Accepting The Past

I feel like I have been through so many versions of myself. I was once shy, cold, and moody in high school. I was a push-over and boyfriend obsessed my first half of college. I was reckless and couldn’t be caught when I graduated college. And now I am settled, finding new parts of myself, and trying to fit in the old parts.

But the old parts make me cringe. Parts of my life that I used to be so fond of now seem so embarrassing. I have a hard time accepting my past, so I try to just repress the memories. Some of them were good, some were bad, but my over-thinking self really only remembers the times when I felt the worst.

Accepting the past is hard because dwelling on mistakes is easy. Even though I’ve moved on in life and those experiences got me to where I was, I still kind of wish they never happened.

I drank too much sometimes, kissed the wrong guys in the wrong places at the wrong time. I turned down opportunities to make other people happy. I held on to friends who were never good to me. And it all still hurts like fresh wounds when I let the thoughts creep back.

How do I accept the past when the bad times simply blind me? I want to enjoy the life I’ve lived, not regret it.

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Rethink Your Anger

I wrote this last weekend before the tragedy in Las Vegas and I think it rings even truer now.

I was at the gym this weekend when I heard a guy scolding a woman for taking his yoga mat in the free weights area. She thought it was unoccupied because people often just leave the mats all over the floor and she apologized.

He began telling her to shut up and was just being extremely rude while she explained that it was unneccessary. She said that they are both humans so there is no need to get angry over a mistake.  He kept being rude, then she called him an asshole – and I don’t blame her lol.

The whole thing just made me wonder why you would waste your energy getting angry over something so little when there are so many huge problems in the world.

And there is so much hate in the world. To spread it even further over someone taking your mat at the gym is laughable. Why keep spreading the opposite of what the world needs?

Choose to ignore the little things. Accept apologies. Be kind.

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Do People Really Get What They Deserve?

I pretty much believe in karma. As I’ve gotten older, I’ve begun to believe it in more. Mostly because I want to believe that the kindness I put out will find it’s way back to me. It’s a little selfish, but I’m also doing my part to make the world a little nicer.

But I know a lot of bad people. People who have betrayed, lied, and broken other people without care. And then I’ve gone on to see them live perfectly happy lives.

Is it fair?

Is it fair to the people that they betrayed, lied to, and ripped apart? While some of us have been put in the position of piecing their lives back together, the person who committed the crime walked free.

No one is 100% guiltless, but I don’t think we all deserve the hand we’re given. And I think bad people also get away with too much. So I believe in karma, but I also know life isn’t fair.

Unless at some point everyone really does end up getting  what they deserve and we just don’t always get to see the results? It’s a bitter pill to swallow that no matter what you do, life may not sway in your favor.

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It’s Okay To Be Sad

I think there is a lot of pressure to be happy. When you work somewhere, when you’re out with your friends, when you’re in a relationship…everyone assumes that because of where you are, you should be happy.

But that’s really not always the case and it’s not always because of the people around you. You might be sad. And it’s not because you don’t have a great job, boyfriend/girlfriend, friends or family. It’s just because at this moment in time you don’t feel all that happy, and that’s okay.

It’s hard to admit you’re just sad especially when you can’t pinpoint the reasoning behind it. Then people don’t understand, they blame themselves and they blame you. But sometimes life gets stagnant, sometimes you didn’t sleep that well for a week, sometimes you feel a little lost and all of that builds up to a sadness that isn’t anyone’s fault.

And the more we deny what we’re feeling, the more we convince ourselves that we should be happy so we are happy, the more sad we actually get.

It’s okay to be sad, it’s okay to tell people you feel sad. No one is 100% all of the time and I can almost guarantee the moment you admit your feelings will be the moment that a lot of things come into perspective A step out of feeling sad.

It’s a lot of pressure, life. Everyone’s always trying to one-up each other in their woes and tragedies. But no matter what your situation, whether it be life and death or a flat tire. It’s okay to be sad, stressed, and overwhelmed.

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Portland, Maine Advice Needed!

Every time I finish up a trip, I have another one already booked and in need of planning! We’ll be heading to Portland, Maine in the next coming weeks and would love any tips from someone who has been there!

Looking for ideas on things to see, unique spots as well as landmarks. Looking for places to eat (big fans of brunch if you have any suggestions there). And looking for some low key bars to visit at night. Any and all advice is welcome!

Thanks in advance!

xoxo

Rosie

10 Life Tips That I Almost Never Follow

  1. Overthinking won’t help the situation.
    I can calm my hectic brain by coloring, journaling, cleaning, etc. But I always let overthinking get the best of me.
  2. Always take your PTO as much as possible.
    Take it and use it for something fun. Unfortunately, dentist appointments and car problems often end up being the reasons I take off instead of fun.
  3. Don’t try to drink as much as you did in college.
    The hangovers are real and I am often reminded how little I actually like drinking. You don’t have to keep up with people or get drunk just to have fun.
  4. It’s okay to just do nothing.
    Not every day has to be the most exciting day of your life, no matter how much fomo you feel from seeing others doing fun things on social media.
  5. It’s okay to be alone.
    It’s okay to do things alone, to be single, to need alone time.
  6. Accept help from others.
    I know you want to, but you just can’t do it all on your own.
  7. Meditation or some form of de-stressing works.
    If you know what works for you, then do it. Don’t put things off or completely shut down from stress if you can avoid it.
  8. Helping others can help yourself.
    Sometimes you just get too wrapped up in yourself, helping others may help to clear your head.
  9. There’s always something to be grateful for.
    Even when it doesn’t seem like it, you can be grateful that you just made it to work that day or you have a job or that you’re breathing.
  10. Don’t put too much pressure on yourself.
    You are not the only person who doesn’t have life figured out, no one has life figured out. Don’t be so hard on yourself.

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Montreal Advice Needed!

Hi guys!

At the end of the month I will be heading to Montreal and seriously can’t wait!! I have a loose itinerary of what we will be doing, but I’d love to get some suggestions from anyone who has ever been there or lives there!

We will be staying in downtown Montreal. I would love suggestions for things to do as well as your favorite bars and restaurants.

Thanks in advance for all of your help!

xoxo

Rosie