When you’re in a not-so-great place, it is not easy to find five things that will cheer you up. But as you grow, you begin to add to that list. You find more and more things that help put you in the direction you want to be in. The direction of happiness.
Here are five things that made me a happier person when I was a not so happy person. And here are six things that make me a happier person now that I am in a better place:
Celebrating every little thing We accomplish things on a daily basis and those things should be recognized. You and the people you surround yourself should be proud of everything that you work for. So if you got a raise at work, or hit a goal you’ve been working towards, or just got out of bed today – pop a bottle of champagne because you deserve it.
Writing down what I’m grateful for Every day I write 10 things I am grateful for in what I call my gratitude journal. Sometimes it’s not easy to come up with 10, sometimes it is. It really makes me reflect on the great things I have in my life.
Picking up an activity that clears your mind
This should be something you can do alone. Get a coloring book. Read a book. I recently started going to yoga classes, but now I can try and practice that alone at home as well.
Setting achievable and reach goals
Ever since I started writing down what I want to achieve, I started accomplishing more. It’s easy to accomplish something like “change my hair in the month of January” and I still feel the reward. It’s a little harder to accomplish things like “get a raise at work” but writing it down will get you there.
Letting go of the things I can’t change for people
I used to feel guilty, a lot, because I’m introverted and often just don’t enjoy going out every weekend or making non stop plans. I am starting to put things into perspective where that’s a part of me that doesn’t need to change and everyone just needs to accept it.
A positive mindset
It seems so simple, but we go into most things negatively whether we mean to or not. Do you want to be happier this year? Then think happy thoughts as often as you can.
Thanks Sub Soare for nominating me to do this! It’s hard to even think of all the books I’ve read, many of them have actually never made a huge impact on me. Here are ten books that changed my life, kind of in order:
The Outsiders by S.E. Hinton
Burned by Ellen Hopkins
Crank by Ellen Hopkins
The Perks of Being A Wallflower by Stephen Chbosky
Twilight Saga by Stephenie Meyers (don’t judge me guys!!)
19 Minutes by Jodi Picoult
The Hunger Games Trilogy by Suzanne Collins
The Divergent Trilogy by Veronica Roth
Leftovers by Laura Weiss
How It Ends by Laura Weiss
Of course each book has a very special reason as to why they made the list – but I think it’s more fun not to share 🙂 Let me know if you’ve read any of these or if you have any book recommendations!
I’m nominating a few people to do this, but you’re not obligated to 🙂
I’ve resisted school ever since I was young. Waking up early only to sit at a desk for hours a day just didn’t make sense to me. I never put in my full effort. Not in middle school, not in high school, and not in college. I paid attention as little as I needed to to pass the class. I didn’t fail classes, I didn’t really even get C’s. But I never learned, either.
Everything in the school system is so dependent on grades and test scores rather than actually measuring how much a student is learning.
I don’t understand math, I never have and probably never will at this point. Yet, I passed all of my classes because I bullshitted enough to get by for the quiz that week or haggled the answer out of my teacher by showing how much I was struggling. Then we would start a new topic and it just seemed to me that I never had to learn what we were learning before anyway. It was done and over with – I would never use it again.
The people who succeed, despite the school system failing them, are those who are completely motivated by learning. They do it on their own time and they love it. They don’t measure all of their knowledge based off what grades they’re getting in school or what their SAT score was.
I took plenty of classes in college that were appealing to me. I took plenty of classes in college that were poorly taught. I can only name a few classes where I learned things that benefited my future and myself. The rest, I did the bare minimum and still got an A. Professors don’t want to fail you, especially for a general education course. How are we supposed to be interested in every prerequisite class thrown our way? How does anyone learn that way? In the end, it didn’t really matter how much I actually knew to get my degree. I got it because I passed my classes and kept my GPA up.
And you won’t get a job without a degree. You won’t get a job without two years of sociology, psychology, literature, and ethics classes. You won’t get a job if you don’t fake it till you make it enough in those classes to have a high GPA.
I can’t blame the people who aren’t consistently curious like I am, but the school system is completely failing these people because they are only motivated off of numbers that don’t even measure learning. It’s not their fault, it’s the fault of those who are telling them that’s all you need to be successful in life – a 95 on a test, a 2300 on the SATs or whatever the SAT’s are scoring as high these days, a 4.0 GPA.
(If I end up being successful) I attribute it all to googling every question that popped into my head and reading articles until I was satisfied. I attribute it to the countless books I’ve read since I was a kid, for fun and not because I was being forced to. I attribute it to my 5th grade teacher who got me into creative writing, my 7th grade English teacher who became family, my high school history teachers who loved the world’s past, my New Media professors in college, and the few other random professors who just had a passion for what they were teaching. The teachers who wanted to teach for our benefit and not their own.