Moving Out Of State – First Impressions

New Hampshire and I didn’t necessarily get off on the right foot. It can seem kind of glamorous to get up and leave the world behind, start somewhere new. But in reality, it’s very very difficult. And I knew that coming into it and I also didn’t set myself up to be in a situation where I would love it right off the bat.

I immediately jumped into a new job when I got here, a job that is much more demanding and requires me to learn a lot in a short period of time. And my boyfriend isn’t moving up with me until the end of the month which means I’ve had a lot of quiet evenings and quiet weekends.

I’m not really one for making friends and I knew that would be my biggest challenge coming up here. It’s too early for me to knock a place because of that. I’ve piled far too much on my plate (as I always do) so my first impression of moving out of state has not been a great one. Especially because we were dumped with snow which put off my boyfriend’s plans to come visit me.

I miss him and my dog and my lizard. I was well-adjusted to living together, to coming home to someone or something every day. Now it’s very very quiet and my apartment is still filled to the brim with boxes and is just a hot mess honestly. I suck at unpacking. I’m kind of just going through the motions in January, knowing that it will be better here in February.

When people start over somewhere new, they make it seem so adventurous and amazing. So I wanted to share my first impressions with you, as that is not always the case.

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Doing The Long Distance Relationship Thing

Temporarily, my boyfriend is living in New Jersey while I’m in New Hampshire. And while this is only for a month and not really a long distance relationship, it makes me really reflect on the people who are open to doing long distance.

My first boyfriend and I were long distance for pretty much our whole relationship. We were never more than two hours apart, but many factors ended up keeping us at a distance. When he was in college, I was in high school and when I was in college he was working and living in the city. Our relationship was forced into these spurts of time together on weekends, breaks, etc. Meaning any free time I had was dedicated to him.

And that becomes exceedingly difficult when you’re trying to put down roots somewhere. You can’t just pick up and leave every weekend or else you’ll never feel settled. And then it comes to a point where you don’t want to pick up and leave every weekend because you’re settled.

I think if my boyfriend and I were truly forced to do long distance for more than say 3 months, it would put a lot of strain on our relationship. We are both people that like to go out and do things and dedicating our free time and weekends to a 5 hour drive is just unreasonable on both ends.

I give a lot of credit to the people that can do it and I hope their quality of life and relationship are still in a good place. I’m just not the kind of person who can live off bi-weekly interactions for years at a time. But I can’t knock it if it works for other people.

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Long Distance Friendships With The Airtime App!

Ever since I graduated college, it seems like my friends are always so far away. When I basically lived in the same room as them for two years – it’s hard to make the adjustment to seeing them only once a month as opposed to once an hour.

I recently discovered an app called Airtime that helps to ease the distance between friends. Unlike Facetime, you can video chat with multiple friends at a time on Airtime. You can also sync up a playlist! Anyone who knows me knows I love my music and I love the pregame before the party. Now, even if I’m not in the same area or going to the same party as my friends, we can video chat and pregame and listen to the same music!

My current playlist includes:

  1. Drops of Jupiter by Train
  2. White Houses by Vanessa Carlton
  3. Wannabe by The Spice Girls
  4. Come On from the Josie and the Pussycats Soundtrack
  5. Hit Me Baby One More Time by Britney Spears
  6. Blister in the Sun by the Violent Femmes
  7. (Cover) Wrecking Ball by Our Last Night
  8. Sk8r Boi by Avril Lavigne
  9. (Cover) Boys of Summer by The Ataris
  10. The Rock Show by Blink 182

I LOVE throwbacks and I especially love jamming out to them with my friends! Let me know in the comments your favorite girl’s night out songs!

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