Stop Being Mad At Yourself

I haven’t been able to get myself to the gym more than once a week lately and I always feel guilty about it. But there are times when you want to go to the gym and you’re too lazy and then there are times you just don’t want to go. And I just don’t feel up to going.

And some days I eat a lot more than I should or eat things that really aren’t good for me. And I feel bad about myself even though I was just listening to what my body wants.

I just want to stop being mad at myself about these things.

Being mad at yourself isn’t going to change anything, it’s just going to motivate you less. It will just lower your self-esteem until you can’t even get out of bed or until you’re loading your plate with junk food.

Didn’t meditate today? It’s okay. Didn’t go to the gym today, yesterday, or the day before that? It’s okay. Ate a whole pizza today? It’s okay. Slept in and had an unproductive day? It’s okay.

We can’t be mad at ourselves for listening to what our bodies want. If you can’t get yourself to the gym or you keep napping after work  – it’s probably because you need it. But if you’re ignoring your body and going to the gym anyway or ignoring your body’s pleas to get active – that’s not okay.

But just stop being mad at yourself for these tiny things that just aren’t going to make a big impact on your life. There’s no reason to be so hard on yourself.

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Find Your Passion Project

Unfortunately, for most people their job is not their passion. Also unfortunately, that job takes up a lot of their time. Between working and commuting and checking your emails on the weekend, our work ends up becoming our life. And if your work is not your passion, then you need a passion project.

You simply cannot live your life without some kind of passion. It doesn’t have to be a grand romance passion or the passion to climb up crazy high mountains. It can be something small, simple, and satisfactory. Something that takes the mundane out of your Mondays. Something that makes life seem more like just work.

For me, my blog is my passion project. The blogging community is a little escape from the real world. People compliment me and my writing, I get to express myself, it’s a win/win for me. I am also very lucky to have a job I am passionate about.

You can have more than one passion project – the more passion in your life, the better! The more things you’re excited about, the more exciting your life will be.

Some good examples of small and satisfactory passion projects are:

  1. Running/ exercise/ yoga/ etc.
  2. Painting/ writing/ arts and crafts/ etc.
  3. Volunteering at any non profit organization
  4. Church organizations
  5. Sports teams

Any tiny thing that you like, you can turn into a passion project! Do you like animals? Volunteer at an animal shelter. Do you like food? Taking some cooking classes or follow some youtube tutorials and post your meals on Instagram! Do you like football? Join a fantasy league, make watching your games a time of relaxation, fun, and stimulation!

Passion projects are a small puzzle piece to living a happier life – but sometimes we need all the help we can get! Try something out, because honestly what’s the worst that can happen? Eventually you’ll find something you love that makes life just a little sweeter.

If you have a passion project, or two, or three, tell me about it in the comments 🙂

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10 Relatable Things For People On A Diet

  1. You’re sick of hearing it’s a “lifestyle change”

I cannot give up bread for the rest of my life I’m sorry

  1. You only strictly diet when you have to look skinny for something

Maybe if I go to the gym three days in a row I’ll have a six pick for spring break

  1. You can’t give up alcohol

I just…..can’t

  1. Giving into cravings

Eating just a scoop of ice cream can’t be that bad… Maybe I’ll have two scoops…

  1. Counting calories has you questioning everything you learned in math/ science

Wtf is the difference between an ounce and a gram?? How many almonds is it?!?

  1. When people eat unhealthy and delicious food in front of you

Must resist the temptationnnn

  1. When you’re not seeing any results

Maybe I should just go back to eating a snickers every day

  1. Mindlessly eating during your favorite tv shows then remembering you’re on a diet

Oops

  1. Trying to busy yourself so you don’t eat anymore

I reorganized my sock drawer like six times today already but a seventh couldn’t hurt

  1. Actually seeing results

And realizing maybe it is a lifestyle change….

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5 Things That Make Me A Happier Person

As far as we know, the key to happiness has not yet been found. All we can really go off of is what generally makes us happier and betters our lives. I have found that these five things can make a world of difference when trying to improve your mood. These might not seem like the most ground-breaking discoveries, but you’d be surprised how much you neglect very basic necessities to being happy.

1.Downloading new music regularly

I let my playlists grow really old, but recently I realized the power of listening to new music or throw backs you haven’t heard in forever. Updating your playlists once a month will give you something fun to commute to work to or get ready to!

2. Exercise and eating right

I wouldn’t say I’m a huge fan of exercising and eating healthy, I don’t do either too well. But the important part is to give it a shot, do something that will improve your quality of life a little. Don’t ignore the cupcake when you want to eat a cupcake – but also don’t eat a whole tub of ice cream in one sitting.

3. Hanging out with friends and family

It seems obvious, I know. But I think one of the main components to being unhappy is loneliness. So when you feel some sadness sneaking in, make plans with your friends or family to have something to look forward to. If you feel you don’t have a lot of friends or family to go to, then go run errands or to the gym and strike up a conversation with someone. You’re not alone and you don’t need to feel that way.

4. Writing it all down

As a writer, I clearly believe in the strong power of writing. Get a journal, start a note in your phone, create a blog, and just start writing things down. Things that make you sad or happy, things that you want to do with your life. Writing down your goals will especially give you a better chance of accomplishing them. When everything is laid out in front of you, it makes your problems and the solutions to those problems clearer.

5. Picking up new hobbies

I think having a hobby is now a thing of the past. When I was younger, people would ask me my hobbies and I’d be like ???? watching tv??? Going to work and school??? But now I’ve picked up knitting and crocheting (I know, I’m a grandma) and I started reading more again, as well as writing. Whether it be a sport, yoga, playing an instrument, learning to paint, or knit: picking up something new and accomplishing it will give you a sense of direction and give you something to do in your spare time.

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8 Ways To Clean Up Your New Year

1.Go through your social media

Delete people you barely know and people who make a negative impact. I deleted 51 “friends” on Facebook and deleted like 3 picture albums. They were just part of the past that needed to be swept away.

2. Go through your phone.

I compulsively delete pictures and text messages daily. But if you’re not a weirdo like me, take some time to get rid of those texts you reread to make yourself feel bad and those pictures that don’t stir up good memories. And delete any contact in your phone that is unnecessary – I deleted 29 people from my contacts.

3. Go through your music.

Download the songs you’ve been dying to listen to and delete the ones that you constantly skip over. Get rid of the playlists made by exes and bring in the new.

4. Donate your old clothes.

I think I had two trash bags full of old clothes that I hadn’t worn in years. Get rid of the extra clutter and make room for your new gifts. Donate them to someone who needs them.

5. Physically clean something.

Vacuum your room and remove the 15 half empty water bottles from your car. Start fresh.

6. Get rid of the junk food.

Actually stick to your resolutions and clean out your snack cabinet.

7. Try a new work out.

Clean up your gym routine and try something new, no more half assed squats and a brisk walk on the treadmill.

8. Clean up your attitude!

Out with the negative, in the with positive. You had all of 2015 to wallow in the things that weren’t going right in your life. 365 days passed where you didn’t make a change. So do it now, there’s no better time to appreciate what you have and start living life with a different point of view.

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10 Productive Things To Do Alone

I sometimes find my weekends completely empty. No plans, no friends to call, and very little errands to run. During this time off I like to take a couple mental health days. There’s nothing wrong with spending a weekend alone and choosing to not pack that weekend with tons of plans. Here’s a couple of things you can do alone when you find yourself with solitary free time:

1. Take a bath

Set aside a good amount of time to just soak and forget about all your other problems.

2. Go to the library

Sign up for a library card and get started on the reading list you pinned on Pinterest two years ago.

3. Binge watch a series

Escape your own reality with a non stop marathon of Netflix.

4. Go to the gym

Push yourself harder than you usually do and spend some time sweating it out in the sauna.

5. Learn a new skill

I personally learned how to crochet, I’ve made like 6 infinity scarves because that’s all I know how to do – but it’s really easy!

6. Go on a hike

Somewhere safe you can go alone, obviously. The scenery is guaranteed to make your day.

7. Run errands

Get done allllll of the things you’ve been putting off.

8. Clean!

I guarantee there is one spot in your house or one drawer in your room that needs reorganizing.

9. Get your nails done

Or do what you do to pamper yourself.

10. Shop!

Spend a little money and splurge. You’re not spending $16 on two cranberry vodkas at the bar with your friends so go buy yourself a new top or necklace.

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10 Thoughts Every Girl Trying To Be Fit Experiences

1. Why can’t I look like her???

Whether we’re watching television, scrolling through Instagram, or staring at the gym – we’re always trying to look like someone else.

2. I need to eat healthy

*Pins a bunch of recipes on Pinterest that you’ll never cook*

3. When did I even start looking like this??

Like I’m pretty sure I woke up one morning with 10 extra pounds and no ability to run.

4. Does that boy think I’m cute or am I doing this machine wrong?

I’m definitely doing this machine wrong…

5. I don’t want to go to the gym.

Then someone says “yes you do!” to encourage you, but no I really freaking don’t.

6. Don’t eat carbs!!!!!!

*eats all the carbs!!!!!!*

7. I give up.

The scale doesn’t move no matter how much I move.

8. No, I can do this.

I’ll try really hard today so I don’t have to do anything tomorrow.

9. Alright, I’m just never going to look like that.

Unless you’re changing mostly EVERYTHING about your lifestyle, it’s going to be difficult for you to have abs. And you’re probably still going to have stretch marks. And cellulite. It’s life.

10. Whatever, I’m happy.

You SHOULD be thinking this, but you should keep bettering yourself if possible 🙂

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