Why I Didn’t Miss College After Graduation

College was the best four years of my life, hands down. I hated high school and turned it all around in college.

But four years was really all I needed.

In some ways, college felt short. As I put on my graduation cap, it felt like I had just moved into a dorm I hated with a failing relationship nipping at my heels. As I walked to the ceremony with my friends, it felt like I had just been trying to crack open my shell and form those relationships I had heard everyone talking about. As I grabbed my diploma, it felt like I had just been getting lost on my way to class yesterday.

In other ways, college felt long. Because I met a lot of people that were great, but also a lot of people that were awful. I had a great education, but also some very useless classes at very early times. I had learned a lot about myself, but I had learned it the hard way.

In four years, I explored every aspect of myself. I did everything I needed to do to find out who I truly am. It took a lot of time, it took a lot of heart break, a lot of tears and fights. It included a lot of drama that was unnecessary and a lot of long late night talks that were.

When I graduated college, I was happy. I wasn’t sad to leave behind the university that taught me so much. Or the sorority that raised me. Or the professors that guided me.

Of course I would miss living with my best friends when I moved in with my parents. And I would definitely miss sleeping in or even sleeping all day without a care in the world. I would miss having less responsibilities and the ability to have fun all the time – but it’s more nostalgia than it is sadness. It was a good time, but now it’s over. Now it’s time to have different good times.

I dove head first into postgrad life and I couldn’t be happier. I shed my college self skin and found a version of myself that makes me truly happy. I still learn a lot, I still have great friends, and I still sleep in on the weekends. I appreciate everything college gave me, but I don’t miss it at all. You can’t if you look at your new life with positivity, if you give the postgrad life a chance and learn to live it up in a different way. It’s a whole new world waiting for you to explore it.

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I Love Being An Intern

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For someone who has lived in the same state for 18 years, I don’t particularly like being stagnant. I like to consistently meet new people, do new things, and never stop learning.

That’s why I love being an intern.

I had an internship almost every year that I was in college and even if some of them weren’t what I thought they were going to be, I still loved having the opportunity to be an intern at a different company every summer.

Because what’s life if you’re not being taught new things all the time?  You don’t just leave school and settle with the information you have, you continue to yearn for more knowledge and skill sets.

I wish I could be an intern forever, work somewhere temporarily and learn a whole new field of work and business.  Then move on to the next one.  One of my biggest fears (as I’m searching for a career) is that I will get a job in a place where my learning will come to a halt.  Yes, I’ll be getting the necessary experience to move on to a second job eventually. But that’s not after a couple of months, it’s after a couple years with the same company where you’re probably doing the same thing.

I like being good at what I do and would enjoy to work for a company for a couple of years, as long as there will be growth in the long run.  As an intern, everyone around you is constantly pushing you to grow.  They are forcing you outside of your comfort zone and giving you a new experience.  Can I also find this in a career?

Whether it’s working in a huge corporate office or small business, whether you’re the only intern or in a group with others, whether you’re actually being productive or kind of just clicking around on the computer all day – having an internship can give you the ability to unlock a ton of knowledge that you just can’t learn in college.  And trust me, you won’t really learn what your future career is all about from the professors who are just talking at you in a classroom.

I love being an intern, but the real world requires me to work a full time job for the rest of my life.  So I’ll take my skills from each internship, call it years of experience, and try to get a big girl job as soon as possible.

Why I Don’t Want To Be Your Girlfriend

I came into college almost two years deep into a relationship that I thought was going to be the rest of my life.  I came to find, as most young people do, that forever just isn’t as long as I thought it was going to be.  I readjusted and came to realize many things.

Being alone is one of the greatest things you will ever learn in college. You only have four years and a lot of people spend them trying to find someone to spend the rest of their eighty years with.  I realized how easy it was to meet people because of this “hookup culture.” From Twitter to Tinder to going to the bar or to class or to a frat party.  There are interesting people everywhere and you don’t necessarily have to tie yourself to one person.

Although there are still double standards, women have so much power now.  I think there was a time where it was just expected that all girls were desperate for a boyfriend, but that time is far gone. We aren’t expected to be married with kids at 23. That’s all fine and dandy if that’s your dream – but our generation has the ability to do so much more.  Our careers and education are taking so much time in our life that the fantasy of being married with kids by 23 almost seems cringeworthy (at least to me.)

I can barely make time to eat anything other than what I can stick in the microwave let alone spend a majority of my time texting, calling, hanging out with, and worrying about my boyfriend. I’m busy focusing on my internships, my schoolwork, all the clubs I’m involved in, social experiences, my amazing friends, and most importantly my future.  In the next ten years I don’t see myself settled at a 9-5, living in the suburbs, with 2 mini-me’s running around.  In fact, the thought of that kind of makes me shudder.

I’m sure there are plenty of people at our age who have found the one they want to be with for the rest of their lives.  They’re content and completely interested by the one that they have and that’s fine, but I’m still curious.

So I don’t want to be your girlfriend.  It’s not because I’m a bitch, it’s not because I’m heartless or incapable of commitment, and it’s not because I’m so afraid of getting my heart broken again.  It’s because I’m making time for me and all the wonderful and new things life is constantly throwing at me. And I just can’t afford to miss out on my youth right now.

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