I’m afraid of a lot of things. I’m afraid of sharks, I’ve devised a plan that if I ever came across one I would just let it eat me. I’m afraid of spiders, they make me actually scream like a little girl. I’m afraid of heights, more specifically I’m afraid of falling and dying.
But the chances of me coming across a shark are pretty rare. And my fear of spiders doesn’t keep me from going outside. I may hate heights, but I love the feeling of my stomach dropping when I fall.
You can’t let fear get in the way of living your life.
I think a lot of us have fears when it comes to relationships. Even when we’re over the past, we’re never really over it. We never forget the heart break or the awful feeling of breaking up with someone. We never forget the lows, we really never even forget the highs. And that makes us fear jumping in with someone new.
Because with every new relationship, there is the sting of an old one. Every teeny tiny similarity will make you shudder. She just got out of a relationship? Remember that one time you were a rebound? He has cheated on a past girlfriend? Remember when you got cheated on?
Every action in a new relationship will cause a reaction. And it’s okay, because these reactions should allow you to protect yourself. It’s okay to be a little afraid. But these reactions should not make you build a wall and retreat. It’s not okay to stop living because you’re afraid.
You shouldn’t deny yourself happiness just because of your past. You are letting old memories destroy your new ones. It’s just not fair to you. That someone who hurt you in your past, someone who clearly didn’t deserve you, is still causing you to be afraid of something new and exciting.
You can’t let fear get in the way of living in any aspect of life. Fear and excitement are two very similar emotions – embrace them, stop running away.