You Could Have Met Your Future Spouse Before You Even Turned 16

I once read that 82% of people meet their future spouse before they even turn 16.

I tried doing my research on this one to find out where it came from and everything was unconfirmed.  This is basically a made up statistic. Yet, it resonated with me and sticks with me to this day – you may have met the person you’re supposed to marry already, but you have no idea.

I think a majority of people meet their future spouse in college. It seems that in the four years there, everyone is in the same state of mind to settle down before or right after they graduate. So that debunks the statistic right there.

Then there are the people who stay with their high school sweethearts and end up marrying them. It’s not uncommon at all to see people who started holding hands in 8th grade end up kissing each other at the alter 10 years later.

But what about the people who moved back home after college. The ones who dumped their high school sweetheart (or got dumped, like me lol) and the ones who didn’t want to make the commitment while they were living it up in college.

There’s always the chance to meet new people at the gym, or at work, or when you’re out with your friends at the bar. But a lot of people from your high school also moved home after college. They’re all back in the same place and all the single ones are in the same situation as you.

I’ve heard of a lot of relationships blooming after college between two people who knew each other in high school, but were not necessarily friends. I can’t imagine myself ever dating someone I knew before I was 16. First of all, I was a completely different person back then. Like I was pretty weird and friendless. Secondly, I feel like it must be pretty awkward to just pick up where you left off 8 years ago.

But who knows. Maybe most of us do meet who we are going to marry before we’re 16, we just have to keep an open mind.

*This post has been republished since it’s original posting date.

43 thoughts on “You Could Have Met Your Future Spouse Before You Even Turned 16

  1. God, if I met my future spouse before I turned 16 then I’m screwed. Ha. I can’t see myself marrying any of those guys! No way. I have heard that “statistic” too though haha. My friend recently got engaged and she definitely didn’t know this guy when she was 16. Statistics are weird. The internet is weird. Life is weird. Who knows, maybe I WILL end up with one of those guys from high school haha.

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    1. There is no shot I would ever marry anyone I actually knew very well and was friends with before I was 16 so I feel ya lol but this statistic always pops up on social media once in a while and I’m here thinking that guy I passed in the hallway that one time in high school could be my future husband lol


  2. I agree with you, 82% sounds an unbelievably high statistic which, quite frankly should (in my view) be taken with a sack full of salt! I also agree, the person I was at the age of 15, is not who I currently am! Having said that, as with most things in life there are nearly always exceptions that prove the rule. Kevin
    I agree with you, 82% sounds an unbelievably high statistic which, quite frankly should (in my view) be taken with a sack full of salt! I also agree, the person I was at the age of 15, is not who I currently am! Having said that, as with most things in life there are nearly always exceptions that prove the rule. Kevin

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  3. Throughout my life I’ve known SO many people who’ve met their intended at a disco, club or dance hall (older acquaintances), quite incredible actually, or maybe back in the ‘good old days’ absence of internet dating and all that, you had to go and meet people. I must admit I’m not sold on the internet scene………. tooo stressful especially Skype Texting!

    Honey don’t you ever give up hope πŸ™‚ attractive girl like yourself.

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  4. I met my first husband when I was in my 20s! It was because of a college friend. πŸ™‚
    I met someone I almost married from my spiritual org.
    The next one….? I guess we’ll see. πŸ™‚
    I love what you write about keeping an open mind.
    So many blessings to you, & take good care

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  5. I met my husband when I was 12. We later reconnected in high school (we went to different schools). We were 19and 20 when we married. 32 years later and still together but I always thought we were a statistical anomaly not in the 82%. That seems high to me.

    You said you can’t imagine marrying someone you knew before you were 16 because you e changed so much. Odds are the person changed too.

    It’s so fickle. In the end, the heart wants what the heart wants defying logic πŸ˜‚

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  6. Yup, I fall into this group. When I was around 15, my wife’s older sister told me I was going to marry her sister one day (my wife is 6 years younger than me). I said, yeah right. 22 years later it happened. Great post!

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  7. I met the guy I was going to marry at 14. My daughter met my son-in-law at 12. They rode the bus together in Jr. High. He grew up hanging around my house. Of course they didn’t get married until they had dated other people and were in their twenties, so did we, but we knew instantly that we were going to end up together. Even when we were going out with others, never seriously, we were still together constantly. So it’s true for my family, that’s for sure. Fantastic marriages for both of us and I never had to get to know my son-in-law because he was always around the house. πŸ™‚

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  8. Hi RC,
    My wife is currently in Europe visiting family. We met in our late 20’s. A couple of nights ago I had a dream we met as teenagers on vacation in Europe. It was “funny” because I was fully aware it was a dream because (in my dream) I still knew I had never visited Europe until I was in my 20’s (in the Army). I stumbled on this post purely by accident, but I figured I’d follow your blog “just because”…

    By the way, I put the dream down to watching too many rom/coms recently (while missing her). LoL!

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  9. So much of this is timing. A person has to be in the right state of mind or it’s probably going to end badly. For me the timing was right. It was a combination of many things that set my mind straight.

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  10. I didn’t date until third year university and I took a year off before going to uni. I told myself that I must dip my feet into the dating world once I reached that point in my life, so when my time ran out, I started looking around.

    3 months later, I met my then boyfriend who is my now husband of almost 4 years. I met him online. He was in a city 4 hours away at the time attending a different university. It’s unlikely we would have crossed paths unless we happened to be in Toronto at the same time when I was a teenager. I used to go to TO once or twice a year to shop. Super unlikely we would have crossed paths there. We even had 0 mutual friends on FB when we met! Therefore, I’m gonna say that this statistic is busted according to my personal life.

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  11. Gosh, I’ve also seen this statistic and I also believe it’s incredibly misleading. It’s like one of those magazine statistics about beauty: complete bs. Stick to your own path is what I learned to do. Forget about the statistics. I found my own on Tinder after making fun of others who used the app. That statistic is so dated. It still reflects when people would stick to their bubble and marry their next door neighbor.

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  12. Love a good stat but not sure that works. Loads of people do meet their long-term partners either at college, university, or first jobs though. We met at college when we were 17 so that’s one to add to the list .

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  13. I have about a dozen friends whose first spouse was someone they met in college. They have divorced that one and married the second time around someone they dated in high school.

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  14. Haha, most people don’t go to college, so I don’t think most people meet their spouses there. About 30% of Americans have college degrees. It sure seems like a lot more when we have one, but that’s not the case.

    The stats I found said most people meet their spouses through friends, at work, in public spaces or in church.

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  15. I dated, travelled and cast my net wide… then married a man from the next town, whom I’d worked with and had been under my nose for a long time. Funny the way things pan out, hey?

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