How Routine Is Unhelpful For Me

Sometimes I find myself lying in bed at night and really unhappy with the way things are going for me. But I just can’t pinpoint what is making me feel that way. I think routine has a lot to do with it.

While others thrive on the 9-5 work schedule, three days a week gym regimen, and staying at home to tidy up on the weekends – I. Can’t. Stand. It.

Every day I wake up, go to work, come home, make dinner, take a nap, go to the gym, go to bed. Nothing ever changes and when it does, it doesn’t make a big enough impact on my life for me to feel like I’m changing it up.

And the more routine my life gets, the more boring other aspects of it become. I start wearing less make up, start caring less about how I look. I don’t get as excited for vacations because I know the routine is just a three day weekend away.

I like planning ahead, I like knowing what my week is going to look like. What I can’t stand is the consistency of boredom, the feeling that things might not ever change. And then I’m reminded to switch things up. I start wearing lipstick to work and do something fun on a week day night.

But eventually, since my life inevitable revolves around routine, I fall back into my boring and unhappy ways. Routine may be helpful to some, but it sucks for me.

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Photo by: https://www.flickr.com/photos/zemlinki/

Why Do You Care?

I’m not sure why, but humans love to get involved in other people’s business and get offended by that same business. And I’m not talking politics or about hateful people, I’m talking about day to day activities that don’t influence you at all.

We get offended over people having tattoos, the way people dress, how they aren’t polite enough, how they aren’t social enough, that they forgot to wear a bra, or they are wearing too much make up.

But why do you care so much?

If you don’t like the way someone looks, then just move on and don’t look the way they do. If you don’t like curvy girls wearing bikinis then don’t look. If you don’t like someone’s outfit then don’t go out and buy that outfit.

Some of the things we work ourselves up over or choose to be mean over are so trivial and avoidable. And I know sometimes things just pop into our heads, we don’t mean to be unkind. But I read once that the first thought that goes through your head is what you have been conditioned to think, what you think next defines who you are.

So, yes, sometimes I think “what was that girl thinking posting that half-naked picture of herself on Instagram, yuck!” But then I immediately think “at least she loves herself and feels confident, do you!”

I think we all need to step back before we react and think about why we really care about the things we get mad about especially when it comes to other people who have no real direct impact on our life. Sure, some things are justified. But it’s easier and better to just let the little things go and make way for the bigger battles – which there are plenty of.

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photo by: https://www.flickr.com/photos/david_bekaert/

The Hookup On: My Completed Spring Bucket List

The spring bucket list had a really slow start, the past two weeks I tried to ramp it up and get everything done because I really have no excuse as to why I couldn’t do it all! I can’t believe  we’re closing in already on the first day of summer, it totally snuck up on me! The summer bucket list will be coming at ya soon and I’m determined to get a lot more done.

  1. Visit 3 out of state/country locations
  2. Go to a NYCFC soccer game
    I’m hoping I can go to another one!
  3. Visit wolf preserve
  4. Hit over 7,000 Instagram followers
  5. Go blonder
    (coming to ya end of July, couldn’t get an appointment in June!
  6. Completely furnish my apartment
  7. Make more time for friends
  8. Learn to knit baby booties
    They are ready for my niece or nephew who is coming in August 🙂
  9. Turn 24
  10. Go to the gym at least 3 times a week
    (sort offf?)
  11. Host a game night
    Highly recommend you buy the Oregon Trail card game, it is so. fun.
  12. Treat myself to the list of lush items and clothing items I’ve been wanting
  13. Stop eating donuts every week
  14. Hit over 2,000 WordPress followers
  15. Feel healthier overall
  16. Go hiking in 3 different locations
  17. Be my best self
    Getting there at least.
  18. Read 5 books Did you accomplish anything fun this spring?


Headed To Montreal!

Hey guys!

I’m headed to Montreal for the weekend – so excited! Thanks to everyone who gave me some tips of what to see and do.

I will be going live on Instagram during the 7ish hour long drive, probably around 1:00 pm EST. If you don’t follow me you can check me out at @rosieculture.

ALSO! While I’m away, you should check out these blogs that I’m currently loving! 🙂

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Happy weekend!

xoxo

Rosie

10 Ways To Celebrate The Little Things

Last year, I celebrated everything. New job? Champagne! Birthday? Champagne! Seeing my friends for brunch? Champagne!

And it was awesome. From the smallest to largest things, we celebrated and it made everyone feel good. Because why not make every occasion a special occasion? I kind of lost track of celebrating things because I got too busy to even care about my accomplishments. And that’s no way to live, we should all be proud of the things we’ve done and should celebrate them, no matter how big the feat!

Here are some ways to celebrate the little things:

  1. Get yourself some flowers – buy them in a store, pick a daisy in a field, you deserve some beauty in your life!
  2. Make your favorite food – indulge a little, I buy Chipotle to celebrate everything and it makes me super happy.
  3. Give someone a gift – surprising your friends with little presents goes a long way. I sent some of my college friends $5 each on Valentine’s Day to buy a drink or some chocolate for themselves.
  4. Take a selfie look good, feel good, show it off!
  5. Do nothing – give yourself a break, you’ve been working so hard so just binge-watch some Netflix!!
  6. Pop champagne – doesn’t matter if it’s a $5 bottle (ick) just pop that baby and celebrate!
  7. Get together with your friends – let them celebrate with you!
  8. Treat yo self to some new clothes – or whatever item you’ve been storing in your online shopping cart, go ahead and purchase it.
  9. Call your mom – you KNOW she’s gonna be hyped for you.
  10. Write down your accomplishments and what you’re grateful for – put some things in perspective and just take a moment to feel good about your life.
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photo by: https://www.flickr.com/photos/corrinespictures/

 

Accepting Break Up Blame

I don’t like my exes, not a single one of them. My relationships/spurts of dating/long-time hook ups ended poorly often. I might’ve not liked them even before we broke up. Sometimes I stopped liking them during the break up process. Other times, we were friendly for a while, but I ultimately stopped liking them. Mostly due to resentment over any mistrust, being cheated on, or just seeing them be happy when they didn’t let me be happy or caused me to be unhappy for a while.

You may think that because I don’t like them, it probably means they did something wrong. And that’s true, but the bad blood doesn’t fall all on them. As much as I’d like to sit here and play victim, I wasn’t always innocent.

I didn’t cheat, I didn’t intentionally try to hurt people, but I did let things go on longer than they should’ve. I did put a lot of time into things I knew weren’t going to work, did act one way and say the opposite.

I accept some of the break up blame. In most cases, I did the breaking up because I either recognized my faults in the relationship or the guy I was dating at the time did something to screw everything up.

I’ve written a lot about my exes, I’ve written a lot about how much I resent them and how far I’ve come since them. But I’ve shrugged off a lot of the blame until now. I might’ve not been the problem that caused us to break up, but I was part of the problem. All I can do now is move on and grow from it and wish them all the best of luck.

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photo by: https://www.flickr.com/photos/hernanpc/

A Selfie A Day

Last week I wrote a post called Take More Selfies.

Self love is hard. It’s way easier to get gratification from others, and even then that’s not always easy. Sometimes I’ll find myself with the front camera open, looking for my best angle and then close the app saying “I’m too ugly for a selfie.”

And it’s just not true, it’s just not true about anyone. Everyone should feel beautiful enough to take a photo of themselves smiling and feeling good.

So, in an effort to change the way I think about myself, I will be taking one selfie a day for the next 30 days and uploading them to my Instagram story. You can visit my instagram at @rosieculture.

While I’m sure a lot of people will be like “okay cool it with the selfies”, I will be challenging myself to like my appearance and self for 30 days and to find some beauty in the world. What others think doesn’t really matter.

Take the challenge! Whether you want to do it on your own, through Instagram, Facebook, or wherever. I challenge you to love yourself – and feel free to tag me in your pics! 🙂 Photo 1 is below and can be found on my insta story today.

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