How Routine Is Unhelpful For Me

Sometimes I find myself lying in bed at night and really unhappy with the way things are going for me. But I just can’t pinpoint what is making me feel that way. I think routine has a lot to do with it.

While others thrive on the 9-5 work schedule, three days a week gym regimen, and staying at home to tidy up on the weekends – I. Can’t. Stand. It.

Every day I wake up, go to work, come home, make dinner, take a nap, go to the gym, go to bed. Nothing ever changes and when it does, it doesn’t make a big enough impact on my life for me to feel like I’m changing it up.

And the more routine my life gets, the more boring other aspects of it become. I start wearing less make up, start caring less about how I look. I don’t get as excited for vacations because I know the routine is just a three day weekend away.

I like planning ahead, I like knowing what my week is going to look like. What I can’t stand is the consistency of boredom, the feeling that things might not ever change. And then I’m reminded to switch things up. I start wearing lipstick to work and do something fun on a week day night.

But eventually, since my life inevitable revolves around routine, I fall back into my boring and unhappy ways. Routine may be helpful to some, but it sucks for me.

hc
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Why Do You Care?

I’m not sure why, but humans love to get involved in other people’s business and get offended by that same business. And I’m not talking politics or about hateful people, I’m talking about day to day activities that don’t influence you at all.

We get offended over people having tattoos, the way people dress, how they aren’t polite enough, how they aren’t social enough, that they forgot to wear a bra, or they are wearing too much make up.

But why do you care so much?

If you don’t like the way someone looks, then just move on and don’t look the way they do. If you don’t like curvy girls wearing bikinis then don’t look. If you don’t like someone’s outfit then don’t go out and buy that outfit.

Some of the things we work ourselves up over or choose to be mean over are so trivial and avoidable. And I know sometimes things just pop into our heads, we don’t mean to be unkind. But I read once that the first thought that goes through your head is what you have been conditioned to think, what you think next defines who you are.

So, yes, sometimes I think “what was that girl thinking posting that half-naked picture of herself on Instagram, yuck!” But then I immediately think “at least she loves herself and feels confident, do you!”

I think we all need to step back before we react and think about why we really care about the things we get mad about especially when it comes to other people who have no real direct impact on our life. Sure, some things are justified. But it’s easier and better to just let the little things go and make way for the bigger battles – which there are plenty of.

hc
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The Hookup On: My Completed Spring Bucket List

The spring bucket list had a really slow start, the past two weeks I tried to ramp it up and get everything done because I really have no excuse as to why I couldn’t do it all! I can’t believe  we’re closing in already on the first day of summer, it totally snuck up on me! The summer bucket list will be coming at ya soon and I’m determined to get a lot more done.

  1. Visit 3 out of state/country locations
  2. Go to a NYCFC soccer game
    I’m hoping I can go to another one!
  3. Visit wolf preserve
  4. Hit over 7,000 Instagram followers
  5. Go blonder
    (coming to ya end of July, couldn’t get an appointment in June!
  6. Completely furnish my apartment
  7. Make more time for friends
  8. Learn to knit baby booties
    They are ready for my niece or nephew who is coming in August 🙂
  9. Turn 24
  10. Go to the gym at least 3 times a week
    (sort offf?)
  11. Host a game night
    Highly recommend you buy the Oregon Trail card game, it is so. fun.
  12. Treat myself to the list of lush items and clothing items I’ve been wanting
  13. Stop eating donuts every week
  14. Hit over 2,000 WordPress followers
  15. Feel healthier overall
  16. Go hiking in 3 different locations
  17. Be my best self
    Getting there at least.
  18. Read 5 books Did you accomplish anything fun this spring?


Why I Am Obsessed With Summer

The person I am in winter and the person I am in summer are two completely different people. From December to April you can basically guarantee that I am going to be a miserable mush that doesn’t want to do anything but hibernate.

Like actually eat tons of Chipotle to store fat and sleep for months.

I am obsessed with summer and obsessed with the happiness I associate with it. The warmth, sunshine, vacations, and relaxed days bring me to another level. You’ll never hear me complaining about how hot it is because if it’s under 75 degrees out I’m shivering and in pain.

Work is easier during the summer which makes life easier. I can take more days off without worrying, go down to the beach on the weekends, and plan vacations. The sun stays out until 8:30 pm so I can do more after work. Unlike in the winter, when it’s dark before I even get home and I immediately crawl into bed.

Summer came at just the right time for me because winter and spring (was there even a spring? It just felt like an extended winter to me) really put me down and that impacts every part of me. I was getting concerned that I was just permanently a sad person. But now that warmer weather and summer is here, I can feel it all changing for the better again.

What season is your favorite?

hc
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Do What You Have To After A Break Up

How do I know when a girl just went through a break up? She starts posting selfies, deep quotes and poetry, and sharing Thought Catalog articles about how being alone is better (at least share my blog posts guys, come on). And then all of her relationship pictures start to fade from her social media. Her profile picture changes to a solo pic or a photo of a girl’s night out. And the status quietly changes to single.

It’s all a little cliche. That whole dying your hair a wacky color after a break up to try to change your identity. People talk about it all the time and poke fun at the girls having their poetry induced break through. They talk about how much she’s changed and how funny it is that she never used to act that way.

Well, they change because break ups change you. They force you to look at yourself as a lone person and understand who you truly are. Maybe you are a blonde at heart, a party girl, or an independent being.

Who cares what anyone else thinks? As if they’ve never had a life shattering break up, as if they’ve never hit their single and ready to mingle phase.

We’re all guilty of it, and even if we weren’t, girl, DO YOU! Do what you have to to find yourself,  to feel better and move on. If you have to make out with a lot of people, do it. If you have to talk crap on your ex, do it. If it makes you feel better I did it on a blog for all of the world to see, you can just do it in a group chat. Or start a blog. Why not?

If you have to share poetry about fueling your fucking fire, shout out Christopher Poindexter, then DO it. No one can tell you how to heal. Don’t ever feel silly about the things you are doing to better yourself and move on. I’m rooting for you and every girl who has had their life changed by a break up is rooting for you.

hc
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Happy Birthday To Me!

This year’s birthday feels a little different and unexciting than they have in the past. I am 24 years old today! 23 was a challenging year, I had to grow up a lot and survive in the real world. I’m in a relationship and had to kind of relearn what it was like to be part of a couple. 23 was a learning experience, but that’s what life’s all about – right?

Thank you all who have been following along with me since I was 20 years old (weird, right?!) This blog has transformed over the years and I owe a lot to you guys. And thank you to anyone who has been following even for one year, one week, one day, or one hour! I am so appreciative of the support.

As a birthday present to me, I’d love if you could reblog or link back to me in the following weeks. I’m working on getting 2,000 WordPress followers and I’m at 1,700 so I have a little bit of a ways to go.

OR

If you’re feeling charitable, I’d love for you to donate here: https://my.charitywater.org/matt-hoffman-2/matt-hoffman.  We are working towards getting $1000 to provide others with clean drinking water.

Thanks again to everyone who is reading this! I already kind of celebrated my birthday by traveling to Montreal last weekend, it was a blast and I will be writing about it soon ! Stay tuned and cheers to 24 years old.

xoxo

Rosie