Taking it slow sounds easy enough. You're trying to ease into a new relationship, tip toe around some things to avoid rushing in too fast and getting hurt. There's nothing wrong with taking it slow. In fact, I would encourage it. Falling head over heels in love sounds nice and all - but it also…
The trouble with people who are over-eager is that we are often over-everything. We are over-thinkers, we are over-dramatic, we over-romanticize, we are overwhelmed. So getting too excited about things just comes with the territory. Because one small possibility opens up so many doors for us. We non stop think about how this could work…
I’m a pessimist. Not because I see the world as only bad, even though it seems that way a lot of the time. But I’m a pessimist because I always expect the worst - that way I’m rarely ever disappointed. I don’t like to get my hopes up just to be let down. It’s happened…
Relationships are a fragile thing. One string becomes frayed, it gets snagged, and the whole thing unravels into your hands. You never saw it coming. Basically since the start of this blog, I've expressed my fears on settling. Especially settling for someone you don't really love. Settling for less than fireworks, all in romance, and…
A mid-life crisis is an emotional crisis of identity and self-confidence that can occur in early middle age. So I think that would make a mid-relationship crisis an emotional crisis of identity and self-confidence that can occur in early mid-relationship. I think it's very easy to have an identity crisis in a relationship. Before I started…
My first serious relationship was 4 years long and when I say serious, I took it very seriously. I pictured marriage and kids. Planned where we'd live, where I'd go to college, and how our lives would be. At that point in my life, I would frequently say "why bother being in a relationship with…
I don't like my exes, not a single one of them. My relationships/spurts of dating/long-time hook ups ended poorly often. I might've not liked them even before we broke up. Sometimes I stopped liking them during the break up process. Other times, we were friendly for a while, but I ultimately stopped liking them. Mostly…
No two relationships are exactly the same. But it is possible that similar feelings will bubble up. That falling in love will seem familiar. It's possible that you'll get into the same fights you've gotten in before or feel hurt just like you did before. That doesn't mean your new relationship is exactly like your…
Continue reading ➞ When A New Relationship Reminds You Of An Old One
Reposted from 2016 I didn't really know who I was until a few years ago. Internally, throughout my teen years, I had a strong sense of self. I knew what I wanted but just didn't know how to get it. I couldn't externalize what I was feeling internally which made me very lost. I thought…
Continue reading ➞ I Want To Be Alone But I Don’t Want To Be Alone
Even when I was immature I think I was more mature than most people my age. When I was younger I dated someone older than me and I thought that I would continue that pattern because guys my age or younger just seemed sooo immature. Your age and your maturity level don't always correlate. People…
