When Life Makes Hard Decisions For You

When life decided to lay me off, it also did me a favor in making some decisions we’ve been shying away from.

When we moved to New Hampshire, we knew it wasn’t going to be forever. Mostly because my boyfriend’s job is based in New Jersey and in order for him to move up he should really be there and not working remotely as he has been. We took the leap of faith for my career and came to New Hampshire with the intent of moving back to New Jersey in a few years.

It was touch and go for a while as I struggled to adjust to my new job, not wanting to find a different job just to move in a year or so. Getting laid off kind of moved up our timeline and made the decision for us.

It only makes sense to move again and I’m pretty crushed about it. I can get over the loss of my job, I am relatively new to my field and was thinking of narrowing my focus anyway. But losing our home of the last year and a half is a hard blow, even though I knew it was coming eventually.

Now I have a lot to think about and a lot of plans to put into place as I deal with unemployment and a move in the future. It’s just a lot. Life made the decision for me, but I just didn’t feel ready for it.


15 thoughts on “When Life Makes Hard Decisions For You

  1. That’s too bad ..sometimes not having to make a decision and having it forced on you is easier in the long run
    Hope you find sonething soon and another home you like 🤗

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  2. So difficult when life throws these obstacles in your path but you’re a tough cookie and will figure out which way to go. Do you think you will stay in New Hampshire or does it all depend on getting another job?

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  3. Your boyfriend sounds like a keeper. It’s not often that boys/men are willing to take a step back in their careers or delay advancement for women. The sacrifice is most commonly the other way around. It’s tough, but I would say try to be supportive. Otherwise, he might start to feel guilty for making the move.

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      1. Yup, it’s only fair, but sometimes fairness hurts like hell. Put on a brave face for his sake and try to think of the road ahead and not the life behind. NJ isn’t that far from NH. You can always head back down to visit. ☺️ Are you guys trying to move now are you waiting until the virus lets up?


      2. Fingers crossed for you guys! I get the feeling you’ll find something that puts the other job to shame. Remember that you’re much more qualified now than you were when you last looked for employment. ☺️

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  4. I’m sorry you are going through this. I grew up in Florida during the bubble burst of 2008 and got laid off from several jobs in a short span of time. It can be disheartening, but what helped me was meditating on Matthew 6:28-34. It reminded me that being anxious about daily problems won’t help. Just do the best you can and let God worry about the rest. It will all work out. When stress started to get overwhelming I would take a break from job searching and spend some time bible reading and in prayer. Remember, “Keep on, then, seeking first the Kingdom and his righteousness, and all these other things will be added to you. So never be anxious about the next day, for the next day will have its own anxieties. Each day has enough of its own troubles.” (Matthew 6:33,34)
    I hope things work out for you soon.

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