Age Doesn’t Define Your Life

I’m at that point in my life where everyone I know is either engaged or talking about getting engaged. People say “oh you’re just at that age!” But it’s actually the furthest thing from what I want right now.

And I don’t think my age has anything to do with why I should be getting married. Some people get engaged after a short amount of time, some after a long amount of time – and I don’t care why you got engaged as long as marriage is something you really want and are prepared for.

But not all of us in our twenties are. Maybe not even in our forties. Or our nineties. Some people wait to get engaged to save money, some people just don’t see the rush.

And it’s not even engagement – just because you’re 22 doesn’t mean you need to be finished with college. Just because you’re 30 doesn’t mean you need to own a house. Just because you’re 40 doesn’t mean you need three kids tearing up your home.

It’s terrible to set milestones up based on how old you are. Because we didn’t all live the same life. Some of us got our hearts broken for the first time much later than others. Some of us had to work for money before being able to go to school or move on to a better job. Some of us love travel while some of us love the sense of home. We are all different and you can’t clump a group of twenty-something year olds together and expect them all to be ready and willing for the same path in life.

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Losing Motivation

Lately, the goals I’ve set for myself have become harder and harder to reach. That could push some into working harder and hungrier to complete their list, but for me it’s just a disappointment.

I know numbers and milestones don’t mean everything in life, but they are a good motivator to always strive to be your best self. When those things don’t budge, it becomes easier to focus on all the things that are wrong rather than the many things that are right.

I’ve always been a big supporter of making goals to keep life interesting, even if it’s just very tiny attainable goals that will boost your ego a bit. And I’ve been making what I thought were attainable goals, but I still can’t seem to hit them. The thought of lowering the standards is depressing on top of the bummer it is that I can’t hit any of my goals in the  first place.

I’m losing motivation and I just need to suck it up and accept the fact that I need to go back to the basics, like I have to do with many things in my life right now. Because once I get into this funk there’s no way I can get out of it just by continuing down the same path. Sometimes we just have to admit defeat and start over, sometimes these experiences can be humbling, but they mostly just suck.

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10 Ways To Celebrate The Little Things

Last year, I celebrated everything. New job? Champagne! Birthday? Champagne! Seeing my friends for brunch? Champagne!

And it was awesome. From the smallest to largest things, we celebrated and it made everyone feel good. Because why not make every occasion a special occasion? I kind of lost track of celebrating things because I got too busy to even care about my accomplishments. And that’s no way to live, we should all be proud of the things we’ve done and should celebrate them, no matter how big the feat!

Here are some ways to celebrate the little things:

  1. Get yourself some flowers – buy them in a store, pick a daisy in a field, you deserve some beauty in your life!
  2. Make your favorite food – indulge a little, I buy Chipotle to celebrate everything and it makes me super happy.
  3. Give someone a gift – surprising your friends with little presents goes a long way. I sent some of my college friends $5 each on Valentine’s Day to buy a drink or some chocolate for themselves.
  4. Take a selfie look good, feel good, show it off!
  5. Do nothing – give yourself a break, you’ve been working so hard so just binge-watch some Netflix!!
  6. Pop champagne – doesn’t matter if it’s a $5 bottle (ick) just pop that baby and celebrate!
  7. Get together with your friends – let them celebrate with you!
  8. Treat yo self to some new clothes – or whatever item you’ve been storing in your online shopping cart, go ahead and purchase it.
  9. Call your mom – you KNOW she’s gonna be hyped for you.
  10. Write down your accomplishments and what you’re grateful for – put some things in perspective and just take a moment to feel good about your life.
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