You’re going on a job interview, a first date, or meeting the parents. And you’re supposed to make a good first impression. Because first impressions are important – that’s what they say.
But I don’t think first impressions are important at all, because I mostly see them as a nice little white lie. All a first impression is showing me is how you sugar coat yourself, the things you hide and the things you show in order to make me like you.
You wrap yourself up with pretty paper and tidy bow to fool someone into think you’re someone you’re not. That you’re organized, or charitable and nice, or responsible and worthy. Your first impression is just you trying to be someone else.
And what is that worth if you can’t live up to it? If you get the job and aren’t “used to working in fast paced environments”like you said. Or you are three months into a relationship and you end up showing the more prominent part of your personality, which is snobby and a little mean, not nice and helpful like you said. Or you go to your in laws for Christmas dinner and they found out this is the second job you’ve been fired from and you just can’t keep a job, you’re not as responsible and put together as you said you were.
What’s a first impression without the ability to make that impression again and again and again? I’d rather strip it down, know that you don’t do this well and you don’t like these kind of people and you often act this way. Because why waste your time and someone else’s time being someone you’re not? Why waste my time convincing me of your best self, only to end up revealing your true self much later on?
If we all did that, we might not make friends so easily. But at least we’d have a much clearer idea of who we were dedicating our time to. Your first impression isn’t important to me, it’s what’s deep beneath your layers that matters most.
Rosie Culture 
Well of course you are right here but then again none of us can help judging people, situations,… by the impression we get…and the first is…well, the first 😀
Of course the image you get will always change but I don’t think that trying to make a good first impression (and the things we don’t do consciously are the most important ones here) is not the same as pretending to be someone you’re not…
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I think most people’s version of trying to make a good first impression is really them hiding themselves. I just wish we all really thought about how we present ourselves and if we are really being true to ourselves. There are a few people who make a good first impression while being their self, but I don’t think that’s a majority. Which is understandable because of all the judgment which comes with it, but I’m glad when people get a realistic impression of me early on and decide if they like me or not based off of that
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I think for me the first impressions that have mattered have been the ones that surprised me. It wasn’t the standard first dates or initial handshakes with acquaintances, but rather the NON-standard ways in which I’ve met my friends or the ease of moving into real conversation on dates with guys I actually ended up being in relationships with. I know most people shy away from weirdness or too loud voices upon first interaction; I just happen to gravitate towards it instead.
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I absolutely gravitate to weirdness as well, so when people put up their “normal” front for a first impression I always find it really off putting. The non standard ways of meeting are always the best, something candid and nonchalant like a party or gathering of friends, but when it’s a first time meeting, handshake kind of thing I think we all tend to hide our true selves.
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I’ve always thought this too. I think so many people think they can slide by on a slick first appearance, but honestly, most of the time, I’ve given off a terrible first impression with the people I’ve become the best friends with. And I’ve had really low opinions of others that ended up being some of my closest friends. Good call on this one. 🙂
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Thank you 🙂 I don’t think I give off the best first impression but I’m not a very social and peppy person so there’s no use in pretending I am haha maybe it’s the second impression that really matters most!
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I totally agree with you. I am totally not a social or upbeat person, and with my resting bitter face, most people just think I’m a grump (which I am most of the time), but really I am a pretty good friend if you make it to the second or third impression.
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I am the exact same way 🙂
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I look snobby, stand offish…its really hard for me to make friends. People like me after a lil getting to know me. As far as first impressions are concerned I totally suck
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Me too, but I just try to present myself as honestly as possible and who ever sticks is a real friend 🙂
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I am me, and most times I don’t bother with people’s first impression about me. It’s better to be yourself than someone else.
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Exactly 🙂 That’s a great way to live!
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Truth being spoken right here. Read up.
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you hit they nail on the head right here. Great article.
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Thank you!! And thanks for the reblog 🙂
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No worries at all.
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This was so refreshing, first impressions aren’t important! When I first met my now boyfriend, I thought he was a bit grumpy and not very nice.. he was just having a bad day and we’re still together four years later haha! x
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Thank you 🙂 Haha another good point is you always have to think maybe they’re just having a bad day! First impressions definitely don’t tell you much about someone’s personality
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First impressions are important but they’re not everything. You have to look beyond the surface and that takes time. But we do have to trust our intuition.
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I agree 🙂
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I loved reading this! Actually, I was just talking about this topic with my friend the other day. On campus, as college students sometimes we don’t place a lot of emphasis on how we dress.. I am guilty of wearing nikes shorts and a t shirt sometimes or just throwing over an oversized sweater & that is my attire for the day. They say that you could meet a future employer or important figure on campus and first impressions should be considered, but in this case I would definitely agree with you. It is not everything. Thanks for a great, interesting, thought-provoking post!
xo, Lynna
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Thank you 🙂 I’ve heard the phrase “Dress as if you’re going to run into your ex” but it’s just unrealistic and people expect way too much from a first impression, it definitely isn’t everything.
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I took advice from a friend a long time back: be a neutral person. Never make a good first impression. Make sure it isn’t bad and don’t lie, just be as neutral as possible. Little glimpses of who you really are will show that you are still deep and interesting, but nobody can form a solid opinion on you before they get to know you that way.
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That is great advice! It definitely keeps them making a quick judgment that you won’t be able to live up to
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Great post! xx
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thank you 🙂
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First Impression is important…I agree but as they say ‘basic nature’ is difficult to cover how much one tries. there is something called gut feeling…you will know how much to believe. 🙂
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Very true! It is basic nature to try and be likeable, but you should be as much as yourself as possible
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Even I prefer that…and if there’s time, trust me people will accept us the way we are…one day.
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Hopefully one day 🙂 acceptance seems to be a slow process
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true but this is the price one pays to be original…and it’s fine…cause you are happy atleast with yourself. 🙂
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