The Hookup On: 2,000 WordPress Followers and Q&A

I’m so excited to announce that after many months of being on my list of goals, I finally reached 2,000 followers here on WordPress!

I don’t think I thank this community enough for being such an amazing platform  that offers me different points of view, advice, and even agrees with me when I’m not sure if what I’m saying is agreeable. Thank you all so much.

To all my new and old followers, I’d love to do a little Q&A for you to get to know me better. You can always check out my about me or this old Q&A I did a while ago. But I want to give everyone the opportunity to ask any questions that might pop up when they’re reading my blog.

Please drop a question below and I will write a post in the next week with all of my answers ☺️

Live From The Middle Urinal

Hi guys!

I recently hung out with the guys from the Live From The Middle Urinal Podcast. We talked about travel and how to settle arguments when you’re in a relationship. I had a blast and if you feel like taking a break from reading blogs to listen to something, check out the episode I’m featured on!

Itunes: https://itunes.apple.com/us/podcast/live-from-the-middle-urinal/id1123887651?mt=2&i=1000389621947

All of their episodes can be listened to here: https://www.middleurinal.com/episodes/

Let me know what you think in the comments!

xoxo

Rosie

First Impressions Aren’t Important

You’re going on a job interview, a first date, or meeting the parents. And you’re supposed to make a good first impression. Because first impressions are important – that’s what they say.
But I don’t think first impressions are important at all, because I mostly see them as a nice little white lie. All a first impression is showing me is how you sugar coat yourself, the things you hide and the things you show in order to make me like you.

You wrap yourself up with pretty paper and tidy bow to fool someone into think you’re someone you’re not. That you’re organized, or charitable and nice, or responsible and worthy. Your first impression is just you trying to be someone else.

And what is that worth if you can’t live up to it? If you get the job and aren’t “used to working in fast paced environments”like you said. Or you are three months into a relationship and you end up showing the more prominent part of your personality, which is snobby and a little mean, not nice and helpful like you said. Or you go to your in laws for Christmas dinner and they found out this is the second job you’ve been fired from and you just can’t keep a job, you’re not as responsible and put together as you said you were.

What’s a first impression without the ability to make that impression again and again and again? I’d rather strip it down, know that you don’t do this well and you don’t like these kind of people and you often act this way. Because why waste your time and someone else’s time being someone you’re not? Why waste my time convincing me of your best self, only to end up revealing your true self much later on?

If we all did that, we might not make friends so easily. But at least we’d have a much clearer idea of who we were dedicating our time to. Your first impression isn’t important to me, it’s what’s deep beneath your layers that matters most.

 

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photo by: https://www.flickr.com/photos/crysb/

A Rejected Postgrad

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It kind of seems like people have been telling my generation our whole lives that the job market sucks.  It has been a topic of conversation ever since we were in middle school and didn’t even have ability to stare 5 years into our future and think about what we wanted to major in when we got to college.

When forced to start thinking about it as we emerged into our teen years, we all threw out some ideas that seemed like good careers that would make us happy. We wanted to be teachers, nurses, artists, and psychologists. We wanted to teach people, help people, create, and cause change.

But teachers don’t make money – we were told.  Everyone wants to be a nurse, it’s too competitive – we were told. An artist isn’t a career – we were told.  You aren’t going to go anywhere with that unless you want to be in school for the rest of your life – we were told.

I always wanted to do something with English and creative writing, I even listed it as my major when I made my first scary steps into college. But questions flooded me – what are you going to do with that? Do you think you’ll make any money? You consider that a career?

I guess it wasn’t practical, to do what I wanted to do. So I chose to major in advertising, a field that is always growing.  I chose to minor in journalism, because I did like to write.  I chose to concentrate in new media, because it was artistic and taught me about the new world of media and social media.

Yet here I am, starting my search for a career and consistently coming up empty. For every 40 jobs I apply to, I will maybe hear back from 3.  And maybe get an interview from one of them. I spend my days on online job boards clicking apply, submitting my resume, refilling out information that is already on my resume, then confirming that I am a white female that is not disabled and is not a protected veteran. Over and over and over again.

These online job boards send you “no-reply” emails, so you have no chance of ever contacting the person you want to work for. You’re lucky if someone even sends you an email to deny you, they’ll most likely ignore you.

I was fortunate enough to land a great internship for the summer.  I have experience, but entry level jobs now apparently require at least 3 years experience.  And any entry level job that doesn’t, will probably have you sitting at a desk making pesky phone calls or going door to door for sales.

So thanks for warning me about the failing job market, I guess I just thought it would get better or changing my career path would help me out. For now, I’ll be receiving dozens of confirmation emails and waiting around until someone decides to make me an accepted postgrad, instead of a rejected one.

Hookup Culture Promotional Video

If you haven’t checked out the Hookup Culture Facebook, you should!  It features interviews with real students at Rowan University, talking about their relationships and feelings.  This promotional video features a number of voice clips from the interviews and explains what Hookup Culture is really all about.  While you’re at it, like our Facebook page and follow us on Twitter – but please enjoy the video first 🙂