Making New Friends

When I moved, I knew my number one struggle would be making friends. Even when I lived in New Jersey, I could have afforded to have a couple more local gal pals. But I resisted making new friends.

Everyone lived at least an hour from me which meant no one to do happy hour with or no one to do spontaneous movie nights with. Everything had to be planned weeks in advance. And while this was inconvenient, it wasn’t enough to push me to make some new friends. I settled with hanging out with coworkers every so often and mostly just making plans with my boyfriend and the dog. And then I’d see my best friends once or twice a month.

Now that I moved, I don’t think that’s going to be enough. I’m not the kind of person who can be BFF’s with my coworkers. I can be friendly and we can get drinks once in a while, but I have a hard time wanting a close friendship with them. Here, I’ll only be seeing my best friends once every couple of months. And while I love hanging out with my boyfriend, sometimes you just need girl time.

So I joined Bumble BFF and put some feelers out in my alumni groups. The problem is creating relationships from scratch. I ran into this issue when I dated too. I find it hard to create a meaningful friendship or relationship with a stranger. You didn’t know me during my hardest times, how could you possibly understand me now?

Anyway, I’m giving it a shot no matter what. I’ll attempt to go on some Bumble BFF dates and report back to you all on how it goes. At least I have my internet friends, right? 😉

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To The Friends I’m Not Friends With Anymore

The friends I’m not friends with anymore can fall into two categories: the ones I had a falling out with and the ones I grew apart from.

To the ones I grew apart from, I appreciate our minor communication. I appreciate the likes on Instagram and the occasional comments on Facebook. I’m glad I can still see what you’re up to even though we’re in different cities, states, or countries. Even though we don’t speak anymore, there is a mutual respect and a quiet friendship that still lingers.

To the ones I had a falling out with, I’m sorry. We were always too different and now especially we are too different. Our friendships were always out of convenience, never love and respect. Even if one big falling out didn’t end our friendship – the little ones leading up to it did.

In either instances, I hope the best for all of you. I hope you can forgive me for not being a good friend. I’m still learning about myself every day. And I hope you look back on the positive aspects of our friendship. It took me a long time to get to that point, for a while all I remembered was the negative.

I hope you’re doing well, I hope you’re living out your dreams, I hope you’re doing better. Even if we don’t speak anymore, there is always a little part of me that will care. That would do anything for you if you truly needed it.

To the friends I’m not friends with anymore, thanks for the memories. You deserve the best in life. I’m not sure if it matters – but as long as you’re happy, I’m happy for you and proud of you.

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Your Go-To Graduation Soundtrack

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Well, sorry to remind you all, but graduation is just around the corner. If you’re graduating, these songs are going to mostly make you sad with a little bit of happy. Just a warning though – if you listen to these songs with your friends while consuming alcohol, you are going to cry and it is going to be a mess.

1. Good Riddance – Green Day

Come on, you can’t listen to this song without the past four years flashing before your eyes.

2. Friends Forever – Vitamin C

You’re going to cry even if you’re sober and listening to this with your friends.

3. Vienna – Billy Joel

In general, I’m just a huge fan of this song. But it also reminds you to enjoy your youth.

4. Unwritten – Natasha Bedingfield

This song was performed at Degrassi’s prom so like how can you not love it?

5. I’ll Be There For You – The Rembrandts

The perfect theme song from Friends!

6. The Climb – Miley Cyrus

*feels*

7. True Colors – Cyndi Lauper

Trust me on this one.

8. Soco Amaretto Lime – Brand New

It’s all about those times you sat on the roof or porch of your house during the day and got drunk with your best friends.

9. Swing Life Away – Rise Against

“I’ve got some friends, some that I hardly know, we’ve had some times I wouldn’t trade for the world.”

10. Breathe – Anna Nalick

Seriously, breathe, you’re gonna be alright after you graduate!

11. All The Small Things – Blink 182

It’s the little things that count the most.

12. What’s My Age Again – Blink 182

You can never have enough Blink 182

13. Drops of Jupiter – Train

Sing it loud and proud with your best friends.

14. Give It Up – The Format

(Same lead singer as FUN so seriously listen to it.)

15. We Are Young – Fun

Cause we’re young.

16. Photosynthesis – Frank Turner

“So I guess I can confess that I am starting to get old…”

17. Time After Time – Quietdrive (Cyndi Lauper cover)

It’s a classic!

18. Brat Pack – The Rocket Summer

All about kicking back with your friends.

19. Teenage Dirtbag – Wheatus

Even though we aren’t teenagers anymore…

20. American Girl – Tom Petty and the Heartbreakers

“She couldn’t help thinking that there was a little more to life somewhere else. After all, it was a great big world with lots of places to run to.”

21. Free Falling – Tom Petty

I guess you could listen to the John Mayer version, but like Tom Petty…

22. Started From the Bottom – Drake

Now we’re here!

23. Closing Time – Semisonic

Enough said.

Comment your graduation songs below and I might add them to the list! Now the next time it’s sunny and warm: get your friends, get some alcohol, and get drunk and cry on your porch happily/sloppily.