Bumble BFF – First Impressions

I’ll start this off by saying I haven’t met up with anyone in real life from Bumble BFF. And I’ll follow it up with saying that I hated dating and making friends is just like dating…so I hate this also.

If you’ve been following me for a few months now, you’ll know I’ve had little faith in Bumble BFF from the beginning. Trying to capture if someone will make a good friend from their photos and a few sentences on their profile is impossible. But for an introvert like me, it’s the easiest way to get myself out there.

So I tried. I swiped and widened my age range and location range to get a good group of people. I matched. I started conversations and let them be started by the other party. And they all fizzled within a couple hours. Shallow small talk makes it hard for you to actually get to know someone and if you’re anything like me, I hate texting in the first place so it’s hard to even get past that small talk.

Someone on the app told me that unless you make plans, real plans not just floating the usual “oh yeah let’s hang out.” Then you won’t actually become friends. This turned me off the app because it almost seems like you have to match someone, have a short conversation, then meet up with them immediately.

I haven’t given up completely. I didn’t delete the app from my phone. But I’ve been keeping busy on my own so it doesn’t feel like a good time anymore to try to incorporate someone else into my life.

If you have any Bumble BFF success stories, I’d love to hear them in the comments! Maybe I’ll get back to swiping one day.

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To The Friends I’m Not Friends With Anymore

The friends I’m not friends with anymore can fall into two categories: the ones I had a falling out with and the ones I grew apart from.

To the ones I grew apart from, I appreciate our minor communication. I appreciate the likes on Instagram and the occasional comments on Facebook. I’m glad I can still see what you’re up to even though we’re in different cities, states, or countries. Even though we don’t speak anymore, there is a mutual respect and a quiet friendship that still lingers.

To the ones I had a falling out with, I’m sorry. We were always too different and now especially we are too different. Our friendships were always out of convenience, never love and respect. Even if one big falling out didn’t end our friendship – the little ones leading up to it did.

In either instances, I hope the best for all of you. I hope you can forgive me for not being a good friend. I’m still learning about myself every day. And I hope you look back on the positive aspects of our friendship. It took me a long time to get to that point, for a while all I remembered was the negative.

I hope you’re doing well, I hope you’re living out your dreams, I hope you’re doing better. Even if we don’t speak anymore, there is always a little part of me that will care. That would do anything for you if you truly needed it.

To the friends I’m not friends with anymore, thanks for the memories. You deserve the best in life. I’m not sure if it matters – but as long as you’re happy, I’m happy for you and proud of you.

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