In most cases, you are your own worst enemy. Someone who self sabotages knows what they want and have all the means to get it. For instance, they are on their way into a great relationship and actively do something so that relationship never begins. Usually they do this because something in their past is…
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Stop Revisiting Failed Relationships
If at first you don't succeed, try and try again. This doesn't apply to failing relationships, so stop trying and trying again when you already know it's not going to work out. I'm completely guilty of double, triple, quadruple thinking my decisions especially when it comes to relationships. After ending something I often wonder if…
Thinking Big Picture
I think big picture in the way that I can't wait to reach that big picture. I get overly excited about the future, about the things to come, so much so that I don't really live in the present. I think big picture, but I don't think of all the little pieces I need to…
The Struggle Of Being Sentimental
I've never had a good memory and I've never had a huge attachment to places. But if I have a token of a place or a photo of a time, then I'm able to remember the event more clearly. I collect things from important people and places I go and I've become very sentimental. I…
Visit Your Past, But Don’t Live In It
There are three kinds of people. The people who live in the past, the people who live in the present, and the people who live in the future. I don't think many people live in the present. It's very hard to be completely aware of the moment you're in when you have years of junk…
Accepting The Past
I feel like I have been through so many versions of myself. I was once shy, cold, and moody in high school. I was a push-over and boyfriend obsessed my first half of college. I was reckless and couldn't be caught when I graduated college. And now I am settled, finding new parts of myself,…
When A New Relationship Reminds You Of An Old One
No two relationships are exactly the same. But it is possible that similar feelings will bubble up. That falling in love will seem familiar. It's possible that you'll get into the same fights you've gotten in before or feel hurt just like you did before. That doesn't mean your new relationship is exactly like your…
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My Plan To Becoming More Present
My word for 2018 is present because I find myself struggling to be happy in the moments I'm in. I wrote a post a while back asking for advice and a lot of you offered really manageable tips for me to integrate in my life. So here's a few things I am going to try…
My Word For 2018
My word for 2017 was enough. You can read more about it here. And it may have taken me a whole 365 days to really grasp the word, but I did it. I don't feel guilty on lazy days, I don't drain all my energy for other people, I've had enough of that and I'm…
Everything Feels Temporary
Most of us are so horrible at living in the present. We are either full steam ahead into the future, not even living in our own moments. Or we are falling into the arms of our pasts over and over and over again. We miss the day to day precious aspects of life. And because…