It happens to everyone. You get to this really great place in your life, you’re happy, you’re thriving, and then BOOM you all of a sudden miss your ex.
And I don’t mean just a twinge of sadness – you cannot stop thinking about them. When you’re stuck in traffic, you think about how you miss the adventures you used to go on. When you’re bored at work, you think about how you used to have someone to talk to all day. When you’re trying to fall asleep at night, you’re very aware of the empty space next to you.
You miss your ex so much. You want to text them, maybe plan to meet up. Maybe you’ll kiss. Maybe you’ll get back together and it will be bliss.
But you really don’t miss your ex.
When these thoughts hit you like a freight train, it’s not because you’re having a sudden realization that your relationship should have never ended. It’s really just a soft spot in the life you had begun to enjoy.
You can’t expect everything to be perfect always, we all hit a low every once in a while. When you’re missing your ex, you’re lonely, maybe scared, possible confused, and reaching an unstable point in your life. But this doesn’t mean you need to rekindle a past relationship – it means you need to light a fire in yourself.
You’re backtracking to the familiar because it’s the easiest fix to feel safe again. But this backtracking will only cause more harm than good. You don’t need your ex to get through this rough patch, you can get yourself up and move forward. You’ve done it alone before and you can do it again.
Don’t send the 2 am “I’m thinking about you” text. Don’t make plans to see your ex. You don’t miss them – you miss the happiness and comfort you felt in your relationship. But that happiness and comfort didn’t last forever, hence why the relationship ended. And this low point in your life won’t last forever either. By contacting your ex, you will only drag out the loneliness, fright, and confusion.
You don’t need to focus on your ex, you need to focus on yourself.
Rosie Culture 
Love this! And it’s always the 2am text which catches me out lol
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Hahah alcohol or a late night always makes things complicated 🙂
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if i only have read this earlier haha nice post
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Hahah now you know for next time 🙂
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Wow how crazy. I have been feeling this way since last night. I thought him and his girlfriend broke up, but found out they didn’t. But it doesn’t matter because it’s not really about them! Thank you!
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No problem! I hope it helps, even when you’re over it it’s hard not to care about their new relationship
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This is sooooo true!!! This helps clear it up for me. Thanks!
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Glad it helps!! 🙂
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This is true. You miss the feelings but not the person. 😀
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Exactly 🙂
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Wise words. I can say I have taken this advice in my own life and it works . Always look within for happiness and true security xx
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It’s tough but it does work! 🙂
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I think I have to send this to a friend who was just complaining about how she keeps getting sucked back into hanging out with her ex because she misses all the good parts of the relationship and forgets all the reasons why they broke up. Great post! 🙂
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I can definitely relate to your friend haha hope it helps!
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I can totally relay and I totally agree!! Also, I realized that maybe I not really miss him but I miss the feelings he gave me.. But since it has been my first long and important relationship I connect those feelings to him… But it could be any other guy! 🙂
Despite this yes, the best thing is focusing on ourselves, since when we broke up I changed and grew so much!!
Thank you for sharing this Rosie, another great post😊
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I’m glad you liked it! In times where I miss those feelings, focusing on myself and my happiness is the only thing that helps 🙂
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No, I miss my ex.
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