Give Yourself A Break

If you read my post where I documented all of my negative thoughts in 24 hours, you’ll know that I have a lot of negative thoughts about myself. We are so hard on ourselves. And this is on top of the weight that the world is already putting on our shoulders. Responsibilities are always going to pile up, people are always going to disappoint you, and life is just not going to go as planned.

But that’s okay. Seriously, give yourself a break.

You can’t control the actions of others. You can’t control how people treat you, you can’t control life’s unforeseen twists and turns. And you can’t punish yourself for the things you can’t control. Sometimes people are just going to suck and sometimes bad things are just going to happen.

For the things you can control, be realistic. You can’t always control every aspect of your job, you can’t just quit when time’s get tough. You can’t always control how much time you have in a day to just be yourself. But you can empower yourself to learn how to deal with it better, to speak up for yourself, or to make changes when change is necessary.

But you seriously need to give yourself a break.

Take one day this week to jot down every negative thing you thought about yourself. See how hard you’re being and how unrealistic you’re being. Because you deserve better from other people, but you definitely deserve better from yourself.

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24 Hours Of Negative Thoughts

Yesterday, I decided to write down every negative thought I had about myself or the things I can’t control. Because I know I’m greeting life’s challenges with a bad attitude and I want to change it, at least as much as I can. Here’s every bad thing I thought in a day, tomorrow I will begin to work on shortening this list and creating a more positive one. I want to greet the day with a better outlook and I want to stop being so hard on myself. So here it goes.

  1. Why am I always sick?
  2. My skin is so broken out.
  3. My skin is so dry.
  4. This would look better on me if I was skinny.
  5. I am not a morning person.
  6. I’m so tired of stupid people.
  7. This is the worst drive ever.
  8. I’m already annoyed and I haven’t even gotten to work yet.
  9. I should probably skip breakfast .
  10. I already know I’m going to be tired later.
  11. I put way too much work on my plate.
  12. No one even cares about my Instagram or blog.
  13. I wish people had a little more faith in me.
  14. I’d rather be asleep.
  15. I’m so selfish.
  16. I feel like crap.
  17. I wish I had more style…
  18. Meh.
  19. I wish I could just make a decision on my own.
  20. I told myself I was going to work out tonight but I’m probably just going to sit on the couch.
  21. I’m so lazy.
  22. I really need to start dieting.
  23. I am a pretty sucky girlfriend.
  24. * A LOT of thoughts about past actions *

This isn’t a post for people to pity me, it’s a challenge for all of us to just at least acknowledge all the bad things we say to ourselves every day. With that acknowledgement, maybe we can make a change.

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Why We Forget To Take Care Of Ourselves

We often stop and think to ourselves about how stressed out we are. How tired we are. How we could just use a day off.

But we never really stop and think that we need all of those things because we’ve stopped taking care of ourselves. We just think that it’s been a busy week, or a lot has been going on at work, or you’ve been fighting with your friends this week. But it will all pass.

The truth is, it won’t pass unless you realize that you’ve completely forgotten about your own self care. All of your current emotions are linked to things in your life such as work, school, relationships. But how are you feeling? Have you taken care of you?

We forget to take care of ourselves because there’s so much going on in the world. And we are just a small piece of it. We think all of these outside things make up who we are, that if we take care of those things then everything will fall into place. But if you don’t take care of your mind or your body or your soul – then you can’t take care of work, or friends, or family, or school either.

We forget to take care of ourselves because we are so busy looking after other people. But how can you be there for someone if you aren’t even there for yourself?

Be grateful and be there for people. Most importantly, though, be grateful for who you are and take care of yourself. If you’re stressed, or tired, or need a day off. Recognize those things as a  need to take care of yourself more, not just something that’s going to pass over time. Don’t live your life thinking everything is temporary, you need to be mindful of your current state and where you will be going from here. Take care of yourself.

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The Importance Of Self Care

In most cases, the world revolves around your own life. But then there are so many factors inside that life. Your life includes your job, your social life, your passions. Your life includes your relationship, your friends, and your family. Your life includes your past, present, and future.

And even though our world just revolves around us, sometimes that can be extremely exhausting and extremely discouraging.

It’s important to take care of yourself when you start feeling down or when you start feeling the weight of the world on you shoulders. Because of course you have so much to do, you can’t possibly take a break, there are people who need you. But you can’t do anything for them if you don’t take time for yourself.

So when you’re exhausted, lay down and take a nap. Don’t push yourself until you need to catch up on a week’s worth of sleep and just can’t function.

And when you’re overwhelmed, take a break. Take the day off, clear your mind, make a list. Do what you can to just shut it all out for a little.

When the people in your life are asking too much of you, tell them. Tell them you can’t be there right now, they will understand.

Make a cup of tea. Read a good book. Spend a weekend night in. Take up a hobby. Go to the gym. Take a nap. Buy a planner. Make a list. Color, paint, write. Drink a glass of wine, dance, smile, laugh. Do whatever you need to do to take care of yourself.

It sometimes seems as if the world will just fall apart if you don’t keep pushing yourself to your wit’s end. But it’s just not true. The world will let you take a break, so take it. Take care of yourself in order to be the best version of yourself and so you can be there for the people who need you the most.

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