Why We Rarely Exchange Gifts In Our Relationship

When birthdays, anniversaries, and holidays roll around, I’m often not thinking about what to get my boyfriend. We have just never really celebrated milestones like that with gifts.

Our first Christmas together we exchanged very small gifts. I gave him a candle, he gave me chocolate covered strawberries. And since then it’s always been that way. There have been no expectations of gifts on holidays, it’s just not really our thing.

In my past relationships, it was huge. I would be crafting, spending tons of money, racking my brain to find something my significant other liked.

But my relationship now is just easier. We don’t need things. If we are celebrating something, we’re usually going out and doing something together. Whether it’s travelling or trying something new, we prefer experiences over gifts. Even then, we don’t usually buy those things for each other. We plan and decide together what we want to do – after all, if it’s our anniversary or your birthday, why should I have all the say?

We also tend to sporadically buy each other things. I saw this on Amazon and thought of you. I thought this would really look good in our home and you would love it.

It works well for us and takes a lot of pressure off of our relationship. Giving gifts makes me more anxious than it does excited, so we have taken a different approach with showing each other how much we care.

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10 Valentine’s Day Ideas For Homebodies

I’ve never made a big hub bub about Valentine’s Day, but I don’t see a reason to hate on it. I’d rather just embrace another day to show the people I love that I love them.

That being said, I don’t like to go out on Valentine’s Day, it’s just terrible. I don’t want the overpriced meals, the crowded restaurants, and just the overreaction to the day to have to rush out and do something with your significant other. I’m a homebody and have always preferred to celebrate Valentine’s Day at home or on a different day. If you’re like me, here are 14 ways to celebrate instead.

  1. Make some fun cocktails together
  2. Rent a movie and stop by the movie theater to buy a tub of popcorn (I’ve done this, it’s great and CHEAP!)
  3. Turn off the electronics and tackle a board game or puzzle
  4. Create a scavenger hunt that keeps you away from the busy V Day buzz
  5. Try out a meal subscription service and cook together (FYI they always have deals to get $$ off your first meal and then you can cancel after…I’ve done like 5 services like this)
  6. Do the thing you always say you’re going to do together whether it’s just going to a yoga class, booking a trip, or taking a nap.
  7. Host a game-night for couples, you get to stay in your house and have fun!
  8. Do Valentine’s Day on a different, less busy day.
  9. Better yet, do Valentine’s Day on a weekend and make a trip of it where you can be a homebody in a hotel room!
  10. Create a self-care day. You would be surprised how much guys who don’t often soak in a tub or take care of their nails actually enjoy when you take time to do these things with them.

Do you have any Valentine’s Day tips for broke, introverts like me? Leave em below!

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The Valentine’s Day Archive

I’ve basically never minded Valentine’s Day. I think the only year it really bothered me was a couple months after me and my long term ex broke up and I went to a party, cried, ordered a ton of pizza and cried some more. IT HAPPENS.

I’ve also never been super excited about the day. I like taking the chance to show a lil love to the people in my life, but I think that should be done regardless of a holiday.

ANYWAY! Here’s some posts I’ve written in the past about Valentine’s Day to get you in the mood. 😉 Enjoy!

  1. Love Yourself This Valentine’s Day
  2. DON’T Hate on Valentine’s Day
  3. Break the Valentine’s Day Mold
  4. Valentine’s Day Craze
  5. 10 Ways to Celebrate the Little Things (for Valentine’s Day and all year!)

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Love Yourself This Valentine’s Day

A lot of us have bitter feelings towards Valentine’s Day. For most of my life, I didn’t. Even when I didn’t have a boyfriend I still liked the hearts and fluff of the holiday. One year I was bitter and all it did was make me more miserable of a person than I already was.

Because in the end, it’s just a day. But if you want to look closely at it, it’s a day to remind ourselves to love. If you don’t have a significant other to express that love to – it’s okay! You can love your friends, you can love your family, and you can love yourself.

In my single years I’d buy presents for my also very single friends just to see them cheer up a little. And my mom would send me a little gift card to show her love. But I often neglected to look at the holiday as a time to give a gift to myself to show my love.

Self love is so hard. And to think about it all the time is just an exhausting competition with your inevitable self hate. But if you’re going to pick yourself apart all the time, at least use Valentine’s Day as the one day you’re not going to do that.

Whether you’re single or in a relationship or in between, love yourself this Valentine’s Day. Put on some lipstick or throw on an extra nice shirt for work. Tell yourself that you look good – because you do! Buy yourself a nice dinner or get yourself a little gift. That one present for yourself that you’ve been putting off for so long.

It’s a day of love, there’s no need to resent it. You have love all around you and all up in you – so express it!

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Thank You And Happy VDay WordPress!

When I was young I always loved Valentine’s Day. I would wear shirts with little hearts on them and hand out little cards and candy.

When I was in a relationship it was just another day to remind my boyfriend I loved him. When that relationship ended, I couldn’t stand the day. I sobbed and spent $40 on pizza the first Valentine’s Day without him.

But I’ve grown and moved on from that and many of my followers have been with me through the ups and downs. Thanks to all of you, I reached my goal to get 500 followers by Valentine’s Day 🙂  
I honestly can’t thank you all enough for  the reblogs and help you have given me along the way. I plan to write a post soon that links back to all of the people who have really supported me. This blog and interacting in the community makes me so genuinely happy.

 

Thank you again to everyone who has helped me and hello to all of my new followers! I hope you all have the most wonderful Valentine’s Day – whether you’re in a relationship or single. You are loved and appreciated, never forget that :)❤️

Xoxo

Rosie 

  

WordPress, Will You Be My Valentine?

Updated 1/29; Updated again 2/10

So, Valentine’s Day is a few days away. It’s pretty apparent that I’m going to be single this Valentine’s Day. I’m not too upset about it, it’s just an opportunity to treat yo self.

I’ve been writing down goals for myself recently. By the end of January, I hoped for 400 followers on WordPress.

Before January even ended I reached 421 followers 🙂 I couldn’t have done it without the people who have reblogged me. I don’t know why I’m always surprised by the generosity and kindness of the blogging community – probably because it’s so hard to come by in the real world. So from the bottom of my heart, thank you so much to those blogs who have promoted me. As a writer, I hate when words can’t express how I feel lol but just know I can’t put into words how thankful I am.

By Valentine’s Day, my goal is for 500 followers.
So, if you want to get me a Valentine’s Day present – this is what you can do! If you have ever given a small thought to reblogging me, linking back to Hookup Culture, or promoting my blog – now would be an awesome time 🙂 I am currently at 487 followers – only 13 away from my goal!

I’ve  been working really hard on building my following and I am soooo thankful for all the new bloggers that have come into my life recently, as well as the ones I have been in contact with from the beginning. I believe that 500 is a pretty big reach for me, but with hard work and your help maybe I can give myself the ultimate Valentine’s Day present. Which is 500 of you beautiful people following my blog!

If you have any goals written for your blog – let me know if I can help you as well!

xoxo

Rosie

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DON’T Hate on Valentine’s Day

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It’s easy to get into a funk around Valentine’s Day when you’re single.  Everyone else is getting presents, love, awesome dinners. And if you’re lucky, your mom sent you a care package with a gift card and candy (which is still pretty clutch) but you’re still really single.

Really, it’s just a day that’s going to suck.  But, if you follow these don’ts you’ll have the best single gal/guy Valentine’s Day there could possibly be!

DON’T make people in a relationship feel bad just because you’re single. Eventually, you’ll find someone who will make you as happy as they are and you don’t want anyone to bring you down just for being love on February 14th.

DON’T get black-out wasted and cry.  By all means, if you want to get super drunk then do it.  But, do it with people who love you and are there to build you up rather than break you down. Dance, buy drinks, smile, and be happy on Valentine’s Day!

DON’T binge eat.  Once again, treat yo self! If you want to order a pizza or go to a fancy meal – then do it!  Avoid ordering everything on the Domino’s menu, eating it all, then regretting how full/fat you feel and ultimately how much money you just spent on food you really didn’t want or need.

DON’T forget to love yourself!  Just because you don’t have a significant other, doesn’t mean you can’t love yourself.  Do something that makes you realize how good you feel about yourself. Go shopping, go to the gym, get your nails or hair done, kick back and watch your favorite movie.  Loving yourself in general is the most important aspect to having someone love you.

DON’T get upset that you don’t get presents.  Instead, give presents! Buy some goodies or flowers for your closest friends.  They’ll appreciate it, single or not!  It will make you feel good to make other people happy and ultimately, it will make you happy.

DO enjoy your Valentine’s Day – alone or with someone – it’s just a day to realize how loved you really are! 🙂