Good Comes From The Bad

Doesn’t it always feel like everything just goes to hell the moment you thought everything was fine? Like you can’t enjoy a perfect moment because it will most likely be ruined. You can’t enjoy the good because the bad is inevitable. Admitting you’re happy will bring sadness so you try to keep the thought suppressed so you don’t jinx it.

I guess the upside of that is once you hit rock bottom, you can only go up. Sure, the yo-yoing of emotions is exhausting. But it’s reassuring to know things really can’t get any worse. It makes the happier moments easier to enjoy – even if you are afraid that it will be ripped away at any moment.

The thing is, you can’t be afraid. You can’t live your life in fear that if you become happy then everything will go straight to hell again. How are you ever going to build back up to that good place if you can’t let go of the bad?

You have to keep moving forward. Bad doesn’t always come from the good. It’s just easier to recognize when you’re unhappy rather than when you’re content. Good does always come from the bad. It stops raining and the sun starts shining eventually. Sometimes it will take longer than others, sometimes it feels like it has been raining your whole life.

But it’s not true. Focus on the good things, no matter how little they are. And in your darkest moments, remember that there is a bright one not too far away.

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Why I Don’t Care

I know how to make decisions.  I know how to end things when they are going badly and I know how to determine what is making me happy and what is not.

Sometimes, though, those decisions are made and some time will pass. That “goodbye” gets twisted up into a bunch of nostalgic feelings that make me want to say “hello” again.  I’ll dip my toes back in the pool, only to get a harsh and cold reminder as to why I left in the first place.

I get moments of caring, but for the most part I don’t care anymore.

The reasoning behind not caring about past relationships falls on the fact that I was either hurt by someone else or I realized I was hurting myself too much or hurting someone else.  It makes it easy to let go of things when they cause more pain than love.

When I see your pictures, even though I miss you, I just feel disgust.  When I think of our time together, even though it was fun, I only feel embarrassment. When I see your friends out and about, even though we used to be friends too, I only feel shame. When I think about rekindling an old flame, I only feel pain – and that’s why I don’t care.

I don’t care if you have a new girlfriend or if you’re having more fun without me.  I don’t care if you cheated on me or said awful things about me.  I don’t care if you yelled at me or I screamed at you. I don’t care because it’s easier not to care than to feel heartbreak all over again.

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The People Who Build You Up

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Sometimes, people just don’t get enough credit.  We often see the bad before we can ever see the good.  Even if we do see the good, one bad thing will change every pretty thought we’ve had about someone into something ugly.

So here’s a big thank you to the people who build me up.

It’s rare to find the special people in your life that just want to succeed.  It’s in our human nature to do better than others and to be the best we can be.  Therefore, it’s in our human nature to want other people to fail.

When searching for people to surround yourself with, always look for the people who want the best for you.  Whether it’s a girlfriend, boyfriend, best friend, boss, or your family – your inner circle should only contain those who want to see you happy.  You can tell them your secrets, fears, and excitements because they’ll keep them hushed, they’ll calm you down, and they’ll be jumping for joy right next to you.

Even the most independent of people need someone to tell them “you can do it” and “great job!” We’ll never be tough enough to live without these kind of people.

Ditch the people that only live to bring you down.  The people who get jealous of your accomplishments rather than pop bottles of champagne with you, the people who whisper behind your back about your worries instead of calm you down, the people who consistently say you aren’t good enough – they can all go.  Because there are people in this world who love you enough to build you up, so cling to them, and don’t forget to thank them.