The Struggle Of Being Sentimental

I’ve never had a good memory and I’ve never had a huge attachment to places. But if I have a token of a place or a photo of a time, then I’m able to remember the event more clearly. I collect things from important people and places I go and I’ve become very sentimental.

I have boxes of things I’ve acquired over the years. Diaries, cards, ticket stubs, birthday presents that came from people who I left in the past, a lot of bad poetry from high school. I have a hard time throwing those things away because they are probably the only things that will trigger those memories for me.

I went through some of the boxes recently and could only throw away a few things. Diaries that mostly only spoke about how my family were jerks and how I was fat, photos of people who left me with bad feelings, and trinkets that I couldn’t find an attachment to.

But there’s so much left and the problem with being sentimental isn’t that I’m going to become a hoarder one day. The problem is that these things make me miss people who have hurt me, who I don’t even like anymore. They make me miss times that I was actually miserable during. But by being so sentimental, it’s easy to forget the bad. Even when they are things that should be long gone.

It’s hard to be so sentimental, I feel oddly attached to dumb things and then feel like reaching out to people who stopped caring about me altogether. It’s a dangerous road and I’ve found it best to just keep those boxes closed.

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I Want To Follow You On Instagram!

Hey guys!

I can’t believe summer is over and fall is alive and well!

I would like to be able to reach more of you through Instagram so I can not only enjoy your words, but also your beautiful pictures!

You can follow me on instagram at www.instagram.com/rosieeek or @rosieeek

I will, of course, follow back. Or if you want you can just drop your insta name in the comments and I’ll give you a follow!

If you have followed me and noticed I didn’t follow back or unfollowed you – please tell me! Sometimes I just don’t see it or I accidentally unfollow when I’m trying to weed through inactive instagrams or people who spam.

Have a great week 🙂

xoxo

Rosie

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I Want To Follow You on Instagram!

Hey guys!

So one of my goals for 2016 is to increase my branding on social media. I see that some of you post your Instagrams on the bottom of your blog posts and I have given you a follow.

But I would like to be able to reach more of you through Instagram so I can not only enjoy your words, but also your beautiful pictures 🙂

You can follow me on instagram at www.instagram.com/rosieeek or @rosieeek

I will, of course, follow back. Or if you want you can just drop your insta name in the comments and I’ll give you a follow!

Have a great Tuesday! 🙂

xoxo

Rosie

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Your Ex On Social Media

It’s almost the first thing I do after a break up. I unfollow my ex on Twitter and Instagram, I unfriend them on Facebook and Snapchat, get rid of their pictures and their online existence.

They call me out on it. They say I’m acting childish, immature, bitter, and petty. But really it’s the only way I know how not to be childish, immature, bitter, or petty.

When I get into arguments, I walk away. For the most part, I put my phone down and stop speaking. I don’t want to say something I’ll regret. When I delete my ex from social media, it’s my way of walking away.

It’s extremely hard to get over someone you dated and dedicated a good chunk of your life to. It’s hard enough to run into them in person, but having to see their face on every app you open is one hundred times worse.

What’s the point? If we do ever become friends again, then maybe we can revisit being friends on social media again too. But right now, we’re not friends. I don’t want to know what you’re doing, I don’t want to know how you’re feeling, I don’t want you to exist in my world.

We’ll just try to make the other jealous by tweeting about how great our nights were. We’ll just try to one up each other by taking pictures with attractive people on Instagram. We’ll just become childish, immature, bitter, and petty.

I understand that it’s silly to put that much weight into social media. To let Instagram posts and Facebook statuses impact you. But that’s what a break up is, it hurts and it impacts you and it weighs on your life. Your break up and that pain just gets magnified when you stay in each other’s social media circles.

If you feel you don’t need to delete them, then fine it’s your choice. But I can tell you when that ex pops up on your Timehop from four years ago, it’s still going to hurt a little. And when they pop up on your Snapchat stories tomorrow, it’s going to hurt a lot more. So let them go, walk away, and delete your ex on social media.

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8 Ways To Clean Up Your New Year

1.Go through your social media

Delete people you barely know and people who make a negative impact. I deleted 51 “friends” on Facebook and deleted like 3 picture albums. They were just part of the past that needed to be swept away.

2. Go through your phone.

I compulsively delete pictures and text messages daily. But if you’re not a weirdo like me, take some time to get rid of those texts you reread to make yourself feel bad and those pictures that don’t stir up good memories. And delete any contact in your phone that is unnecessary – I deleted 29 people from my contacts.

3. Go through your music.

Download the songs you’ve been dying to listen to and delete the ones that you constantly skip over. Get rid of the playlists made by exes and bring in the new.

4. Donate your old clothes.

I think I had two trash bags full of old clothes that I hadn’t worn in years. Get rid of the extra clutter and make room for your new gifts. Donate them to someone who needs them.

5. Physically clean something.

Vacuum your room and remove the 15 half empty water bottles from your car. Start fresh.

6. Get rid of the junk food.

Actually stick to your resolutions and clean out your snack cabinet.

7. Try a new work out.

Clean up your gym routine and try something new, no more half assed squats and a brisk walk on the treadmill.

8. Clean up your attitude!

Out with the negative, in the with positive. You had all of 2015 to wallow in the things that weren’t going right in your life. 365 days passed where you didn’t make a change. So do it now, there’s no better time to appreciate what you have and start living life with a different point of view.

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Can You Date Someone With The Same Name As Your Ex?

I recently ran into the problem of whether or not I could date someone who had the same name as my dad. I googled it, read many blogs on the subject, and then realized how silly that was. If I really liked someone – why did it matter what their name was? Also I have never in my life called my dad by his first name so it really wouldn’t be a reminder to me of anything. I never went on a date with the guy anyway, but at least I know for the future.

But then I ran into the problem on whether or not I could date someone who had the same name as my ex.

There’s a lot more attached to the name of someone I used to date than there is to a friend or a family member who I don’t even call by that name.  It seems crazy that something so little and pretty irrelevant could make such an impact on the decision to date someone.

Firstly, it’s a little weird just to have a boyfriend with the same name as your ex. Secondly, your friends are going to get so confused when you start talking about your new boyfriend.  Can you imagine the look on their faces when they’re listening to you and think you’re telling a story about the ex whose photos you burned together on the porch? And lastly, you just have so many memories attached to that name. And they’re probably not good ones. If they are good ones, you’re probably not even over your ex and then this kind of just sounds like an odd replacement for you.

It all depends on how long you dated the person for and how much they mean to you now.

Would I date someone who has the same name as the ex I dated for four years? No. That seems a little drastic, but he also broke my heart and ruined a good portion of my life. I don’t want to jinx myself somehow and potentially go down that road again. Unless I could call him some kind of variation of the name, it probably wouldn’t work out.

Would I date someone who has the same name as the guy I dated for three months but never actually committed to? Yes, I think so.  Because I honestly forgot about 90% of our “relationship” and even though the parts I remember are still bad, I don’t care enough about that ex or that name to turn down someone new just because they have the same name.

It seems silly, until you’re put into that position. Would you date someone with the same name as your ex?

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Why You Should Probably Delete Tinder

I don’t think there are many reasons behind why we use social media. Sure, you can use it for your branding, to meet people, to read the news – but we mostly use it because we’re bored.

Tinder is no exception.

My generation loves instant gratification. We love getting likes on our pictures and retweets and favorites. We like being able to see right away how much people like us, or how funny they think we are, or how pretty they think we are. So when Tinder came out, it was kind of all of that instant gratification rolled into one.

All it took was a swipe to see if a boy you think is cute also thinks you’re cute. You can rack up your matches swipe by swipe. You can receive messages that instantly tell you how you look like so much fun, you have a great smile, I want to get to know you.

Unless you’re actually using Tinder to date (and not just hook up) maybe you should delete your app now. Instant gratification doesn’t get you very far. It picks you up out of your dreary mood for a few minutes until you realize you don’t like this person, you don’t want to talk to them, and matching with them didn’t solve any of your problems.

Disclaimer: I’m not deleting my Tinder app.

Partly because I always convince myself that I will eventually use it for dating. And partly because yeah, I love instant gratification. When I’m bored and in my sweats and feeling like a hot mess, my pictures on Tinder show me at my best and boys give me attention as soon as I open the app and swipe right. I’m one step closer to realizing how completely empty this is, but I’m not quite convinced yet.

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