No One Owes You Anything

Some people deserve the world and some people just don’t. Some people get what they want easily, some work hard for it, and some don’t get anything at all.

We all know that life isn’t fair. We live it, breathe it, see it, and participate in it. So why do we constantly think we are owed something?

You are an individual person that has the ability to make choices, do your own thing, create your own world. Yet you think you deserve something “just because.” Just because we’re living, we think we are deserving.

Sure, do something good and good karma might come your way. But it’s not really a guarantee. Just because you help someone does not mean they owe you something in return. You should help someone to help them, not because one day they can pay you back for it.

I see a lot of people commenting about how they think they deserve an amazing relationship, the perfect job, a fabulous life. But do you? And why do you? Who is giving you those things and why are they doing it? You get out what you put in.

Or we demand respect. From the moment you meet someone you think they should be putting you on a pedestal and bowing down to you. Respect is earned, just as everything else is.

You don’t deserve a job just because you went to college. I know, I’m sorry, the job market sucks despite what everyone says and we’re all suffering. But you really don’t deserve anything. Nothing is rightfully yours and should just be handed to you.

We feel entitled and that’s just not what life is. You’re given this life and you need to live it without such high expectations. It’s great to help people, it’s great to work hard and fight for something – but that doesn’t mean you’re going to get what you want.

I’m not saying I’m not guilty of it, many times I question why my life isn’t going the way I want. I think I deserve a lot – but really, I don’t. Because the things I think I deserve and don’t have are the things that I’ve been putting half-ass effort into.

Stop doing things and expecting something in return. No one owes you anything.

19 thoughts on “No One Owes You Anything

  1. Yes! You hit the nail on the head! I realized this when I got my degree. I thought jobs would be an easy reach & just because I went to school they would look my way. And that’s not the case at all. you still have to prove yourself. And sometimes you have to take a job that’s less than what you think you deserve.

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  2. As someone with the co-ordination/neurological disability Dyspraxia and ADHD and Aspergers, I’ve had to work hard at every tiny little thing so that a) I can actually concentrate, order my thoughts properly and don’t misread things, get off the bus five stops too early b) Don’t trip over my own feet (not even joking) or crash into things/people c) Don’t metaphorically put my foot in it and say something tactless i.e. too honest and piss people off. When you have to try that hard just to get through the day, you find it utterly bizarre that people automatically expect to get things and then have a strop when they don’t. Which, in a way, makes me wonder why they should deserve it anyway. Not that that even matters, because as you say, life ain’t fair. I’ve had to learn to be incredibly, determined and resilient and ironically THAT has helped me get the chance and to succeed in doing a lot of stuff you’d never expect me to do (when reading an endless list of my symptoms or ‘challenges’ on paper). You really do appreciate things more when they aren’t handed to you on a plate don’t you. ^_^

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      1. Yes, recognising and appreciating that privilege. But I guess it can work both ways, as in if a young person is naturally really good at something then people expect them to follow that path all of the time and tell them they aren’t being grateful enough (for their talent) if they choose to do something else. Maybe being average is the easiest way then! ;0)

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