I’ve basically never minded Valentine’s Day. I think the only year it really bothered me was a couple months after me and my long term ex broke up and I went to a party, cried, ordered a ton of pizza and cried some more. IT HAPPENS.
I’ve also never been super excited about the day. I like taking the chance to show a lil love to the people in my life, but I think that should be done regardless of a holiday.
ANYWAY! Here’s some posts I’ve written in the past about Valentine’s Day to get you in the mood. 😉 Enjoy!
A lot of us have bitter feelings towards Valentine’s Day. For most of my life, I didn’t. Even when I didn’t have a boyfriend I still liked the hearts and fluff of the holiday. One year I was bitter and all it did was make me more miserable of a person than I already was.
Because in the end, it’s just a day. But if you want to look closely at it, it’s a day to remind ourselves to love. If you don’t have a significant other to express that love to – it’s okay! You can love your friends, you can love your family, and you can love yourself.
In my single years I’d buy presents for my also very single friends just to see them cheer up a little. And my mom would send me a little gift card to show her love. But I often neglected to look at the holiday as a time to give a gift to myself to show my love.
Self love is so hard. And to think about it all the time is just an exhausting competition with your inevitable self hate. But if you’re going to pick yourself apart all the time, at least use Valentine’s Day as the one day you’re not going to do that.
Whether you’re single or in a relationship or in between, love yourself this Valentine’s Day. Put on some lipstick or throw on an extra nice shirt for work. Tell yourself that you look good – because you do! Buy yourself a nice dinner or get yourself a little gift. That one present for yourself that you’ve been putting off for so long.
It’s a day of love, there’s no need to resent it. You have love all around you and all up in you – so express it!
When I was young I always loved Valentine’s Day. I would wear shirts with little hearts on them and hand out little cards and candy.
When I was in a relationship it was just another day to remind my boyfriend I loved him. When that relationship ended, I couldn’t stand the day. I sobbed and spent $40 on pizza the first Valentine’s Day without him.
But I’ve grown and moved on from that and many of my followers have been with me through the ups and downs. Thanks to all of you, I reached my goal to get 500 followers by Valentine’s Day 🙂
I honestly can’t thank you all enough for the reblogs and help you have given me along the way. I plan to write a post soon that links back to all of the people who have really supported me. This blog and interacting in the community makes me so genuinely happy.
Thank you again to everyone who has helped me and hello to all of my new followers! I hope you all have the most wonderful Valentine’s Day – whether you’re in a relationship or single. You are loved and appreciated, never forget that :)❤️
So, Valentine’s Day is a few days away. It’s pretty apparent that I’m going to be single this Valentine’s Day. I’m not too upset about it, it’s just an opportunity to treat yo self.
I’ve been writing down goals for myself recently. By the end of January, I hoped for 400 followers on WordPress.
Before January even ended I reached 421 followers 🙂 I couldn’t have done it without the people who have reblogged me. I don’t know why I’m always surprised by the generosity and kindness of the blogging community – probably because it’s so hard to come by in the real world. So from the bottom of my heart, thank you so much to those blogs who have promoted me. As a writer, I hate when words can’t express how I feel lol but just know I can’t put into words how thankful I am.
By Valentine’s Day, my goal is for 500 followers.
So, if you want to get me a Valentine’s Day present – this is what you can do! If you have ever given a small thought to reblogging me, linking back to Hookup Culture, or promoting my blog – now would be an awesome time 🙂 I am currently at 487 followers – only 13 away from my goal!
I’ve been working really hard on building my following and I am soooo thankful for all the new bloggers that have come into my life recently, as well as the ones I have been in contact with from the beginning. I believe that 500 is a pretty big reach for me, but with hard work and your help maybe I can give myself the ultimate Valentine’s Day present. Which is 500 of you beautiful people following my blog!
If you have any goals written for your blog – let me know if I can help you as well!
It’s easy to get into a funk around Valentine’s Day when you’re single. Everyone else is getting presents, love, awesome dinners. And if you’re lucky, your mom sent you a care package with a gift card and candy (which is still pretty clutch) but you’re still really single.
Really, it’s just a day that’s going to suck. But, if you follow these don’ts you’ll have the best single gal/guy Valentine’s Day there could possibly be!
DON’T make people in a relationship feel bad just because you’re single. Eventually, you’ll find someone who will make you as happy as they are and you don’t want anyone to bring you down just for being love on February 14th.
DON’T get black-out wasted and cry. By all means, if you want to get super drunk then do it. But, do it with people who love you and are there to build you up rather than break you down. Dance, buy drinks, smile, and be happy on Valentine’s Day!
DON’T binge eat. Once again, treat yo self! If you want to order a pizza or go to a fancy meal – then do it! Avoid ordering everything on the Domino’s menu, eating it all, then regretting how full/fat you feel and ultimately how much money you just spent on food you really didn’t want or need.
DON’T forget to love yourself! Just because you don’t have a significant other, doesn’t mean you can’t love yourself. Do something that makes you realize how good you feel about yourself. Go shopping, go to the gym, get your nails or hair done, kick back and watch your favorite movie. Loving yourself in general is the most important aspect to having someone love you.
DON’T get upset that you don’t get presents. Instead, give presents! Buy some goodies or flowers for your closest friends. They’ll appreciate it, single or not! It will make you feel good to make other people happy and ultimately, it will make you happy.
DO enjoy your Valentine’s Day – alone or with someone – it’s just a day to realize how loved you really are! 🙂
We all know the traditional Valentine’s Day gifts. Flowers, a box of chocolates, and maybe a card. There’s no doubt in my mind that any girl would be happy to have a bouquet of sunflowers or any guy would be stoked to get a gift card to a steakhouse, but if there is any day to step outside the box it’s Valentine’s Day. You can buy flowers for five bucks any day (and trust me you should probably take advantage of that!) So here’s a couple ideas of what guys and gals would love to see from their significant other:
For the girl in your life:
1. Ditch the gifts:
You don’t need to necessarily go from store to store looking for some amazing and costly gift that your girlfriend probably won’t even like but will pretend to like. Choose something you can both do together and spend your money on something productive. Go out to a fancy dinner, movie (50 Shades of Grey!), ice skating, a concert, or anything you can enjoy together! She’ll appreciate it more than the over-priced hat some sales lady sold you.
Okay, I’m not telling you to knit a sweater or modpodge a huge paper-mache heart, but a little thought into your present goes a long way! Try printing out pictures and making a scrapbook (it’s not as hard as it seems!) If crafting is in no way, shape, or form your thing try making dinner. Try your hand at her favorite meal and if that just doesn’t seem to work out, order her favorite pizza! The price of a gift doesn’t have to be high to be meaningful.
3. The traditional present route, but modified
If you’re willing to spend the money and actually know what she likes, buy the gift! Whether it’s a Michael Khors bag or ice cream – only go the gift route if you’re 100% confident in your purchase.
4. When in doubt: Food and Wine.
You literally can’t go wrong.
For the guy in your life:
1. Ditch the gifts
Guys aren’t all about the stereotypical Valentine’s Day presents. Tickets to a sports game, concert, or anything you can do AND enjoy together will be your best option. Even if you don’t enjoy the same sports, you could spoil him with a pair of tickets. Going out to a fancy dinner and movie together is also an option, as long as you both are enjoying each other’s company and spending as much as you feel comfortable with.
Instead of flowers, you can make a bouquet of airplane bottles! If you’re not trying to get that creative, an expensive bottle of your boyfriend’s favorite alcohol is guaranteed to make him happy. Craft beers and “Beer of the month” clubs are also a great gift for the man in your life.
3. Spice it up
(So, this may be a little R-rated). But sometimes the thing that makes your boyfriend the happiest isn’t something that you can buy! You could go out and buy cute lingerie, but the truth is you are probably enough. Spice it up in the bedroom! He’ll love that gift just as much as a teddy bear and chocolates.
You can basically walk into any store right now and see a variety of Valentine’s Day candies and presents. I knew it was coming, the day of in-your-face-love, but I wasn’t expecting so many people to be going along with the craze.
The main winter holidays have ended (Christmas/New Years). I was under the impression that with the ending of the holidays, came the end of cuffing season. Those who went FBO would quietly change their statuses back to single and those in-it-for-the-long-haul couples would stay in their relationships and celebrate Valentine’s Day together.
I was so wrong. Cuffing season has only just begun as Valentine’s Day sneaks its way into the winter holidays. Everywhere you look, people are deciding that it is time to be official. Maybe it’s because all of their friends took the leap in December, maybe it’s because February 14th is quickly approaching and being alone would just suck.
Enjoy the season and congrats to all the new couples! Love is in the air – stay tuned for many more Valentine’s Day articles (written by someone maybe, sorta, bitterly single.)