- I haven’t spoken to these people in like a week…I hope I still work for them.
- They said be in at 9 right? I think so, let me check my email 100 times before I leave.
- Shoot I’m an hour early…
- I have no idea what I’m doing.
- Okay, I kind of know what I’m doing.
- What did he say his name was? I already forgot!!
- Should I eat lunch now? Is everyone else eating lunch now?
- Only four more hours I can do this.
- I kind of need a nap though.
- No, I can do this!!
- So. Much. Small talk.
- So. Much. New information.
- It’s time to go!
- That wasn’t so bad 🙂
- But I do have to come in tomorrow, and the day after that, and the rest of my life…
High school was rough for me. I rebelled against almost everything my parents wanted. I didn’t get the grades they liked, didn’t join any clubs or sports, had the wrong friends, and did not one thing right. I resented being controlled and watched over all the time – it ate away at me and made me a very bitter human.
The freedom of college was unbelievably sweet to me. I learned things about myself that I feel were suppressed when I was stuck living under the law of my parents. I grew into an adult that could take care of herself. I got good grades, all on my own. I joined so many clubs and took so many initiatives to make amazing friends. I became better acquainted with my family. I overall knew who I was and liked that person.
Then I graduated and then I moved back home. At first, I didn’t think anything would be that different from being at school. I had become sort of a grandma towards the end of my senior year so I wasn’t going to miss drinking four days a week minimum. I also wasn’t going to miss spending so much money on food and unnecessary things.
When I first got home, my normal life continued. I spent the weekends with my friends and spent my days unpacking and running errands. But that all slowed down and since I don’t have any friends from high school – I got bored.
And when I got bored I got nagged about getting all of my unpacking done, or about why I didn’t clean up the kitchen, or about when I was going to get a job. All things I would’ve done at my own stress-free pace at school, but impossible at home. Then I got sick and the difference between being sick at home and at school blew my mind. I’ve gone to the doctor’s at least 4 times, whereas at school I was lucky if I made it to the Minute Clinic at all. My mom cooked all my meals, washed all my clothes, and doted on me as I wallowed on the couch for days at a time. At school – if I was awake long enough I would text my friends to get me a gatorade and still make it to the bar that night even when running a fever.
My dog is the only one who hangs out with me. My parents annoy me with every word they say to me. I’m alone a lot, but can’t seem to get enough alone time. I resent being controlled and watched over all the time – it’s eating away at me and making me a very bitter human, once again. Will all the progress I’ve gained in college slowly disappear with each month I’m living at my parent’s house?
It kind of seems like people have been telling my generation our whole lives that the job market sucks. It has been a topic of conversation ever since we were in middle school and didn’t even have ability to stare 5 years into our future and think about what we wanted to major in when we got to college.
When forced to start thinking about it as we emerged into our teen years, we all threw out some ideas that seemed like good careers that would make us happy. We wanted to be teachers, nurses, artists, and psychologists. We wanted to teach people, help people, create, and cause change.
But teachers don’t make money – we were told. Everyone wants to be a nurse, it’s too competitive – we were told. An artist isn’t a career – we were told. You aren’t going to go anywhere with that unless you want to be in school for the rest of your life – we were told.
I always wanted to do something with English and creative writing, I even listed it as my major when I made my first scary steps into college. But questions flooded me – what are you going to do with that? Do you think you’ll make any money? You consider that a career?
I guess it wasn’t practical, to do what I wanted to do. So I chose to major in advertising, a field that is always growing. I chose to minor in journalism, because I did like to write. I chose to concentrate in new media, because it was artistic and taught me about the new world of media and social media.
Yet here I am, starting my search for a career and consistently coming up empty. For every 40 jobs I apply to, I will maybe hear back from 3. And maybe get an interview from one of them. I spend my days on online job boards clicking apply, submitting my resume, refilling out information that is already on my resume, then confirming that I am a white female that is not disabled and is not a protected veteran. Over and over and over again.
These online job boards send you “no-reply” emails, so you have no chance of ever contacting the person you want to work for. You’re lucky if someone even sends you an email to deny you, they’ll most likely ignore you.
I was fortunate enough to land a great internship for the summer. I have experience, but entry level jobs now apparently require at least 3 years experience. And any entry level job that doesn’t, will probably have you sitting at a desk making pesky phone calls or going door to door for sales.
So thanks for warning me about the failing job market, I guess I just thought it would get better or changing my career path would help me out. For now, I’ll be receiving dozens of confirmation emails and waiting around until someone decides to make me an accepted postgrad, instead of a rejected one.
- No one is ever happy with the temperature
I’m always too cold, but when I’m comfortable everyone else is too hot (see the problem?)
- Working people drink a lot of caffeine
Coffee before work, when you get to work, at lunch, after lunch, before the drive home, and after.
- At least an hour of the day is dedicated to getting caffeine and bathroom breaks
All that caffeine adds up to many bathroom breaks.
- Everyone is out by 5:00
At 5:01 everyone is in the parking lot making a mad dash for their cars.
- Office activities can get you out of work
Birthday celebrations, picnics, etc. There will always be something fun planned to take a break for.
- Commuting is the worst part of working full time
I always knew people suck at driving, but I learned the extent during my evening commute.
- Drive Carefully On Your Way To And From Work
Like one of the worst things that can happen is you accidentally cut off a coworker then have to face them in the parking lot…
- Everyone trickles in slowly in the morning
Some come in at 8, some 8:30, some 9, some show up late…..
- Eating at your desk is a very bad thing to do
You need a change of scenery, get up and go outside.
- Your office mates will become your family
Because of all of the above, you identify and become friends with the people in the office. You spend most of your day with them, so you’ll always have a little office family.
In middle school, having a boyfriend was the only thing that was important. You’re in your awkward phase and just need someone to tell you you’re pretty. You’re still forming friendships and you need someone who is a constant. Your favorite emo songs sing about heartbreak and falling in love and you want to be able to relate. The books you read end with happiness and holding hands and you want to hold hands too. The reality shows on television show so much drama, but love always prevails and you want to prevail, too.
We never grow out of that middle school self.
We still need to be told we’re pretty, friends still come and go, we sing the songs at pregames, read the books on casual evenings, and watch the reality tv on hungover afternoons.
We saw it as a problem solver – being in a relationship guarantees that someone will be there for you at all times no matter what. It’s hard to rely on anyone else, that’s what having a boyfriend or girlfriend is for.
As more problems occur in your adult life, you become more and more convinced that not having anyone to love you is the number one problem. Failing your classes because you have no one to study with. Not getting a job because you have no one to push you. Getting too drunk because you had no one to stay in with.
It all connects to not having a person.
If you think a relationship will fix your problems, you’re very off base. Sure, it will soften some of the blows that life throws at you, but a relationship is just a temporary fix.
Find friends that will stay by your side. Mend relations with your family so you can always fall back on them. Most importantly, be able to rely on yourself. Push yourself and monitor yourself – because despite what you may think, no one will ever know you as well as you know yourself. Be your own driving force.
Little girls grow up watching fairytales. They see prince charming saving the princess and ultimately think that something like that will happen to them one day.
As a young teenager, we think having a boyfriend will solve all of our problems. We want to have our first kiss and fill the gap in our hearts that we’ve been filling with angsty music and not-so-real reality tv.
I fell in love (using this term loosely because who the hell knows if I was in love or not) when I was 16 and really did think it solved all of my problems. My relationship got me through my weird high school years of not so great friends and not so close family. It got me through my first very scary year of college. It definitely did not solve all of my problems.
I fell out of love (again, loosely) over a year ago. And I have felt nothing of the sort ever since.
People will say that after a break up, you need to go through your rebound phase and get everything out of your system before you can consider a relationship again. Then, you just need to find the right person and everything will fall into place.
I never thought finding the right person would be so hard. I did the rebound phase and kind of, sort of, tried to seriously date but I could never get myself to stay around long enough.
We all make excuses. I’m in college and now isn’t the right time. I just got out of a relationship and now isn’t the right time. I’m still young and graduated and now isn’t the right time.
Are they all just excuses for the fact that you can lose the ability to fall in love after getting your heart broken? Even if you close your eyes and believe really hard that a fairytale ending is coming your way – what if you already lost all of that princess spark inside of you that was going to make that possible.
College is a great time to meet the person you’re going to marry. You might not date them while you’re a freshman or sophomore and still getting the hang of things, but there is a huge possibility you’re going to meet the person you are going to spend the rest of your life with. You’re constantly going to parties, classes, club meetings, the bar, the gym, and a variety of other places where there are always new people available to you to meet. Chances are, one of your hookups that you enjoyed hanging out with will end up being your soulmate when the time becomes right.
So if you graduated single, did you miss your chance of meeting your future husband/wife?
Sure, you still have some venues to meet new people as a post grad. There’s work, the gym, the bar, and mutual friends. I was watching Say Yes To The Dress the other day and the bride met her husband while driving down the freeway! There’s always possibilities, but is our dating pool much smaller as a post grad?
There are less single people available our age after graduation. Especially in the workforce. You’re going to have a lot of people who are older than you and a small group of people your age. Then, you have to use your super-sight to see if they have a ring on their finger or if they’re even someone you would be interested in if you weren’t so desperately single.
The truth is, it’s going to be harder to find your soulmate after college. But, patience is a great thing and apparently so is waiting to get into a relationship after college.
According to this article, waiting for that serious relationship until after graduation will lessen your chance for divorce and increase your money intake. The longer you wait to get married, the more established and comfortable you’ll be in your own life in order to accept someone else into it.
Whether you’re finding your future in college or after graduation, don’t sweat it. Your happily ever after will come at its own pace, but you didn’t miss your chance by not settling down in college.