out these blogs that I’m currently loving! 🙂

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Happy weekend!

xoxo

Rosie

10 Ways To Celebrate The Little Things

Last year, I celebrated everything. New job? Champagne! Birthday? Champagne! Seeing my friends for brunch? Champagne!

And it was awesome. From the smallest to largest things, we celebrated and it made everyone feel good. Because why not make every occasion a special occasion? I kind of lost track of celebrating things because I got too busy to even care about my accomplishments. And that’s no way to live, we should all be proud of the things we’ve done and should celebrate them, no matter how big the feat!

Here are some ways to celebrate the little things:

  1. Get yourself some flowers – buy them in a store, pick a daisy in a field, you deserve some beauty in your life!
  2. Make your favorite food – indulge a little, I buy Chipotle to celebrate everything and it makes me super happy.
  3. Give someone a gift – surprising your friends with little presents goes a long way. I sent some of my college friends $5 each on Valentine’s Day to buy a drink or some chocolate for themselves.
  4. Take a selfie look good, feel good, show it off!
  5. Do nothing – give yourself a break, you’ve been working so hard so just binge-watch some Netflix!!
  6. Pop champagne – doesn’t matter if it’s a $5 bottle (ick) just pop that baby and celebrate!
  7. Get together with your friends – let them celebrate with you!
  8. Treat yo self to some new clothes – or whatever item you’ve been storing in your online shopping cart, go ahead and purchase it.
  9. Call your mom – you KNOW she’s gonna be hyped for you.
  10. Write down your accomplishments and what you’re grateful for – put some things in perspective and just take a moment to feel good about your life.
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photo by: https://www.flickr.com/photos/corrinespictures/

 

Accepting Break Up Blame

I don’t like my exes, not a single one of them. My relationships/spurts of dating/long-time hook ups ended poorly often. I might’ve not liked them even before we broke up. Sometimes I stopped liking them during the break up process. Other times, we were friendly for a while, but I ultimately stopped liking them. Mostly due to resentment over any mistrust, being cheated on, or just seeing them be happy when they didn’t let me be happy or caused me to be unhappy for a while.

You may think that because I don’t like them, it probably means they did something wrong. And that’s true, but the bad blood doesn’t fall all on them. As much as I’d like to sit here and play victim, I wasn’t always innocent.

I didn’t cheat, I didn’t intentionally try to hurt people, but I did let things go on longer than they should’ve. I did put a lot of time into things I knew weren’t going to work, did act one way and say the opposite.

I accept some of the break up blame. In most cases, I did the breaking up because I either recognized my faults in the relationship or the guy I was dating at the time did something to screw everything up.

I’ve written a lot about my exes, I’ve written a lot about how much I resent them and how far I’ve come since them. But I’ve shrugged off a lot of the blame until now. I might’ve not been the problem that caused us to break up, but I was part of the problem. All I can do now is move on and grow from it and wish them all the best of luck.

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photo by: https://www.flickr.com/photos/hernanpc/

A Selfie A Day

Last week I wrote a post called Take More Selfies.

Self love is hard. It’s way easier to get gratification from others, and even then that’s not always easy. Sometimes I’ll find myself with the front camera open, looking for my best angle and then close the app saying “I’m too ugly for a selfie.”

And it’s just not true, it’s just not true about anyone. Everyone should feel beautiful enough to take a photo of themselves smiling and feeling good.

So, in an effort to change the way I think about myself, I will be taking one selfie a day for the next 30 days and uploading them to my Instagram story. You can visit my instagram at @rosieculture.

While I’m sure a lot of people will be like “okay cool it with the selfies”, I will be challenging myself to like my appearance and self for 30 days and to find some beauty in the world. What others think doesn’t really matter.

Take the challenge! Whether you want to do it on your own, through Instagram, Facebook, or wherever. I challenge you to love yourself – and feel free to tag me in your pics! 🙂 Photo 1 is below and can be found on my insta story today.

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The Hookup On: My Updated Spring Bucket List

The spring bucket list has gotten a slow start, mostly because half of spring is cold and rainy so it’s hard to get out and do things. This is also wayyyy more ambitious than my fall and winter bucket list – but I’m determined to get it done!

  1. Visit 3 out of state/country locations
  2. Go to a NYCFC soccer game
    I’m hoping I can go to another one!
  3. Visit wolf preserve
  4. Hit over 7,000 Instagram followers
  5. Go blonder
  6. Completely furnish my apartment
  7. Make more time for friends
  8. Learn to knit baby booties
    They are ready for my niece or nephew who is coming in August 🙂
  9. Turn 24
  10. Go to the gym at least 3 times a week
  11. Host a game night
    Highly recommend you buy the Oregon Trail card game, it is so. fun.
  12. Treat myself to the list of lush items and clothing items I’ve been wanting
  13. Stop eating donuts every week
  14. Hit over 2,000 WordPress followers
  15. Feel healthier overall
  16. Go hiking in 3 different locations
  17. Be my best self
  18. Read 5 booksWhat’re you doing this spring?
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