When break ups happen, I think the person who did the breaking up is often overlooked. The person who got broken up with must be so shattered, must need tons of support – but, no one stops to think about how hard it really is to break up with someone.
It takes a lot of courage to end something that has been so important to you. To cut ties with someone you loved, someone whose family has become your family, someone who knows everything about you. It takes courage to flip your life upside down because even though you’re not happy in the relationship, how do you know you’ll be happy outside the relationship?
And while it’s hard to get broken up with, it’s so hard to smash the heart of someone you care so deeply about. For a lot of people, it’s hard to be selfish and put yourself first and realize that the relationship isn’t making you happy anymore.
A lot of people would rather stay in a bad relationship forever than go through all that. They’d rather just settle than face the confrontation. I can’t blame them, especially if it’s just a fizzled relationship. Where there’s no reason to leave, but there’s also really no reason to stay.
I think it takes courage to end a relationship and start over. I admire the people who take this huge step because I know it could not have been an easy one for them. And I hope that everyone has enough self-awareness to get themselves out of something that’s making them unhappy.
Rosie Culture 
There’s a good way and a bad way to end a relationship. One should have the courage and decency to tell the other person why. Only a coward walks away suddenly without warning or explanation.
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I agree
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I also try to do it in person but my first time ever having to do it, I chickened put when I was going to and did it over the phone later that night 😭
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This is so true! No one ever thinks the person who did the breaking up is hurting.
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definitely hard for both people, no matter what the circumstances are! 💛
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This was beautifully written. I’ve had to end relationships (and have had people end them with me) it isn’t easy…but I do wonder who really wants to be in a relationship with someone who doesn’t want to be in it? Great post! 😊
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Thank you! 🙂
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I suck at breaking up with people. I’ll know exactly when it’s time to let go but just feel stuck and like it’s never the right time. So terrible!
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Honestly me too, luckily I haven’t been put into that position too many times.
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🙃 you lucky duck
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Well, I am the one that was dumped. But I agree on having courage! The courage to walk away and not depend on them anymore! Great post btw!
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Have you ever had to break up with someone you’re not even in a relationship with? That is even more terrible. When I had to mine with my ex I did it in a terrible way because I froze so it all came out at once and it wasn’t the best, but she understood after a couple of months
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I have! I think it’s easier than ending a long relationship, but can be just as painful and pretty confusing and
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A breakup is tough. Breaking up with my college boyfriend after five years was hard. But needed to do it because we were not meant to be. I met my soulmate a year after.
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This is absolutely brilliant, and such a unique viewpoint. I totally agree, to walk away from a relationship is so difficult, and takes so very much courage. I must admit, I have been guilty in the past of staying in a relationship far longer than I should have, simply because I did not have the courage to face the turmoil if I chose to leave. Those who leave definitely need the support and kindness from their friends and family too. Great post.
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It’s definitely something I think most people don’t think about as the people doing the breaking up are always seen as the bad guys – but it’s a hard thing to do! Thanks so much for reading 🙂
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@me right now, staying because it’s easier than leaving.
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Definitely a tough place to be in, I know how hard break ups can be but staying somewhere you’re unhappy ends up being even harder
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I stayed in a relationship for way too long because of the fear of ending it. When I finally did, it was even harder than I imagined. If I had just done it sooner, it would have been a easier than waiting and waiting. Great advice and you’re absolutely right.
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It’s so tough both ways! I understand why some stick it out because starting over is a nightmare
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I was unhappy for most of my 20 year marriage. I finally had enough and ended it. I am proud of myself for the courage that took and the changes in me that have taken place since then. It was very difficult and the dating world is even more difficult.
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Good point…
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good post
I always admire them who have the courage to leave all and move on because its very difficult to move on suddenly after the breakup as the partner will become our big priority.
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It’s so depressing to be in a relationship you wish to end. It’s the conflict between your heart and brain and that’s what tears a person apart. It takes huge courage to forget all the memories and end things!
I liked your views from this post. Keep it up. Keep writing. 😊
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