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Being An Introverted Blogger

When I think “blogger” I think of peppy, well dressed women with perfect hair and perfect lives. I think of people who aren’t afraid to network, talk on their Instagram stories, and go after what they want. I think of people who love making new friends and being surrounded by constant interaction.

Yet, I’m a blogger and none of those things describe me. I don’t think there are a lot of introverted bloggers out there. I don’t have a perfect life (but that’s kind of the purpose of this blog). I don’t like networking and it sounds awful but I don’t like making new friends.

I’ve forced myself out of my comfort zone a lot by being a blogger. In some ways, I think it’s been very helpful. I’ve built up the courage to speak to my audience and I’ve made connections with a lot of people. Even though it makes me uncomfortable, it’s all part of my mission. I just want to help and relate to people and I can’t just write things down and then hole up and not respond to those people I’m trying to reach.

It’s taken me years as a blogger to do things that some people are just naturally good at. When I first started blogging, I was vulnerable on my posts but that was when only 100 people were reading. Now I have to force myself to open up a little more and not care about the consequence. I write about doubting my relationship, job, life, and friends – things everyone in my personal life can read and judge me on. But it helps other people, so I’m going to keep pushing myself to do it.

When I started influencing on my Instagram, I had to first come to terms with the fact that not everyone is going to like my content. I don’t have the same perfection as other bloggers. I just started speaking on my Instagram stories a few months ago and just a few weeks ago I started sharing personal struggles in my Instagram captions. But I see people relate and it keeps me going.

It’s hard to be an introverted blogger – I have to push myself outside my box while still maintaining who I am. I’ve thought about stopping many times before, but it’s helping me better myself and introducing me to such wonderful people. What more could I ask for?

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Summer Bucket List Update!

Summer is flying by! Why does it feel like winter lasts 10 months and summer is like half of one? Luckily, I’m going by calendar year summer and my summer doesn’t end until September 22. I still have A LOT to do, but I’m chugging along! What are you looking forward to this summer?

  1. Read 5 books
  2. Have a picnic
  3. Visit Longwood Gardens
  4. Travel out of state 5 times
  5. Go to a concert
  6. Go to the beach at least once a month
  7. Reach 1,200 Twitter followers
  8. Reach 6,800 Instagram followers
  9. Reach 2,900 WordPress followers
  10. Reach 650 Facebook likes
  11. Finish my photo album
  12. Meet up with friends at least twice a month
  13. Host a game night
  14. Eat vegan once a week
  15. Go to the gym at least twice a week
  16. Plan a trip for 2 year anniversary
    New Hampshire in September 🙂
  17. Change my hair
  18. Put more money into savings
  19. Make a wreath
  20. Make better choices when it comes to accepting sponsored posts
  21. See fireworks
  22. Watch 10 sunsets
  23. Take a walk with my boyfriend once a week
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The Grass Isn’t Always Greener

When I feel like something in my life is not quite right, I try to make big changes. It must be something that takes up a large amount of my day that’s making me feel unsettled, right? I must need a new job, I must need to move, I must need to evaluate my relationships.

But big changes are not something that should be taken lightly and don’t necessarily mean you’ll be happy with the results. The grass isn’t always greener when you start a new job at a new place from scratch. It’s not always greener in a different state. And it’s not always greener being single (definitely not greener being single because dating sucks).

It’s hard not to think about bigger and better things waiting for you, to settle into your life and just accept it. To make small, manageable changes that water your grass instead of hopping over a fence to find a new life.

I think especially when you are feeling like change needs to happen, it doesn’t need to happen fast. We can’t make rash decisions when our minds are unclear in the first place. Bloom where you are planted, stop trying to escape your garden and start trying to make it better.

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Posts You May Have Missed

Been busy this summer? Me too! Check out some of my favorite posts you may have missed along the way and feel free to drop your newest blog post in the comments so I can take a read! 🙂

  1. Losing Who You Are
  2. Moving In Together – A 6 Months In Update
  3. Initial Thoughts On Adopting A Dog
  4. Breaking Up With The Places You’ve Been
  5. Yes, It’s True, I Don’t Want Kids
  6. When Social Media Takes Over Real Life
  7. A Response To My 22 Year Old Self

Thanks for reading!

xoxo

Rosie

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This is a sponsored post. All opinions are mine.

One of my goals for the summer is to eat vegan once a week. I haven’t eaten meat in over 10 years, but I do occasionally eat fish which makes me a “pescatarian”. I’ve dabbled with the idea of going completely vegan, but there are a lot of things I can’t give up – no matter how gross they actually are.

To walk you through one of my vegan days, I start the morning with a vegan smoothie with almond milk, mixed fruit, beets, and kale. Having a smoothie in the morning is kind of a luxury for me because I usually don’t have time to make them.

For lunch, I still want to make sure I’m getting enough protein which I feel is tough as a vegetarian so really tough as a vegan. I put together a chickpea salad with chickpeas, cucumbers, tomatoes, onions, and some lemon sprinkled over the top with salt and pepper. I have an apple and peanut butter as a snack along with some peanut butter pretzels.

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I always feel like dinner is a bit trickier because I want something heavier at dinner time. A yummy vegan rice bowl-style meal is always a go to for me. I usually put quinoa, pinto beans, onions, jalapenos, and corn with a non dairy ranch dressing on top!

Being completely vegan can be hard, it’s good to do a lot of research to see what your best option is when giving up meat and dairy. I gave up meat because of the way animals are treated on the “farms.” I never try to push my dietary lifestyle on anyone, but I do urge everyone to know where you’re getting your food from and what’s really in it.

A great way to see if vegan is right for you is to try it once a week and then up the days. You can also get your nutrient levels tested at www.healthlabs.com to make sure you’re getting enough of what you need to have a happy and healthy body! They test for different allergies and general wellness!

I think testing is a must because a big misconception is that vegan and vegetarians have a healthy diet. This is definitely not always the case. Yes, vegetables are vegan, but so are oreos. It can be cheap and easy to go for carbs or processed food when you cut out meat. I definitely recommend using a test like the ones at www.healthlabs.com to know how you’re doing as a vegan and in what ways you need to step up your food intake. You can even get 25% off with code ROSIE25!

Would you ever try going vegan?! Let me know in the comments!

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The Pressure Of Long Term Relationships

My first serious relationship was 4 years long and when I say serious, I took it very seriously. I pictured marriage and kids. Planned where we’d live, where I’d go to college, and how our lives would be.

At that point in my life, I would frequently say “why bother being in a relationship with someone if you don’t think you’ll get married?” And that was at age 18 ish.

But I can now tell you I was wrong. Because relationships are learning experiences, sometimes it takes 2 seconds to know you don’t like someone and sometimes it takes 2 years. Why should we stop ourselves from diving into love just because we don’t know how serious it will be, how long it will last, or if we’ll get married?

Long term relationships can really apply that pressure especially when you’re in your mid-late twenties where everyone is starting to get engaged and married. It makes you think that the longer the relationship goes on, the harder a break up could be. Just because you’ve been together for someone for three years, does that mean you’ll marry them?

And if you don’t end up marrying them, did you waste your own time or theirs? Is it unfair to be in a relationship if you’re not sure you see marriage down the line?

As always, I preach communication with your partner because it’s honestly something they should know so they can decide for themselves the risks they are taking. Obviously every relationship doesn’t end in marriage, the one I thought that would ended in lots of tiny pieces set on fire. So you can’t base anything off of if you’ll be spending the rest of your life together, you just have to enjoy the time you’re spending together now.

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Forgetting About Your Blessings

In the deep of the day, these are the things I think about: being really tired, work, running errands at lunch, trying to eat healthy, being unhappy with the way I look, what I’m going to make for dinner, taking care of the dog, and being really tired.

These are all things that cloud my mind day in and day out to the point where it seems like that’s all my life is. These mundane things that cause me stress.

But those are just aspects of my life, things that are small but seem large. When I take a step back and look at my week, my month, my year – everything is different. I see the places I’ve traveled, the friends that I don’t get to see often but love when I do, the family that understands me, the boyfriend that is just so special along with our fur baby and reptile child. I see a stable job, an apartment we decorated and pay for all by ourselves, a routine that could seem boring but in other ways is a blessing.

It’s hard to shake the day sometimes. It’s hard to see past the tough stuff, but cherish the moments where you’re sitting on your couch after a good night’s sleep with your dog by your side and the iced coffee your boyfriend bought for you. There is so much more than stress in our lives, we just can’t forget our blessings.

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