The Hookup On: Misfit Vapor Smartwatch

Ever since adopting Kaya, I know my activity level has been up. I’ve skipped the gym a lot, but I walk her every single day. It’s funny to think how one little dog can help kick your butt into gear! I really wasn’t sure how much she was getting me up on my feet though until I started using the Misfit Vapor Smartwatch.

I haven’t used any kind of smartwatch or fitness tracking watch before. I sometimes used my phone’s health statistics but they were pretty unreliable.

The Misfit Vapor Smartwatch is very sleek and modern, I have it in all black. It’s a touchscreen smartwatch that puts everything you need to stay active and connected right on your wrist. I synced it to my iPhone, but it can also be used on Android phones!

Some of the features I love are that it can play music, track my heart rate, and it’s swim proof! I especially love that it connects to my phone and can show my all of my notifications and alerts from my phone.

After syncing up my watch, I realized that I walk 4x more now that I have Kaya! And I realized that I can definitely do better than that. Every month I make a goal to get more active, I’ve been wanting to get in better shape for so long now. I think this watch will provide me with the information and motivation I need to do just that! ūüôā Check it out at¬†www.misfit.com/Vapor.

This is a sponsored post. All opinions are mine.

The Hookup On: Pokémon Go

Let me just start by saying that I’m pretty much the worst nerd ever. I like nerdy things, but I never really know enough about them to be knowledgeable so I’m just kind of weird.

Anyway, when Pok√©mon Go came out I downloaded it right away. Mostly because everyone else was doing it and partly because my tiny, unknowledgeable inner nerd was super excited.

A lot of people have jumped at every opportunity to hate on the game. I’ve heard the stories of people playing and driving or getting into car accidents or trespassing into people’s yards – but as with anything, people just do stupid things sometimes. Pok√©mon Go didn’t need to come out for that to happen.

I’ve seen a lot of positive things come out of it. People thought it was going to be hyped up for like a week then disappear, but I still see a lot of people walking around with the app open. That in itself is great, people actually get up to play this game.

I actually get up to play this game. Seriously the other day I went to the gym then walked around outside the gym just so I could incubate and hatch one of my Pok√©mon eggs. I’ve gone outside and exercised more in the past couple of weeks only because of Pok√©mon Go. It’s pretty crazy.

As an unknowledgeable nerd, I read a bunch of articles along the way to learn about some of the key points of the game. Otherwise, other people who play have given me tips and tricks. It’s all about communication, you get to meet new people and talk about this game that you have in common which is another plus.

Now, if I’m being honest I kind of suck at Pok√©mon Go – especially for someone who plays it so much. But all in all, the app doesn’t need any hate. It is only looking to get people out and talking about a fun game. If we’re going to hate on anything, it might as well be the fact that Instagram has added 24 hour stories. Like that’s just pointless…

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Rejection: The Ghoster And The Ghosted

Ghosting (verb): The act of suddenly ceasing all communication with someone the subject is dating, but no longer wishes to date. This is done in hopes that the ghostee will just “get the hint” and leave the subject alone, as opposed to the subject simply telling them he/she is no longer interested.

Let me start out by saying, I have been ghosted before and I have also ghosted slightly.

One way of ghosting someone you went out on a date with or hooked up with is just never contacting them again. Never answering their texts, deleting their friend requests, and basically ignoring their existence. If there seemed to be a serious connection, you had been on more than one date, or if you had sex – do not ghost someone. That just sucks. You can’t just ignore someone you got to know personally. It’s rude and childish.

I’ve been ghosted like that and all I can really do is shrug my shoulders and move on. It’s not really fair to not offer a slight explanation so that the person you’re ghosting doesn’t go crazy over whether you’re ignoring them or just busy. Or why you didn’t like them or why you didn’t even give a slight hint that you weren’t interested

I’ve never ghosted quite like that, but I have ghosted someone in the sense that I was hoping they would just get the hint. I would avoid making plans with them, take a long amount of time to text back (and let’s face it – we are all always on our phones), and would ignore texts here and there. Does it always work? No, not everyone gets the hint. And eventually it gets to the point where I just stop answering all together. Usually after the third or fourth ignored text they get it…but not all the time.

To back that up, I have straight up told people that I’m not interested, I think we’re too different, I think we have different priorities, etc. And they still don’t get the hint. They harass and feel hurt by it, which in turn makes you feel bad just because you didn’t have a connection with someone and you were trying to let them down nicely.

So don’t ghost. But also, if they don’t get the hint it’s not your fault. Sometimes, you have to stop answering. Show your disinterest in furthering the relationship or just explain why you don’t think it’s going to work. It’s up to both sides to be honest with each other and their own self.

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Let Me Selfie

It’s a selfie revolution. First came the front facing camera, then the selfie stick! We no longer have to twist our bodies into odd positions to get our full outfit or set the self timer on our digital cameras.

The selfie has come a long way, it isn’t something new. We stretched out our arms and hoped that the picture would develop the way we wanted on our disposable camera. We scanned them into our computers to post them online. Myspace and digital cameras had us taking pictures of ourselves and commenting “pc4pc?” under other people’s pictures in order to get more likes.

Some view the selfie in a negative light. They call it self-absorbed and narcissistic. They say we’re showing too much cleavage, or judge for only showing half your face, or hate how many pictures we take of ourselves in general.

I say, just let me selfie.

In a world where everyone is always telling me I’m too fat or too skinny. That my butt isn’t big enough or my lips are too small. That my contour doesn’t look right or my hair is gross. Where everyone strives to be as pretty as the women in magazines and are struggling to love themselves – let me take a selfie.

Let me feel good for one solid moment. Let me throw on a filter and ask for likes on Instagram. Let me feel skinny, pretty, and perfect. Stop telling me I’m a slut or an attention whore or desperate just because I put pictures of myself on the internet.

No one is good enough anymore unless they’re photoshopped or some sort of celebrity. We’re all striving to be something else all the time and it’s exhausting. This world is filled to the brim with negativity. So, for at least a moment, let me take a selfie and be happy with myself.

 

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I Hate Texting

It’s no secret that everyone is glued to their phones. Some people love to bash the way we use technology. They get aggravated over cell phone use at dinner and kids always taking selfies. But really, it’s no different than when we used to plop ourselves down in front of the tv or spend 45 minutes setting up a camera to film something.

I love technology, I love social media, I love taking pictures and videos, I find phone calls uncomfortable, but I hate texting.

I got my cell phone a little bit later in life than most people. Most of my friends had them by 7th or 8th grade, where as I didn’t get mine until halfway through my freshman year of high school. I was attached to the thing 24/7 (unless I was grounded and it was taken away which happened often).

During my first real relationship, we were in contact all day, every day. From the moment I woke up to the moment I went to bed, we would text, call, and video chat with each other. It was my norm. When that relationship ended, I badly ached for someone to talk to every day like that. It was what I was used to.

So when I started dating other boys, they were kind of like a place holder. Someone to text all day so I didn’t feel all alone.

But then I grew up. And I grew more independent.

I can’t stand the thought of texting someone every hour of the day. A mediocre conversation of asking me what’s up, “nothing, I’m at work – how about you?” And then so what’s up now? “I’m still at work…”

Maybe if we all weren’t so ingrained into each other’s lives, relationships would last longer and there would be less drama. Save a little mystery and don’t tell your boyfriend you went to the grocery store to buy a bag of chips. Or talk about the fact that you walked to class and it was cold out today when you see each other in person.

I don’t want to feel obligated to tell someone everything I’m doing because most things are my business only, even if I am in a relationship. Texting sucks all of the life out of relationships. It just takes too damn long to tell stories that you could tell in person or over the phone. Where the other person can react and laugh along.

I don’t want to have to guess at your emotions and think about if you’re mad at me because you put a “.” at the end of your sentence. Everything gets so misconstrued and I’m just tired of explaining my day to someone by taking the time to type it all out with emojis and exclamation points.

I think texting every once in a while is great, but I don’t need the constant communication.

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How To Reject Someone

Rejection is never fun for anyone (at least, it shouldn’t be). You’re telling someone they aren’t good enough or you’re being told that you’re unlikeable. It’s hard to take it the right way and it’s hard to do it the right way, so here’s some tips just in case you find yourself in the aftermath of a date where there is just no connection!

DON’T

1.Put it off

As soon as you aren’t feeling it, say something. The longer you wait, the harder it gets.

2. Avoid

Don’t just keep telling them you’re busy every time they ask you to hang out, they’re just going to keep asking.

3. Lie

Don’t bother saying that your grandma is sick or you’re moving, you’ll probably get caught in your own lie soon enough.

4. Fake interest

Don’t end the date like you just had the best time ever, avoid the first day kiss and give a disinterested wave.

5. Try to be friends

If they aren’t dating material, they probably aren’t friends material.

6. Take back your rejection

Even if they text you again and again and beg you for another chance, it would just be weird.

DO!

1.Send them a well thought out text

This is especially true if it’s someone you barely know, there is no reason to break the news in person and get stuck in awkward emotions.

2.Be honest

If you just didn’t feel a connection, say that. If you think you’re too busy right now and you’re just not interested, say that.

3. Ignore them if they persist.

When you send them the honest and nice text about how you’re just not interested, ignore them if they keep texting you about the why’s and how’s and what if’s.

4. Stick to your intuition.

If you had a bad time on the date or just didn’t like them, stay honest with yourself. Even if they try to talk you out of it or you get lonely, do stick with your gut.

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Loving Someone Who Doesn’t Love You Back

We tend to shield ourselves from pain before anything can really happen, therefore it’s not an every day occasion where we let ourselves fall in love. Especially if we know the person we’re falling in love with doesn’t love us back.

It’s just human nature to avoid the situation all together when you know it’s happening. ¬†This person has made it clear they don’t want to be with you – for any number of reasons. ¬†They just got out of a relationship, they see you as more of a friend, it’s just not the right time. ¬†When this happens you have two choices to make.

1.  Stick around and hope realllllly hard you can be just friends.

Maybe the occasional cuddling and movie watching won’t affect you. ¬†Maybe you can be friends with benefits. ¬†The emotions could just stop here and all will be well.

2. Run like hell.

You KNOW you’re going to fall in love with this person. ¬†Their touch makes your skin burn and you wait by your phone all day for their texts.

Sometimes, we choose to stick around because it’s just so hard to let go of this person we’ve become so attached to. ¬†They always end up breaking our hearts. ¬†You think that maybe since you can’t be casual, you can make them love you back. ¬†You can be all that they want you to be and eventually they’ll have no choice but to love you and live happily ever after.

That rarely happens. ¬†It usually ends in you growing bitter towards the person, toward someone you love, which just ends up in a boiling hatred that is paired with an unrequited love. It’s a pretty awful feeling.

And if you run? Delete them on all forms of social media, ignore them in person, talk shit on them to all of your friends.  Do you think it will make you feel better?

It probably will for a little while, but with anything you love, you will always carry a piece of them with you. ¬†What hurts the most is, while that person piggybacks on your heart for the rest of your life, you’re merely just someone they cared about for a little while and then left. ¬†To them, you’re gone and to you, they are forever.

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