Taking A Step Back From Instagram

I started my blog a long time ago, mainly focusing on relationships and break ups and hoping I was helping other people through what I was going through. And since it’s transformed, it’s more general but I’m still trying to help people through what I’m going through.

I’ve always been a writer, I’ve always been better about hiding behind my words instead of standing in front of a camera. Being an influencer and a blogger goes hand in hand, so I started building my Instagram following and taking on sponsored campaigns. It was fun for a while, but now it’s just work.

I have a blogging epiphany like every 3 months and recently I was staring at my Instagram feed and was noticing what people liked about it and what they didn’t. I was mostly noticing that 90% of my following doesn’t even interact with my posts, but the 10% that do really care about what I’m doing. That’s when it hit me.

I don’t want people to follow me just because I’m following them and I don’t want to follow people just so they follow me. I’ve recently started unfollowing hundreds of accounts, from mommy bloggers, to people who don’t speak the same language as me, to style bloggers who dress a world’s outside my budget. And I’m actually starting to enjoy Instagram again and seeing people who actually inspire me.

Now my 10% who cares has my focus and they are who I really want to target and inspire. Even though my numbers will drop and that will mean less sponsored posts, I’m so much happier creating content on my terms. I’m hoping this will relieve the stress I feel from a stupid app.

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The Best Of My About Me Blog Posts

Looking to learn a little more about me? Check out the best of my blog posts that go into detail about myself! If you like what you read, leave a little love on the my posts from the past! 🙂

  1. I Don’t Blog About You
  2. Unintentional Asshole
  3. Proud To Be A Sorority Girl
  4. An Open Letter To My High School Self
  5. 11 Things Vegetarians Are Tired Of Hearing
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Sometimes There’s Nothing To Write About

I look at my blog sometimes and am just so frustrated with the content I’m putting out. Sometimes it’s too fluffy, sometimes it’s too bare, and sometimes it’s too dark. And sometimes there’s just nothing to write about.

While I want to have consistent blog posts for my readers and it seems like something they want that too, my life isn’t always that interesting. I’m not always having some kind of epiphany, quarter life crisis, or relationship realization. I can’t always strip down my soul and spill my guts to you all because I don’t always have something to spill. I try to be as personal and vulnerable as possible, but then I see other bloggers writing about miscarriages, divorces, bankruptcy and I feel so unauthentic.

When there’s nothing to write about, I make lists. I talk about some of my goals, my to-do lists, I promote myself and other bloggers. But it can feel cheap sometimes that I can only give an emotionally and beautifully composed piece of writing to you all every once in a while.

There are a lot of doubts when it comes to being a blogger and a lot of comparisons. I don’t feel that I fit in the stereotypical blogging niche and my audience here on the blog certainly differs from my audience on Instagram. While there is always something to take a photo of, there’s not always something to write about. So I hope everyone will bear with me through the fluff and folly while I wait for inspiration.

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Winter Bucket List

Guys. I hate winter. I hate snow, I hate being cold, I hate scraping frost off my windshield every morning. It feels like the longest season ever and all I want to do is stay inside – any advice on how to like winter more is appreciate because it makes me miserable. I’m hoping some items on my winter bucket list will make it a little more enjoyable. What’s one thing you want to do this winter?

  1. Move to New Hampshire!
  2. Learn to play guitar
  3. Go to the gym 3x a week
  4. Text my friends at least once a week
  5. Go to a concert
  6. Read 5 books
  7. Be more productive after work
  8. Start journaling again
  9. Keep my blog stats up
  10. Go on a weekend trip
  11. 7,500 Instagram followers
  12. 650 Facebook likes
  13. 2,000 Twitter followers
  14. Make at least one snow angel!
  15. Get a new piercing
  16. Finish my photo album
  17. Send “we moved!” cards to friends and family
  18. Explore one new town in New England

Yay 3k! Answers To Your Questions

Thank you all for your questions! Whenever I post an ask for questions, I get so nervous no one is going to respond haha! I am thrilled to welcome 3,000 followers to my WordPress blog and to give you all a chance to learn a little bit more about me. If any of these questions/answers spark more questions for you – feel free to ask me! And if you’re new here I’d love if you’d just drop a smiley face or hello in the comments.

1.What’s the best compliment you ever received?

It’s hard to narrow it down to one, but I think the best compliments are ones that are about things you didn’t know people noticed and are from people you didn’t even know noticed you. Throwing it back to 7th grade, I was in an English class where we all became really close friends and one boy wrote us all little notes at the end of the year and his note described me as a rebel without a cause and went on a little bit complimenting me. It’s always stuck with me, I might still have it in a box somewhere.

2. Where do you see your blog in 1, 3 and 5 year’s time?

In one year, I imagine I’ll still be in the same place I am now. In three years, I would hope I’ve grown a bit and finally reached 10k on Instagram so I can have the swipe up feature and promote my blog/brands more. In five years, I honestly don’t know if the influencer side of my blog will still be around (like working with brands or managing my instagram). It’s exhausting and I might just revert back to blogging without any pressure.

3. What is your next big goal in life in general?

Hmm this is tough because I like to set mini goals for myself and don’t often look too far into the future. I’ve never been the kind of person to say “I want to be making three figures by the time I’m 35!” or “I NEED to be married by 29!” My only main goals that I am continuously working at are traveling as much as I possibly can and finding true comfort and happiness with myself.

4. Do you frequently get contacted by companies for sponsored posts since your blog is so big?!

Nope. Lol I don’t consider my blog to be very big at all and it’s actually taken me almost 4 years to get where I am today which would be considered slow in the blogging world. I am contacted maybe once a month by companies, most of those are asking me to do things for free or in exchange for product so I don’t normally take them up on the offer. I am part of a lot of influencer networks (Social Native, Ambassadher, ApexDrop) where they partner me with brands and I either get paid or I only accept product that I really love/is worth my time in price and quality.

5. What’s one piece of advice you would go back and give yourself when you were first starting out as a blogger?

Do more research and ask more questions to other bloggers. There were so many blogging tools I missed out on my first couple years because I was just winging it. There are so many facebook groups to help out about blogging and articles about growing engagement and influencer networks. I wish I knew more sooner.

6. What’s underrated about New Jersey?

It has everything in one place. The ocean, the mountains, farms, and even cities are not too far away. The scenery of New Jersey is just breathtaking but most people never get much further than Hoboken or the Newark airport so they never get to see it. Asbury Park is a hub of art and music, the jersey shore is magnificent when all the shoobies leave, and the hiking brings you to massive waterfalls and great foliage. I love NJ!

7. Of your friends family etc who reads your blog? Would you ever go to a blogger bash?

My friends read my blog, my boyfriend’s family sometimes reads my blog, people I know from college still read it. My family doesn’t read it too much but I know they have read it in the past. I would love to go to a blogger meet up, but I don’t think I’d like to go to any blogger conventions just yet.

8. How do you find new and interesting content/subjects to write about? Also, do you plan your posts or write when you feel like?

I just write about what I know. I don’t think it’s always interesting, but it’s usually something I get off my chest. My inspiration usually comes from a part of a conversation I’m having and I just jot down the idea. I write when I’m inspired, I can’t force myself to write it just comes out awful. But I save the posts and schedule them because I like to post at least 2x a week and ideas are mostly always flowing for me.

9. How do you promote your posts? What works best for you?

I try to post twice a week and when I do I will “reschedule” my blog post so it posts on the WordPress reader more than once through the day. I also share on Facebook and Twitter but really need to work on getting readers through those platforms.

10. What’s one of your biggest pet peeves?

People who try too hard to fit in or be funny or just get noticed in the group. It makes me cringe and the more they try to be something they’re not, the more I stay away from them.

11. Favorite book?
The Outsiders

12. What’s one thing you admire about your boyfriend?

His patience. When we first started dating I was so grateful for how he allowed me to go at my own pace. Even now, he’s great with just giving me space and letting me talk when I’m ready – even if it takes a little bit of reminding for him to get the hint that I need some quiet.

13. How’s your doggo doing?

Sooooo good! She’s so well behaved and is just perfect – we are proud doggo parents.

14. Dream job?

This is terrible, but my dream job is to have no job at all lol.

15. What’s one thing you can’t live without?

Music. It’s pretty much the only thing that relieves my anxiety and helps me to feel like I fit in somewhere!

If I missed anyone’s questions, I am so sorry and please drop them below and I will answer! Thank you all for the support, I hope you enjoyed learning a little bit more about me!

3k Yay! Ask Me Questions

I’m about to hit 3,000 followers on WordPress! Hello to all of you, old and new – I’m so happy you’re here! To celebrate, I’d like to do a Q&A for all of you to get to know me. I did one when I reached 2,000 followers a little over a year ago, you can read it here.

Whether it’s about how to grow your blog or instagram, relationship advice, questions for my boyfriend, or questions about me – I’m open to answer any questions to the best of my ability. Drop them here and thank you all so much for your support.

xoxo

Rosie