Sometimes There’s Nothing To Write About

I look at my blog sometimes and am just so frustrated with the content I’m putting out. Sometimes it’s too fluffy, sometimes it’s too bare, and sometimes it’s too dark. And sometimes there’s just nothing to write about.

While I want to have consistent blog posts for my readers and it seems like something they want that too, my life isn’t always that interesting. I’m not always having some kind of epiphany, quarter life crisis, or relationship realization. I can’t always strip down my soul and spill my guts to you all because I don’t always have something to spill. I try to be as personal and vulnerable as possible, but then I see other bloggers writing about miscarriages, divorces, bankruptcy and I feel so unauthentic.

When there’s nothing to write about, I make lists. I talk about some of my goals, my to-do lists, I promote myself and other bloggers. But it can feel cheap sometimes that I can only give an emotionally and beautifully composed piece of writing to you all every once in a while.

There are a lot of doubts when it comes to being a blogger and a lot of comparisons. I don’t feel that I fit in the stereotypical blogging niche and my audience here on the blog certainly differs from my audience on Instagram. While there is always something to take a photo of, there’s not always something to write about. So I hope everyone will bear with me through the fluff and folly while I wait for inspiration.

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Follow Me On Social Media

I am so so busy trying to unpack and get settled in New Hampshire, so I might be quiet for a while on the blog! In the meantime, make sure to follow me on social media where I will be trying my best to keep the world updated on my move 🙂 Feel free to leave your links in the comments!

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My Word For 2019

For the past two years, I’ve decided to designate a word to my new year instead of resolutions. In 2017, my word was enough and in 2018, my word was presence. I think about my words from time to time throughout the year and never really feel like I’m accomplishing them until I reflect back. Enough has really made an appearance in my life, I have accepted a lot about myself in the past two years and am generally happy. I am still working on presence and I think that’s mostly due to scrolling through social media so often. But I’m aware of the problem and that means I’m closer to fixing it.

My word for 2019 is going to be adventure. While I like to put on a brave face and show everyone how much I love to do new things, new things actually make me extremely nervous. Traveling, moving, starting something new all give me anxiety and actually give me migraines.

But I’m starting 2019 off with a bang by moving out of state, starting a new job, and basically a new life. I know I will have to make new friends, explore a new area, and balance everything I’m leaving behind in New Jersey.

I’ve decided to accept the adventure and carry that feeling with me throughout the year. It will all be a new learning experience, but I’m going to make it fun and I’m going to make the best of it. Despite the anxiety, I know this is a great step for me so I just need to embrace my adventurous side and see where things take me.

Let me know your word for 2019 below!

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10 Things I Need To Do In NJ Before I Leave

Everyone has little pieces of their home state that they can’t find anywhere else. I decided to write down 10 things I need to do in New Jersey before I move to New Hampshire. Because I know the bagels and pizza won’t be as good, and I know I won’t see the ocean for a while, and bits of my home just won’t be in New Hampshire. But once I’m there, I’ll be sure to make a list of 10 things I need to do in New Hampshire. For now, here’s my list:

  1. Wawa coffee everyyyyy week
  2. Get a North Jersey Bagel
  3. Visit Asbury Park
  4. See the ocean
  5. Lots of jersey pizza
  6. Ring in the New Year with my best friends
  7. Drive past my childhood home
  8. Sunday dinner at grandma’s
  9. Get my gas pumped (I’ll miss this the most)
  10. Go to a diner late at night.
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10 Things I Never Knew I Needed In A Boyfriend

I was very independent before getting in a relationship and didn’t think I’d become so dependent when I got into one. But it’s not dependence in a bad way, it’s dependence in the way that now I have someone to help, someone to lean on, and someone to be there for me. I didn’t know I needed all these things until I had them. Here are 10 things I never knew I needed in a boyfriend:

  1. Someone who lets me win sometimes, but not all the time.
  2. Someone to take care of me.
  3. Someone who might not necessarily find joy in all the things I like to do, but will come with me and pretend to enjoy them anyway.
  4. Someone who will put my success and future first when the time is right.
  5. Someone who is more fearless than me, because I’m a chicken who likes to make big plans with no execution.
  6. Someone who will squash the bugs, open the jars, and make me lunch when I’m too tired.
  7. Someone who is willing to put in an equal amount of work, if not more.
  8. Someone who sees right through my mood swings.
  9. Someone who would do anything for me, but can still take care of themselves.
  10. Someone who is there, all the time, but you still miss when they leave for an hour.
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Yay 3k! Answers To Your Questions

Thank you all for your questions! Whenever I post an ask for questions, I get so nervous no one is going to respond haha! I am thrilled to welcome 3,000 followers to my WordPress blog and to give you all a chance to learn a little bit more about me. If any of these questions/answers spark more questions for you – feel free to ask me! And if you’re new here I’d love if you’d just drop a smiley face or hello in the comments.

1.What’s the best compliment you ever received?

It’s hard to narrow it down to one, but I think the best compliments are ones that are about things you didn’t know people noticed and are from people you didn’t even know noticed you. Throwing it back to 7th grade, I was in an English class where we all became really close friends and one boy wrote us all little notes at the end of the year and his note described me as a rebel without a cause and went on a little bit complimenting me. It’s always stuck with me, I might still have it in a box somewhere.

2. Where do you see your blog in 1, 3 and 5 year’s time?

In one year, I imagine I’ll still be in the same place I am now. In three years, I would hope I’ve grown a bit and finally reached 10k on Instagram so I can have the swipe up feature and promote my blog/brands more. In five years, I honestly don’t know if the influencer side of my blog will still be around (like working with brands or managing my instagram). It’s exhausting and I might just revert back to blogging without any pressure.

3. What is your next big goal in life in general?

Hmm this is tough because I like to set mini goals for myself and don’t often look too far into the future. I’ve never been the kind of person to say “I want to be making three figures by the time I’m 35!” or “I NEED to be married by 29!” My only main goals that I am continuously working at are traveling as much as I possibly can and finding true comfort and happiness with myself.

4. Do you frequently get contacted by companies for sponsored posts since your blog is so big?!

Nope. Lol I don’t consider my blog to be very big at all and it’s actually taken me almost 4 years to get where I am today which would be considered slow in the blogging world. I am contacted maybe once a month by companies, most of those are asking me to do things for free or in exchange for product so I don’t normally take them up on the offer. I am part of a lot of influencer networks (Social Native, Ambassadher, ApexDrop) where they partner me with brands and I either get paid or I only accept product that I really love/is worth my time in price and quality.

5. What’s one piece of advice you would go back and give yourself when you were first starting out as a blogger?

Do more research and ask more questions to other bloggers. There were so many blogging tools I missed out on my first couple years because I was just winging it. There are so many facebook groups to help out about blogging and articles about growing engagement and influencer networks. I wish I knew more sooner.

6. What’s underrated about New Jersey?

It has everything in one place. The ocean, the mountains, farms, and even cities are not too far away. The scenery of New Jersey is just breathtaking but most people never get much further than Hoboken or the Newark airport so they never get to see it. Asbury Park is a hub of art and music, the jersey shore is magnificent when all the shoobies leave, and the hiking brings you to massive waterfalls and great foliage. I love NJ!

7. Of your friends family etc who reads your blog? Would you ever go to a blogger bash?

My friends read my blog, my boyfriend’s family sometimes reads my blog, people I know from college still read it. My family doesn’t read it too much but I know they have read it in the past. I would love to go to a blogger meet up, but I don’t think I’d like to go to any blogger conventions just yet.

8. How do you find new and interesting content/subjects to write about? Also, do you plan your posts or write when you feel like?

I just write about what I know. I don’t think it’s always interesting, but it’s usually something I get off my chest. My inspiration usually comes from a part of a conversation I’m having and I just jot down the idea. I write when I’m inspired, I can’t force myself to write it just comes out awful. But I save the posts and schedule them because I like to post at least 2x a week and ideas are mostly always flowing for me.

9. How do you promote your posts? What works best for you?

I try to post twice a week and when I do I will “reschedule” my blog post so it posts on the WordPress reader more than once through the day. I also share on Facebook and Twitter but really need to work on getting readers through those platforms.

10. What’s one of your biggest pet peeves?

People who try too hard to fit in or be funny or just get noticed in the group. It makes me cringe and the more they try to be something they’re not, the more I stay away from them.

11. Favorite book?
The Outsiders

12. What’s one thing you admire about your boyfriend?

His patience. When we first started dating I was so grateful for how he allowed me to go at my own pace. Even now, he’s great with just giving me space and letting me talk when I’m ready – even if it takes a little bit of reminding for him to get the hint that I need some quiet.

13. How’s your doggo doing?

Sooooo good! She’s so well behaved and is just perfect – we are proud doggo parents.

14. Dream job?

This is terrible, but my dream job is to have no job at all lol.

15. What’s one thing you can’t live without?

Music. It’s pretty much the only thing that relieves my anxiety and helps me to feel like I fit in somewhere!

If I missed anyone’s questions, I am so sorry and please drop them below and I will answer! Thank you all for the support, I hope you enjoyed learning a little bit more about me!