I liked September, but I’m glad it’s over. My busy season at work starts in October and I feel like September is just filled with anticipation, I’d rather just dive right in. But, I’m excited for Halloween movies and fall activities so bring it on October! 🙂
Favorite show: The Good Place.
Favorite memory: Going to New Hampshire with my boyfriend and our dog!
Favorite place: Littleton, New Hampshire. Cutest town EVER! They have a covered bridge here that looks like it’s straight from a Bob Ross painting.
Favorite meal: The only thing I crave lately is mochi.
Favorite Instagram: We have a tradition to go apple picking and watch spooky movies every year!
I’m not a huge fan of scary movies, but I am a huge fan of creepy, weird, and dark Halloween movies. More specifically, any Tim Burton movie. I’ve made my own list of 13 Halloween movies to watch this October, the ones bolded I’ve already watched!
Let me know if you love any of these movies or if you have any other Halloween movie suggestions 🙂
What made you start writing a blog? When I was a senior in college I was Concentrating in New Media, I started the blog for a class project without a clue of how much it would end up snowballing into this huge part of my life.
What makes you? What is perfection in this imperfect world? Are you pursuing your dream? Analytical or follower? Producer or consumer? I am driven by passion and learning. Perfection to me is simply happiness, whatever that may be for you. I’m not sure what my dreams are at the moment, but I feel I’m on the right path. I question everything and I believe I am a producer.
What is something about yourself that not many people know? What is your secret passion? I think most people kind of assuming I’m outgoing, but I’m extremely introverted and like being alone. I’m too passionate about my passions to keep them a secret 🙂
What motivates you to get out of the bed in the morning and tackle the day? Mostly the thought of eating good food.
What do you do to make yourself feel better when you’re having a bad day? I complain A LOT, it’s annoying to others but helps me haha
Favourite Book? Favourite Film? Favourite TV Show? Currently: The Perks of Being a Wallflower, Edward Scissorhands, and Scrubs
What is one thing you could not live without? Cheese because omg it’s so good
Who is your favorite author? Why? Probably Ellen Hopkins, I enjoy her writing style.
If you were stranded on some uninhabited island, what would you do? If you can ask for 5 things to have with you on there, what would they be? I would probably sleep a lot haha I would bring my phone, food, water, a buddy, and a book.
Ever read “Me Before You?” What are your thought about dignitas? Would you do the same? I have! I completely respect and understand the decision and would do the same.
What is your biggest fear? Ugh sharks and spiders.
What’s your worst online dating story? One time I got ghosted which sucked. Another time I actually had to reject someone who thought the date went extremely well and that was hard and awkward for me – the whole date was so uncomfortable.
Approximately how many other blogs do you read a day? I skim through a lot, but I read in depth maybe 5 a day.
Which social platform did the majority of your followers come from; WordPress, Facebook, Twitter, Instagram? Definitely WordPress then Facebook.
How did you get your job in social media? I went to school for Advertising, Journalism, and New Media. I’ve loved social media my whole life so working in a communications department was a perfect fit for me. I started at a very small non profit after graduation and now I am at a much bigger one.
How much do you work with Facebook Ads etc.? I don’t work with them but I am actually looking into it for 2017.
Do you know anyone who subsequently married after meeting them on a dating website? I don’t! I do know about 3 couples who met via Tinder/Bumble and they have been dating for months so it is possible 🙂
Thank you for all your questions – hope you all enjoyed learning a little more about me 🙂
Every relationship I’ve ever been in was built on uncertainty. They were just like the movies, where there would be some sort of conflict and unrequited love. It was exciting, it made me think that all love needs to be that way. That we need to overcome some kind of problem in order to truly appreciate each other.
Is there love without the drama? I find it hard to believe that every relationship needs to be built off of some kind of crisis. But that’s just what I’m used to, I’m used to having to fight for it. Even though my past relationships didn’t work out, it doesn’t mean there wasn’t something done right in all of that wrong.
Can it all just be smiles and butterflies? On one hand, I’ve heard that love is a constant uphill battle. But on the other hand, I’ve heard when it’s the one everything is easy. I feel like it can’t be both.
Without the drama, there just seems to be a lack of excitement. And as someone who grew up on star crossed lovers and as a hopeless romantic, I just don’t know if I can commit to a drama free love. Bella couldn’t be with Edward because he was a vampire. I couldn’t be with one of my exes because of an age difference. We like to be able to fight for someone – so what do we do when they’re just sitting in the palm of our hands, no problems in sight?
All we want to do is fall in love, we’re all so addicted to the feeling. We want someone to want us, we want to be needed, we want everything we’ve read in the books or we’ve seen in the movies. Can love really be easier than we thought it was? Can you get everything you’ve ever wanted and more without putting your life on the line for someone? Can that addicting love be obtained without all of the drama?
We’re just not used to things in life being simple, especially when it comes to love.
When we think back to being young we often think of the great times. We think about how we were worry free for so long, how life was filled with ignorant bliss and simple happiness. Most of us choose to forget the part of being young that meant being really weird and awkward…
For me, sixth grade was when getting a boyfriend was really important. Not like an actual boyfriend, just someone you called your boyfriend and held hands with and wrote about in your AIM profile – “K.M. ilysm always and forever &<3;“. I know it’s different for kids now, the importance of getting attention from the opposite sex starts at a much younger age and their definition of boyfriend goes way past mine from when I was young. But from sixth grade on, getting attention from boys was a top priority.
Through social media, television, movies, magazines, my friends, my older siblings, etc; I had formed an idea in my mind of what I had to do to get boys to like me. It was really that important and as a lanky (and transitioning into the opposite of lanky) 13 year old girl I thought I needed to be a certain way for boys to like me. The way all of the popular girls got the boys to like them. Looking back, they probably had the same idea as me – they just knew how to execute it better. They also didn’t have braces and a love for Avril Lavigne that was made apparent through clothing choices.
This is something that inflicted my young and naiive self, but still impacts women my age and older to this day. We want to please everyone by trying to imitate what the media portrays as desirable such as being:
As a middle schooler, there had to be some sort of sadness and complexity to me that I could open up about. Even though I was 13 and my main problem was really the fact that my orthodontist was mean to me.
I always see this on the media. Boys just fall in love with the girl that is tripping over her own feet, that always needs to be saved.
The girl that was too loud and overbearing didn’t seem desirable, she had way too much going on for a guy to want to deal with.
4. Skinny/always done up
I think I’ve been wearing make up since the end of 5th grade when I clearly didn’t need it and probably would’ve looked better without the blue eye shadow.
5. Unique but not weird
This was so hard – you had to be different enough from the polo wearing posse to get noticed, but if you were too different you could forget about anyone ever taking you seriously.
Girls to this day – ages 8, 13, 18, 25, 45, and up – still want to be what boys want them to be. They forget their sense of self just because they’re single and aren’t getting a lot of attention.
I still find myself being guilty of it, trying to seem like someone I’m not just to reel someone in for a little while. Self love can be preached every hour of every day, but so many people believe you need someone to love you in order to love yourself. In reality, being yourself is what is going to get boys to like you. At least the ones that matter.
My mind has always been very boy centered. I blame it on all of the books I read and romantic movies I find myself watching on Netflix at 1 AM. I’m always dating someone, crushing on someone, pissed off at someone, or dumping someone. My boy-crazy head is always looking for some kind of companionship.
Then there will be these brief moments of time where I’m just over it. When a boy flirts with me, butterflies don’t flutter in my stomach and I don’t immediately play out our lives together in my head. I don’t care that I’m not going to the bar and might miss out on meeting my soulmate, because that’s pretty irrational. I enjoy all the time with friends and being on my own and it’s nice to feel like I don’t need anyone but myself.
Unfortunately, that’s not human nature and the feeling doesn’t last long. We all cling to being wanted, but there are times where the drama of it all is just too much to handle. It would be nice if that confidence in being alone could last forever. it surely would help with building relationships in the future.
For now, I’ll continue to be on the constant look out for an epic love. But, I’ll try to learn from those rare weeks where I’m confident and happy alone.