Rethink Your Anger

I wrote this last weekend before the tragedy in Las Vegas and I think it rings even truer now.

I was at the gym this weekend when I heard a guy scolding a woman for taking his yoga mat in the free weights area. She thought it was unoccupied because people often just leave the mats all over the floor and she apologized.

He began telling her to shut up and was just being extremely rude while she explained that it was unneccessary. She said that they are both humans so there is no need to get angry over a mistake.  He kept being rude, then she called him an asshole – and I don’t blame her lol.

The whole thing just made me wonder why you would waste your energy getting angry over something so little when there are so many huge problems in the world.

And there is so much hate in the world. To spread it even further over someone taking your mat at the gym is laughable. Why keep spreading the opposite of what the world needs?

Choose to ignore the little things. Accept apologies. Be kind.

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Stop Expecting So Much From Others

I have seen countless tweets/facebook statuses and heard tons of rants on people’s manners. Complaints about how someone didn’t say thank you after they opened the door for them or how people don’t answer “how are you” at the cash register.

I’m all for people using their manners, saying please and thank you, respecting each other – but there would be a whole lot less of complaints if you just stopped expecting so much from others. Be more concerned with what you expect from yourself than what you expect from others.

Don’t hold the door open for someone just so they say thank you, don’t ask how someone is with little or no care for how they really are. Be polite, always be polite, but don’t expect someone to always return the favor. Be happy that you did something nice and then shrug it off.

Because in all honesty – how can you really judge someone? Can you honestly recall your past and know that you’ve answered EVERY how are you and said thank you EVERY time someone held the door open for you? You were never on your phone or sidetracked or having a bad day or in a rush? Can you 100% say that you’ve never been the person you’re complaining about?

If you can’t, which I expect most of us can’t, then you need to give it a break. Consider other people’s situations before you call them rude or a bitch or an asshole. Stop getting SO angry over how other people react to things. They really don’t concern you and there is no point in getting angry and making someone feel bad over circumstances you just might not understand. Sure, sometimes they’re just impolite people – but let them be on their way. A simple action of someone else should not impact you enough or ruin your day enough that you need to post a status on facebook or bash someone in a tweet.

Try being understanding, stop expecting so much from others and expect more of yourself.

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