I am so so busy trying to unpack and get settled in New Hampshire, so I might be quiet for a while on the blog! In the meantime, make sure to follow me on social media where I will be trying my best to keep the world updated on my move 🙂 Feel free to leave your links in the comments!
Guys. I hate winter. I hate snow, I hate being cold, I hate scraping frost off my windshield every morning. It feels like the longest season ever and all I want to do is stay inside – any advice on how to like winter more is appreciate because it makes me miserable. I’m hoping some items on my winter bucket list will make it a little more enjoyable. What’s one thing you want to do this winter?
For the past two years, I’ve decided to designate a word to my new year instead of resolutions. In 2017, my word was enough and in 2018, my word was presence.I think about my words from time to time throughout the year and never really feel like I’m accomplishing them until I reflect back. Enough has really made an appearance in my life, I have accepted a lot about myself in the past two years and am generally happy. I am still working on presence and I think that’s mostly due to scrolling through social media so often. But I’m aware of the problem and that means I’m closer to fixing it.
My word for 2019 is going to be adventure. While I like to put on a brave face and show everyone how much I love to do new things, new things actually make me extremely nervous. Traveling, moving, starting something new all give me anxiety and actually give me migraines.
But I’m starting 2019 off with a bang by moving out of state, starting a new job, and basically a new life. I know I will have to make new friends, explore a new area, and balance everything I’m leaving behind in New Jersey.
I’ve decided to accept the adventure and carry that feeling with me throughout the year. It will all be a new learning experience, but I’m going to make it fun and I’m going to make the best of it. Despite the anxiety, I know this is a great step for me so I just need to embrace my adventurous side and see where things take me.
Everyone has little pieces of their home state that they can’t find anywhere else. I decided to write down 10 things I need to do in New Jersey before I move to New Hampshire. Because I know the bagels and pizza won’t be as good, and I know I won’t see the ocean for a while, and bits of my home just won’t be in New Hampshire. But once I’m there, I’ll be sure to make a list of 10 things I need to do in New Hampshire. For now, here’s my list:
I’ve lived in New Jersey basically my whole life. I was born in another state, lived in another, but that was all before memories really started to form. I grew up in New Jersey, went to college in New Jersey, and built my life here.
And while I love everything about this extremely underrated state, I never wanted to stay here forever. First I wanted to go to college in Canada, then maybe Ireland, then I wanted to move south as quick as I could. But I never did. I stayed. Until now.
Now I’m leaving my home and I don’t think it’s quite hit me yet that everything I know will be a 6 hour drive away when I move to New Hampshire. All of my friends, most of my family, my coworkers, and familiarity will be so far gone. It’s nerve-wracking.
But I’m ready to leave it behind. My adult life has become so busy anyway that I think some distance between me and all of those things will actually make the bond stronger. If the bond becomes weaker, maybe it wasn’t meant to be in the first place.
I think it’s so important to start over somewhere new, to live in new places, to meet new people. Those experiences help shape you into a well-rounded person – it’s part of the reason I travel as much as I can. It makes me a better person. And even though I’m terrible at new things and meeting new people, I at least have to try.
It’s so sad to leave your home, but there is a whole world out there to explore and we owe it to ourselves to experience it.
1. The packing
Up until now, you’ve thrown your stuff in boxes and plopped them in your college apartment hoping no that they would unpack themselves. You also never noticed how much stuff you’ve accumulated along the way….where did all this come from?!
2. Realizing you don’t have half the stuff you need to live on your own
Basic things like a travel coffee mug and salt and pepper won’t magically appear in your cabinets, you actually have to buy them…
3. All the stuff you didn’t realize you weren’t paying for at home
Forget about rent, you have to buy your own food, clothes, medications, instance, and more now!! Who knew being an adult would be so expensive?
4. Leaving behind your family pet
I ask my mom every day if I can take my dog with me when I move out. We all know I can’t afford to get a dog on my own right now.
5. Saying goodbye to your comfort zone
Your family home is a safety net. Sure, you graduated college and are technically an adult now. But you always had good ol mom and dad to come home to and they would offer to solve all your problems. They’ll always be there for you – but you have to cook your own dinners after work now. Ugh.
Ever since high school I would talk about how I was going to get out of here. It started with wanting to go to Canada, to wanting to go to college in Ireland, to getting accepted to all the schools I applied for in North Carolina.
I ultimately stayed in New Jersey because of my boyfriend at the time. And although that relationship didn’t work out, it was the best decision I could have made. I was close to my family and made amazing friends.
But once I got around to graduating college, I swore I wasn’t going to move home. I was looking at jobs in Arkansas and Pennsylvania – while applying to safety jobs in New Jersey. But I ended up getting a job in New Jersey, a mere 30 minutes from my hometown. I moved home and I don’t regret it. I still see my friends a decent amount, I save a lot of money, and I’ve been learning a lot about myself.
A lot of people want to get out of town just to run away from their problems. No friends? I’ll make better ones in a different state. Bad job? I’ll find a better one somewhere else. Bored and lazy? My life is clearly waiting for me somewhere else.
But that’s not true. If you have problems weighing down on you and choose to solve those problems by moving – it probably won’t work. It’s one thing to be moving for better opportunities and a change of scenery, but anything that’s causing a chip on your shoulder will only deepen with distance.
If you’re planning on moving you need to tie up your loose ends. Say see ya later to your good friends and a solid goodbye to the people in your life who aren’t contributing anything. Don’t say anything to the people who are bringing you down, just leave them. And don’t blame where you’re living for your bad job and boring life. You’re choosing not to make the best of where you are and no matter where you are that will always be the case.