How I Accidentally Stopped Having Fun

When I was in high school, if you asked me what I did for fun I could name a few things. I liked reading, writing, going to concerts, and hanging out with some of my friends. If you asked me what I did for fun in college I would say I like getting drunk with my best friends, I like writing, I like meeting new people.

If you asked me now, I think I would struggle a little bit. Because I still love going to concerts and seeing my friends. But I’m not too keen on alcohol anymore. I like going new places and I like writing, but both almost feel like a job to me now. My passion projects have turned into work.

I accidentally forgot to have fun because things have become so different after I’ve spent a few years out of college – I don’t know what to define as fun anymore.

I’ve picked up a few things that I like doing. I like knitting/crocheting and cross-stitching (even though I’m not great at it). I am trying to pick up reading again. And I’m trying to find joy in writing and traveling again.

There’s a lot of pressure when you work 5 days a week to make the most of the time you’re not actually working. I didn’t think it was possible, but there is a pressure to have fun that makes having fun not fun.

So I’ve taken a step back, again, to draw a very very very thick line between work and play. I need to go with the flow and just learn to have fun again.

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What Blogging Has Taught Me

Blogging has taught me about community.

I grew up with Myspace, Xanga, and Facebook. I grew up with virtual friends – but none of them ever became as important to me as the WordPress community is. There are people who have amazing advice here and there are people who benefit from my advice. It is a constant give and take, full of appreciation.

Blogging has taught me about passion projects.

There will always be work and school, but you need something outside your day to day responsibilities to keep you motivated. Writing makes me happy, this community helps me grow, and other people’s blogs teach me more than the things I┬álearn in school or in the workplace.

Blogging has taught me that most things in life take hard work and time.

I didn’t see any successes in Hookup Culture until about a year ago even though I’m a couple years in. I learned how to be better and when I slack, I see my hard work drop in stats. This is important to me now so putting in the work and finding the time is important to me.

Blogging has taught me to celebrate small successes.

Every single person you reach is as great as every ten people you reach.

Blogging has taught me I can make an impact.

Even if it’s small, even if I’m not changing the world. I get emails and comments where people sympathize with my situations or needed to hear what I had to say. I want to help, even if it’s just one person at a time.

Blogging has taught me to embrace myself.

Support yourself, be proud of yourself, be your own number one fan. Everything else will fall into place once you start believing in everything you can do.

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