The Struggles Of Being Over-Eager

The trouble with people who are over-eager is that we are often over-everything. We are over-thinkers, we are over-dramatic, we over-romanticize, we are overwhelmed. So getting too excited about things just comes with the territory. Because one small possibility opens up so many doors for us. We non stop think about how this could work…

Why We Settle And Why I Get It

Relationships are a fragile thing. One string becomes frayed, it gets snagged, and the whole thing unravels into your hands. You never saw it coming. Basically since the start of this blog, I've expressed my fears on settling. Especially settling for someone you don't really love. Settling for less than fireworks, all in romance, and…

Mid-relationship Crisis

A mid-life crisis isĀ an emotional crisis of identity and self-confidence that can occur in early middle age. So I think that would make a mid-relationship crisis an emotional crisis of identity and self-confidence that can occur in early mid-relationship. I think it's very easy to have an identity crisis in a relationship. Before I started…

The Pressure Of Long Term Relationships

My first serious relationship was 4 years long and when I say serious, I took it very seriously. I pictured marriage and kids. Planned where we'd live, where I'd go to college, and how our lives would be. At that point in my life, I would frequently say "why bother being in a relationship with…

When A New Relationship Reminds You Of An Old One

No two relationships are exactly the same. But it is possible that similar feelings will bubble up. That falling in love will seem familiar. It's possible that you'll get into the same fights you've gotten in before or feel hurt just like you did before. That doesn't mean your new relationship is exactly like your…

I Want To Be Alone But I Don’t Want To Be Alone

Reposted from 2016 I didn't really know who I was until a few years ago. Internally, throughout my teen years, I had a strong sense of self. I knew what I wanted but just didn't know how to get it. I couldn't externalize what I was feeling internally which made me very lost. I thought…